One could argue that it's way too early on a Sunday morning for this level of introspective thought. Still, when someone as fascinating as @chefbeth presents a blog post that kicks off an interesting thought exercise, you heed the call.
I recently had a discussion with someone that included the following line:
People see what they want to see.
This is a fundamental truth of humanity, you cannot force someone to see things your way if they choose not to let you. Because of this, I force myself to constantly evaluate my opinions. I also routinely challenge the opinions and ideas of others, not because I necessarily disagree with them, but because it helps me (and hopefully them) to verify that all possible perspectives have been considered.
How does this connect to @chefbeth's post? Another fundamental truth of humanity is that we label things. For example, a tomato is classified as a fruit, though wisdom will tell you that it doesn't belong in a fruit salad. Deliberately throwing labels around in a derogatory or insulting manner is simply not cool, and should be sanctioned by all right minded people everywhere, but we can't escape from the fact that when someone looks at us, they will automatically label us.
Take me for example: I'm 6'4" and I'm a big guy. I'm also a tabletop roleplayer, an IT tech and a sci-fi geek. 98% of the people that look at me will automatically think that I'm tall, fat, maybe a little awkward, and generally very stand-offish. Many will use these labels as a justification for not wanting to talk to, or associate with me. I could choose to be offended by this, but you know what? It doesn't matter.
I'm not going to lose any sleep over it, because I don't need to associate with someone who only chooses to look at the surface. That says far more about them than it does about me, and I don't personally want to add to the weight of political correctness by telling them they can't do it.
To bring this full circle, I'm going to say that everyone has a type, something that they personally find attractive. I should stress that I find all women beautiful, but I'm drawn to girls with a bit of padding. It's rare (though not unheard of) that I find athletically built women particularly stunning. I understand that there may well be underlying body image issues surrounding particular labels for them, but I'd feel like I was being deceitful if I didn't acknowledge one of the things that I find particularly attractive about someone. I think it's important to take someone's intention in to the equation before demonizing them for saying something that you find hurtful. Maybe even ask them what they meant by it if you think it's important. If it turns out they're trolling, or being hurtful, then by all means, roast the fuckers!
Lastly, I'd like to beg @chefbeth's forgiveness, I'm genuinely not having a go at you, I'm just offering a somewhat dissenting opinion. Plus I highly doubt I'd fit in one of your ovens, so please no attempting to cook me! :P
