Ask anyone that knows me and they would all say "Oh yeah he's a pretty relaxed guy, few things get him worked up." but those same people know the few things that do, drive me batshit insane.
Normally this is what I'd call "profile suicide" but I figure "why not?" if I can't vent here, where could I? So here goes... my first and hopefully last rant via blognoonereads.
(pre-text: If you're easily offended, run away. I don't believe in political correctness. Also, understand I am talking about -some- people not all. eg: "women who make duck faces" pertains only to those women, not ALL. I'm not a fan of generalizing.)
1: Women on dating sites
This is totally fine, normally. There is no reason anyone out there should ever be single unless it's by choice. I have used them (plentyoffish actually) and through it had a 4 year relationship that went pretty well considering. However, when in my perusal of pages I see nearly 80% of the females saying the SAME EXACT THINGS it gets the little hamster upstairs going.
"No more cheaters" "No more one nighters" "I need a dependable/honest/nice guy" For starters, maybe you should LOOK for a guy that fits those qualities. I saw one that made me laugh out loud.
Young girl, looking for a "tattoo'd drummer who drives fast cars" then immediately states how she's been hurt and abused and wants a nice guy who will treat her right. Don't get me wrong, not ALL of the aforementioned type's guys will be assholes but really what do you expect? Be realistic; if you want a good guy, find a guy who's good first.
2: "Nice guys don't exist". The amount of times I've heard "if a guy does something nice, it's to get in your pants" is ridiculously high. Some of us do nice things because that's what we DO. If I hold the door, pull out a chair, give UP my chair in a crowded room or my jacket when it's cold it's because that's who I am. I don't expect anything but maybe a smile and perhaps a "thanks". That's it! Honestly! It makes me feel good to know I've helped someone in even such a small way.
I don't believe women are "inferior" or "incapable", I simply was raised to respect them and treat them with that respect. It baffles my mind when I see a girl who went on about "finding a nice guy" then weeks later I see them dating some asshat who treats them like garbage. A month later they call me about how he left or cheated or any such thing and it's like, really?!
I'm nowhere near a perfect guy. I accept my long list of faults and am willing to share them with anyone because I understand where my deficiencies lie and what I can do to improve them. I am not, however, some asshole who is aiming for a "quick score" or arm candy.
That being said, last thing.
3: Guys who cannot find proper ways to express themselves in the presence of a beautiful woman online. I personally am VERY reserved about posting any kind of comment on a picture of a female, let ALONE one of them in less than standard attire. Not because I don't appreciate their beauty but I feel discomfort at being surrounded by obscenely perverted comments and grammatical suicide. "UR HAWT" and "MMMMM MMMM" are just creepy to me, but that's just my take. I understand primal responses might be an ego boost or some such thing for women but can we at least put some effort into it? "I WANT YOU" is really shallow to post on a pic of a girl's cleavage. Nice to know you ONLY want to screw her, who cares about her personality or anything right?
/facepalm
I admit beauty as much as the next guy. If I comment on it, it means I'm REALLLLLY impressed and could not allow the surrounding excrement to deter me. But really, guys, put SOME thought into your responses. I know when I was younger and shared my pictures more a "WOW" was well received since being male, we rarely get responses, but a "you have beautiful eyes" made me grin like an idiot and immediately desire to respond to the person. Fortunately, I've never gotten a "I WANT YOU SO MUCH" from a picture so I can't relate to that but maybe I'm just some weird, old-fashioned Army guy who thinks that a woman's personality can be just as sexy as her body, if not more so...
Normally this is what I'd call "profile suicide" but I figure "why not?" if I can't vent here, where could I? So here goes... my first and hopefully last rant via blognoonereads.
(pre-text: If you're easily offended, run away. I don't believe in political correctness. Also, understand I am talking about -some- people not all. eg: "women who make duck faces" pertains only to those women, not ALL. I'm not a fan of generalizing.)
1: Women on dating sites
This is totally fine, normally. There is no reason anyone out there should ever be single unless it's by choice. I have used them (plentyoffish actually) and through it had a 4 year relationship that went pretty well considering. However, when in my perusal of pages I see nearly 80% of the females saying the SAME EXACT THINGS it gets the little hamster upstairs going.
"No more cheaters" "No more one nighters" "I need a dependable/honest/nice guy" For starters, maybe you should LOOK for a guy that fits those qualities. I saw one that made me laugh out loud.
Young girl, looking for a "tattoo'd drummer who drives fast cars" then immediately states how she's been hurt and abused and wants a nice guy who will treat her right. Don't get me wrong, not ALL of the aforementioned type's guys will be assholes but really what do you expect? Be realistic; if you want a good guy, find a guy who's good first.
2: "Nice guys don't exist". The amount of times I've heard "if a guy does something nice, it's to get in your pants" is ridiculously high. Some of us do nice things because that's what we DO. If I hold the door, pull out a chair, give UP my chair in a crowded room or my jacket when it's cold it's because that's who I am. I don't expect anything but maybe a smile and perhaps a "thanks". That's it! Honestly! It makes me feel good to know I've helped someone in even such a small way.
I don't believe women are "inferior" or "incapable", I simply was raised to respect them and treat them with that respect. It baffles my mind when I see a girl who went on about "finding a nice guy" then weeks later I see them dating some asshat who treats them like garbage. A month later they call me about how he left or cheated or any such thing and it's like, really?!
I'm nowhere near a perfect guy. I accept my long list of faults and am willing to share them with anyone because I understand where my deficiencies lie and what I can do to improve them. I am not, however, some asshole who is aiming for a "quick score" or arm candy.
That being said, last thing.
3: Guys who cannot find proper ways to express themselves in the presence of a beautiful woman online. I personally am VERY reserved about posting any kind of comment on a picture of a female, let ALONE one of them in less than standard attire. Not because I don't appreciate their beauty but I feel discomfort at being surrounded by obscenely perverted comments and grammatical suicide. "UR HAWT" and "MMMMM MMMM" are just creepy to me, but that's just my take. I understand primal responses might be an ego boost or some such thing for women but can we at least put some effort into it? "I WANT YOU" is really shallow to post on a pic of a girl's cleavage. Nice to know you ONLY want to screw her, who cares about her personality or anything right?
/facepalm
I admit beauty as much as the next guy. If I comment on it, it means I'm REALLLLLY impressed and could not allow the surrounding excrement to deter me. But really, guys, put SOME thought into your responses. I know when I was younger and shared my pictures more a "WOW" was well received since being male, we rarely get responses, but a "you have beautiful eyes" made me grin like an idiot and immediately desire to respond to the person. Fortunately, I've never gotten a "I WANT YOU SO MUCH" from a picture so I can't relate to that but maybe I'm just some weird, old-fashioned Army guy who thinks that a woman's personality can be just as sexy as her body, if not more so...