OKCupid, someone started a message conversation with me. kind of interesting, we have a lot in common, it looked quite promising.

yeah, pretty sure she ghosted me. the last thing was her telling me what she does and I replied. so far, nothing.

2 for 2 on being ghosted.

really...is there any good way to find a date for a 40-some old guy who doesn't...
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Wow...so Tinder and OK Cupid seem to be a bust for me. Friends and family don't know anyone to fix me up with. So what's left for a single guy in his 40's for finding a date, since nothing seems to work out for me.

Anyone have any suggestions?

well, rejected by another girl on OKCupid...she told me (before even meeting me) she's not interested.

no hits for Tinder, rejected twice on OKCupid...and Match.com seems to be a bust.

Any ideas where a 40-some year old guy can actually find a date, besides looking overseas?

thanks!

Someone I'm friends with on Facebook (and do know in real life) posted about how she's bummed out because she's single and relationships don't last long with her. She's not a bad person but kind of bummed, since everyone always says "There's someone out there for everyone" and "You'll find someone" (etc.)

And got me thinking about all those myths out there people say to...
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So OKCupid seems to be a dud for me....as well as Match.com.

Time to try Tinder.

Wish me luck.

ever wonder if this site would do great to have its own dating app? Just curious, as a single guy who got ghosted by the last person he talked to for a possible relationship.

got a feeling I'm going to get ghosted soon....after meeting once.

yesterday (my last day for a paid OKCupid membership) I messaged a woman who liked me. we have a 93% match, things seem good. not necessarily the "ideal" for what I like physically, but definitely some things that made me interested (such as her liking NCIS, Big Bang Theory, and iZombie).

We're now having a conversation about TV shows we like to watch and comic...
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One girl on OKCupid we have a 98% match.....so sent a message.

now time to see if she responds or not. wish me luck!

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hellstorm:
oh how I wish there was a dating app or something here on SG.....how much easier life would be!
hellstorm:
how long do I wait and hear nothing before I move on to someone else or just give up?  anyone?

So, this one profile on OKCupid has a 96% match with me...we have over 300 questions answered in common.

Place your bets now if I get a response if I message her.

arroezze:
Maybe you could just message her because you have common interests instead of making it a contest. Just a thought.
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nothing like seeing the picture of the girl you've liked for years but she kept talking about how she doesn't want a relationship right now with anyone post a picture with her new boyfriend and talk about how happy she with him on Facebook is to brighten your day.

so how did your day start?

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when you're my age and not one for the bars....finding a date really sucks.

so far, I've had about 1 month (out of 3) of a paid membership to OKCupid. One girl said she likes comic books (I read comic books) and we had a match of 90% or higher. sent her a message, asking her what she likes. nothing.

another girl talked about being...
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gadget:
I think okc sucks for getting messages to people. I would often get messages saying someone was interested, meaning they had liked my profile and sent a message - but so often when I'd go to 'double take' to try to find this person - and oftentimes I can't. No matter how many people I swipe through. I don't think you should be discouraged, but I don't think you really need to pay either. You might reach a point where you want to pay because you finally find a profile that really sets your heart on fire... The simple answer is, I wouldn't pay for it, but I'd keep at it. You're certainly not the only one who can't get a date.
hellstorm:
Gadget, going point.  for me, it just gets discouraging sometimes.  then again, I seem to hear a lot of "You're such a great guy....I'm glad we're friends" but that's about it....yes, I live in the perpetual friendzone (that and my last relationship ended with a "You taught me I'm worthy of respect and relationships can be a good thing...now I want to see what else is out there."