I don't understand what motivates catty behavior in girls (or guys, for that matter). It has always seemed to me that some girls act as if they're out to "get" their "competitors". Whatever that means. It is just a concept I can't seem to grasp (not that I want to).
I don't understand why sex is such a big deal to some people. I mean, my own mind exaggerates other peoples' apparent desires because of how I feel about sex, but lacking a sex drive myself for the most part, I don't get what leads people have fetishes and fantasies and find certain traits to be turn-ons. I know intelligence is a turn-on for me, sort of, but what makes a person so attracted to big butts? That one has always baffled me. I know there are plenty of pleasing things about it, but it seems to me that people who find such things attractive aren't always able to explain why. That's what I don't get.
There are other things people find alluring, and they might say, "it has a certain something I can't explain". Maybe my self-awareness is failing here, but I can't seem to think of too many things that attract me in an inexplicable way like that.
I feel like such an outsider just about everywhere I go. Sure, I have found a few small communities where I feel like I "fit in" a little better, like the OEDILF, but given that the site revolves around limericks, and limericks are infamous for naughty subject matter, there are some pretty pervy people there. It is nice, though; I'm not saying that I hate it there or anything. People care about English usage there and are brought together by the same goal, which I like. Still, I don't feel like I fit in that well there.
(I will admit that I have submitted some naughty limericks, myself, though. But I'm not sure I find them amusing in the same way some of the other OEDILFers do.)
I have a hard time with Internet communities in general. Even with the OEDILF, which is made up mostly of people who are older than me and which doesn't get into popularity contests the way SG does, I haven't really been able to make friends there (I'm working on it, though).
But SG just freaks me out. The popularity contests and "appreciation threads" and kissing up tick me right off. The current events debates scare me. The "celeb" news scares me. The celebrity worship group really scares me.
Ugh. It's starting to upset me, even.
I don't know if I'll ever find a place where I truly feel at home. I guess at a big site like this I should try to make my own space (sounds like MySpace, ick).
I just have such a hard time with other people, and I wish I could get away and be alone, or find a specialized community that I find more comfortable.
edit OK i'm getting REALLY upset right now. i need to get a prescription refilled at the 24 hour cvs but i don't know their phone number and the cvs site isn't loading for me. it will not load. i have about a billion prescription bags from a bunch of different cvss and i can't remember which one is the cvs that isn't awful. i hate this. i am getting really upset.
I don't understand why sex is such a big deal to some people. I mean, my own mind exaggerates other peoples' apparent desires because of how I feel about sex, but lacking a sex drive myself for the most part, I don't get what leads people have fetishes and fantasies and find certain traits to be turn-ons. I know intelligence is a turn-on for me, sort of, but what makes a person so attracted to big butts? That one has always baffled me. I know there are plenty of pleasing things about it, but it seems to me that people who find such things attractive aren't always able to explain why. That's what I don't get.
There are other things people find alluring, and they might say, "it has a certain something I can't explain". Maybe my self-awareness is failing here, but I can't seem to think of too many things that attract me in an inexplicable way like that.
I feel like such an outsider just about everywhere I go. Sure, I have found a few small communities where I feel like I "fit in" a little better, like the OEDILF, but given that the site revolves around limericks, and limericks are infamous for naughty subject matter, there are some pretty pervy people there. It is nice, though; I'm not saying that I hate it there or anything. People care about English usage there and are brought together by the same goal, which I like. Still, I don't feel like I fit in that well there.
(I will admit that I have submitted some naughty limericks, myself, though. But I'm not sure I find them amusing in the same way some of the other OEDILFers do.)
I have a hard time with Internet communities in general. Even with the OEDILF, which is made up mostly of people who are older than me and which doesn't get into popularity contests the way SG does, I haven't really been able to make friends there (I'm working on it, though).
But SG just freaks me out. The popularity contests and "appreciation threads" and kissing up tick me right off. The current events debates scare me. The "celeb" news scares me. The celebrity worship group really scares me.
Ugh. It's starting to upset me, even.
I don't know if I'll ever find a place where I truly feel at home. I guess at a big site like this I should try to make my own space (sounds like MySpace, ick).
I just have such a hard time with other people, and I wish I could get away and be alone, or find a specialized community that I find more comfortable.
edit OK i'm getting REALLY upset right now. i need to get a prescription refilled at the 24 hour cvs but i don't know their phone number and the cvs site isn't loading for me. it will not load. i have about a billion prescription bags from a bunch of different cvss and i can't remember which one is the cvs that isn't awful. i hate this. i am getting really upset.
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Hope the CVS site worked for you eventually. I just used it, and hmmmmm the closest one to me is in Reno Nevada? Guess I'm going to stick with Rite Aid and Walgreen's.
Best luck to ya.
Your non-understanding of what drives people to strangeness about their sexuality is, perhaps, not too unusual. After all, there are whole university departments dedicated to the study of human sexuality. It's not a failing to not "get" something you yourself are not immersed in. It's really no different than understanding the depths of peoples' interest and dedication to, say, Harry Potter fanfiction, video games, sports or church activities. Unless you are involved in those communities to begin with, you're an outsider.
Think about it: do you really understand why so many people (mostly guys) huddle around a screen watching groups of men try to move a pigskin 10 yards at a time? Why they can tell you stats about the quarterback's history of completing a pass when playing against Team X on grass at Saturday afternoons when the wind is blowing out of the NNE at 5 mph? You probably think they're weird. Do you think they understand why you play video games, know more about Link than most people and make Link mosaics out of post-its on your wall? They probably think you're weird. It's just a matter of what interests each of us.
You've mentioned a few times now about feeling a bit detatched from Internet communities, SG included. I wonder if you haven't just considered the fact that it's only the medium that's changed, not human nature. Internet communities are merely reflective of the broader society at large, with the ability for people all around the world to congregate to talk about their favourite and obscure interests. If you're an introvert, like us, these congregations don't make sense most of the time. 'Why would you possibly gather to talk about that?' we wonder. Well, people just do. And the Internet reflects that. Just like we wouldn't join a knitting circle, or other social club that exists in meatspace, we similarly don't get people who congregate online to do the same thing.
SG, being so large, is merely a microcosm of the larger Internet, if initially predicated around alt-goth-punk pin-up girls. You get all sorts here. Not to sound too much like a therapist, but why dwell on the things that you don't understand? The cattiness, the girl worshipping, the groups that you have no interest in joining? You have friends here, you have groups you follow and are interested in those -- why not just enjoy those?
In other words, why get upset about the things you have absolutely no control over? They're always going to be there and you're just going to make yourself miserable thinking about all the 'I-don't-get-this' things that, believe me, exist offline as they do on here.
Just my 2 cents.
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