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sorry double post...

[Edited on Apr 14, 2006 8:32AM]

It's better Hodgkins is one of the worste ways to go. The step mother of a friend of my brother died of it. I took classes from her husband. She just kind of got weaker and weaker. By the time she died she couldn't even talk. So non-hodgkins is way better. So at least there's that..

glad things are kind of picking up for you.

saving money is so hard sometimes.

Congates on a wonderful week. I'm sure you'll find something/place to settle on by June. and remember it doesn't have to be forever the it can be the next step in a path. (Makes me worry less about the big decisions.

have a nice weekend! your son is lucky to have such a caring and loving mom. all we can do for our children is be there for them. love them and support them as they grow.

I dug my kayak out at the first sign of nice weather. I know what you mean about the bike and blades. Hopefully that will come next! (It's a little too muddy here for them right now!)
So why OR?
Just curious...
I've always wanted to go to the west coast...especially Seattle.

Gray

no drugs.....help him to learn at his pace...we all process information differently....some fast and some not so fast....be your sons biggest cheerleader....best wishes

I was diagnosed with ADD when i was very young. I had to go to special classes the whole bit. I was frequently labelled a disruptive influence in school- and was put into detention almost every day.
I turned out pretty good though- I graduated academic high, and that was after skipping the majority of my classes. Having ADD doesn't have to be a disability- but people with it don't function like others. I don't think medication is a helpful, society just needs to change the way it thinks people with ADD need to function. ADD people just don't fit into the normal box that society creates.
Maybe if they had your son multitask more it could help. Thats what worked for me. if i had to concentrate on one thing, without music I couldn't concentrate at all.
Now people just know that I'm going to go off in tangents, and my mind will wander- or they'll have to remind me frequently of where i was going- but I've still managed to do Honours university courses, and hold down a senior level managment position.
I consider my ADD a beneficial thing, not a hindrance.
I hope some of this helps. If it didn't- try reading "Delivered from Distraction". Best book on the subject, hands down.
So to make a very long journal comment end- your son will be fine as soon as he realises what he needs to concentrate, and you should be commended for caring so much and being so patient with him.


[Edited on Mar 29, 2006 7:46PM]

things I'm working on?

hmm, lots of them.

as for the counseling I mentioned, as part of my program, I get a volunteer client.

as for other things, check out the last few entries of my journal....especially March 20 for other things I'm working on!

and what are you working on? just curious, that's all!

No need to beat yourself up. We all do crazy things. If I remember correctly from the last few journal entries, you were under a lot of stress ...I can see why you needed to let loose and blow off some steam!
Glad your back and OK.

*smiling*
Gray


[Edited on Mar 31, 2006 12:12AM]

'...I like things to be fun and simple'


haha me too. lifes to weird and complex too often.

oooooh, Pitt is playing Syracuse tonight for the Big East championship. Care to make any wagers?

To shatter or be shattered?
Both can be equally painful. Shattering anything is never good. There are too many pieces to put back together. Usually things that are shattered stay shattered... there just isn't enough glue!

Hope your kiddo is on the road to recovery...
and take care of yourself too, Mom!

Gray

I hope your son is doing better, and things get better in Oswego as well.

cleaning? evil concept. I'm waiting for my gnomes or whatever those things are to move in and take care of it myself. plus I'm too damn busy to clean!

as for a heart being shattered or shattering, it sucks. in all honesty, the "L" word is one of the most dangerous things out there if you ask me. you let someone inside those walls you carefully built up your entire life to protect yourself. for some odd reason, perhaps a look or a word. you give them all this power. and you hope they don't turn around and crush everything you are and ever hope to be in an instant, because they are through your walls and barriers.

okay, so I've been burned one too many times, and have developed a most cynical outlook on life and relationships and everything. some people find happiness, peace, contentment, and what they always wanted in a relationship. I consider them lucky bastards. for the rest of us, I guess its one day at a time, one moment in life, to see what the next will bring.

as for your dreams and putting yourself out there, you never know until you try. and why would someone ever give up on their dreams, hopes, and aspirations? you ask me, that is when things stop for that person. when they stop dreaming. and hoping. and taking that chance, walking that line, stepping out into the unknown, and see what will happen next!

sorry if things seem discombobulated, I'm currently getting my butt kicked by a paper that shouldn't be this hard!

Glad to hear things are working out.

[Edited on Feb 22, 2006 1:19PM]

been reading about your friend on the Internet. I do hope he is found not guilty of any wrong doings.

interesting to me is that the three students were members of the Zeta Beta Tau Fraternity. ZBT was a fraternity at my alum school, Alfred University. one of their pledges a few years back disappeared, until his body was found in a river that runs through the town. his body was bruised, evidentally, he told some "fraternity secrets" while drunk at a party, and some brothers beat him for that. however, the fraternity was not found at all responsible and no foul play was indicated in the student's death.

this did lead to an investigation of the Greek system at Alfred University, though, with the result being the dissolution of the Greek system and banning of all fraternities and sororities.

to top it all off, the brothers were sitting on their porch drinking beers when the body was found.

more reasons why I hate fraternities!

I do hope everything is working out for the right. and that you do find some time to relax!

I'm sorry to hear about your friend/co-worker. Hopefully truth will prevail and they will see that he was only trying to defend himself.

Congratulations on your "new job" *hehehe* I can see why your mom wouldn't be too happy, however by combining the 2...*ahem*..."professions" you save time and money! Great way to multi-task! *laughing*

Gray

Yup you did great. Theres always waiting tables if you want to deal with that shit. I put up with a lot of crap, and as long as you can pay me enough for the meds when I get a stomach condition or the therapy so I don't shoot you all. Then hey. If you can't do it, then it's not worth it. There's always another job, that's less of strain on my health, and yours.

I've got to say in the six months I worked in the food service industry I only ever hurt any one while working once.

You did good, things will get better and good for you on knowing what you do and do not want to live with.

Hey Unsub, I came across your journal from Gray's, but as far as the job situation goes, go with your gut. The money is not worth the lack of respect... You're doin' the right thing!!!
Cyamus