I'm not one who would usually air the family "dirty laundry", but I'm in need of support and good thoughts right now...
I've been dealing with a situation here at home with my spouse. She has become infatuated with Sam Heughn, the actor who plays Jamie Fraser on Outlander. She keeps getting messages on different platforms (Google Chat, Twitter, etc.) from people purporting to be "Sam".
The first "incident" was last fall. "Sam" asked her to invest in his "investment". She talked to me about it and I said I didn't think it was legit. My intuition was correct. As soon as she tried to withdraw her funds, they wouldn't go through, or she was told the method she selected wasn't active. In the end, a fake and fraud.
Fast forward to April. Another "Sam" is offering her a personal meet and greet anywhere in the world. He would send his private jet for us (though I made it clear I wasn't going to be part of this). Again, for me, this set off red flags. First was the private jet. Commercial flight is fine because everything is verifiable with the carrier. A private jet, as soon as they close the door, you are at the mercy of whoever is flying and the likelihood is that you won't end up where they say you are going. Then, of course, is the money. She had to put so much in to start the process, and more to keep it going. Shamefully I have to admit she sent more than she told me. And no, I didn't agree to sending the money. Then it became a LOCAL meet and greet where he would come to a hotel of her choosing and come in for the day to meet at the bar to confirm his identify. It came to a head two weeks ago (the Sunday before Mother's Day), this caused a blow up not only between her and I, but with our Daughter as well (who sided with me). This meet and greet was going to be over Mother's Day weekend. I got her two best friends involved as well as her sisters. After 3 or 4 days of pestering, she finally relented, though the damage was done financially and emotionally.
Over the past 10 days since, things were looking up. But fast forward to last night. She tells me she's had another offer of a meet and greet from yet a different "Sam" because he is going to be in the USA for two weeks next month. I went off. I told her "didn't she learn her lesson" from the last time. Ugh! Same exact argument we had two weeks ago and it is repeating again.
I'm very hurt by all of this and though I have support from my daughter, her sisters and her BFFs, It doesn't make this feel any better. I just don'g get how she can fall for the same scammers over and over, and then make ME out as the bad guy.
Has anyone else dealt with anything like this?
