I don't know where to start on this story. I could start from the beginning, but that would bore you. So I will start in the middle where I was the hero in the relationship down to where the breakup happens. This is my story and I decided to share it.
Lets start at June 17th. My ex birthday is June 21st. I had asked her what she wanted to do for her birthday. She said "I don't know because everyone flakes" I had always told her always plan a party for yourself and whoever comes to your party will come. Do not plan your birthday around other peoples schedules. I had suggested that we go to Disneyland Friday and Saturday then we will go to Las Vegas for EDC. She wanted her daughter to go to Disneyland too which is understandable. This will be my first time meeting her daughter so I was super excited.
The Planning: I had booked hotels, tickets and the rental car for this trip. Keep in mind this was her birthday so I did not allow her to pay for anything. For the Disneyland hotel I had called the hotel to make the room special roses on the bed, custom hats, champagne. Safe to say I spent a lot to impress her.
Change of plan: My ex had hope that her brother would be at home in southern Cali to look after her daughter for Sunday when we head to EDC. That plan did not fall through. So I asked her "What do you want to do?" the options are: We go to Disneyland and not go to EDC. This way we can spend time with her daughter and forget about EDC (For the people that doesn't know what EDC is. EDC is an EDM music festival in Vegas thats a 3 day event.) What would you girls do in this situation? If you have a daughter would you take her to Disneyland and skip EDC or would you rather skip Disneyland and just do EDC for not take your daughter.
Decision: She decided to not take her daughter to Disneyland, She was depressed and decided not to go to Disneyland all together. Lets just say I did not get my refund back because I had to cancel 4 days in advance.
New plan: My ex decided that she would like to go to EDC all 3 days, and go to Vegas for 4 days. Now I had to book the hotel room for Vegas and find 3 day EDC tickets. Lets just say this definitely made me angry, but I was in love I would have done anything to make her smile.
The adventure: So June 19th comes by and now I am driving all the way to Las Vegas. This was a 9 hour trip and I drove all the way. If anyone knows me I hate driving long distance, but hell I was in love I didn't mind it.
Vegas: Finally made it to Vegas and now I am running errands with her all around Vegas so she can get "EDC ready" I was pretty much sober most of the time because I had to drive around. I mean come on I'm in Vegas and I'm sober there is something wrong with this picture, but oh well I wanted her to be happy.
EDC: EDC day 1 to day 2 went very well. She was super happy and excited, I was on cloud 9 best BF/guy she is dating EVER, but in the back of my I wanted to rage. This is going to be the last EDC day so I wanted to rage.
EDC day 3: So I decided to drop 2 pills that were really strong. My body was able to handle the pills, but facial expression did not show that I was able to handle it. This is June 21st on her birthday. She took care of me on June 21st her birthday. She missed 4 of her favorite DJ on the last day. She had said how disappointed she was, How angry she was, How she had to baby sit me on her birthday, how I made her miss her favorite DJ.
The breakup: 3 days after the EDC event. She had text me she wanted to talk. Now that never comes with good news. Once I gave her a call this is her words exactly "Please don't be mad, but I don't have feelings for you anymore" As any guy I said "ok" I'm not going to beg for her back. Hell she would not even went to EDC if it wasn't for me.
I spent the first 2 weeks crying my eyes out. Looking at pictures. Asking my friends if I'm a bad person. My breakup was bad because the breakup made me second guess myself. I felt like I was the one at fault the whole time, but as time passes by and I think about all the things I have done versus what she has done for me it is night and day. I'm not a bad guy. I can't let her change who I am, but I have learned one important lesson. Do not put all of your eggs in one basket. BTW I only dated her for 3 months and I went all out.
So anyone reading my post. Am I really a bad guy or am I at fault? Would you have forgiven me?