thunderbolts

I hope you and your dog have a great one - enjoy the quiet day!!!

Happy Christmas to you - you thundering hunk of maleness!!

maybe it's how you are expressing your sexuality more than the simple fact of expressing it.

Speaking for myself, when a man ages he is more attractive if his sexuality is sophisticated and multi-dimensional (ie, includes personality, artistic expression like you mentioned, etc) rather than juvenile/in-your-face.

Just my thoughts. Your mileage may vary.

I know what you mean, but like you I (so far) experience it more as a sense of the general vibe than as a complaint directed at me. It's still unnerving. Odd to have such a disconnect between inner and outer realities. I'm deliberately redirecting energy to more creative pursuits too, but around sex my current tactics of choice are different than what you're describing.

If anything, I'm more overtly sexual these days, but I'm also making much more effort to let people know what I've learned over time. The experience that comes with age isn't much use unless it's communicated. Can't hurt to communicate (for example) that we've discovered:

- the value of letting intimate connections find their own pace; their own process & outcome; enjoying the ride wherever it goes.

- that it's worth asking for what you want, especially when it's scary to ask.

- that habits of honesty and respect come more easily with decades of practice

- that control and power aren't much fun without surrender & helplessness, and all of 'em are worth getting used to.

- that imaginative lechery and true perversion ripen with age

Even if it all gets read as creepy by some folks, maybe if we're loud and persistent long enough we'll raise the bar overall for what people around us will settle for in sex & relationships. Changing up the amount of time you're throwing into different interests sounds like change that'll make you happy. I don't know you well, but being too concerned about how a few folks misunderstand you doesn't sound like you; doesn't sound happy-making at all.

(edited to qualify some generalizations & to mention that I'm also enjoying a mostly solo Christmas; taking long walks through snowy streets I don't often get to see.)

Hope your new year rocks.

[Edited on Dec 26, 2005 4:19PM]

i see you're still awake... is life getting in the way or do you have a bad case of insomnia like me?

*dramatic sigh* oh a kindred spirit

SHIT!

Put 'em back, I say!!!! Or else..........

Wow! How come it's so bloody??

Still thinking about what new tattoo I want - and more importantly - WHERE?? Any thoughts on the locations for tattoo's??

Damn you ..... I still have them parts left to do with you

Fuck man. The last time I smoked weed, I invented "beer-a-cola".

Then I had a severe asthma attack and never touched the stuff again.

I think you win.

i'm pretty sure the religion to which you refer has already been invented. It's called Buddhism.

and hey, you really should get naked, take pics, and put them on the web for the world to see.

You get several gold stars for even recalling who I am with my 40 different name changes a year! Impressive!

That's an interesting comment. I appreciate it. Give us an example to discuss.

You are my public defender! HA! I noticed that too. Maybe b/c it was the shortest fact? Oh that supporting comment had me laughing quite hard. You rock!

Ahh, tell me about it. One of my friends refers to this shit as "safe punk" which I think is a great term! Now that is quite a compliment coming from you at your age, I appreciate that (I love age, fear not. My last ex was/is 37.) How's this for a laugh, my beloved baby sister is nearly 10 years younger than me. She got herself into punk as well, perhaps from some of my influence but boy does she listen to a lot of this modern crappy safe stuff. Anyway the little cutie still wears designer clothes (Dude like Ralph Lauren) and she was so proud to show me tattoos she got---woof, one was a fairy on the small of her back. I hissed "Come on, if you're gonna go for it, GO FOR IT WOMAN!!" Eh, she is my superstar, though.

I inspected your pictures (I always forget people have picture folders, including myself) and meow, your body is incredible, God bless! I envy those who can devote such passion to their bodies. I'm like "Can you please put more whipped cream on my sundae, thanks."

like the update!

great pics!

Are you ever coming back???