Why is it so hard to ask for what you want? 
darksphere:
What is it that you want?
fellonearth:
Because of fear. Fear of rejection, fear of success, fear of one's unworthiness to get what they want... Empower yourself and ask, no DEMAND that you get what you want... That is unless, of course, you don't really need it. But if you need it, then go for it and don't take no for an answer. If you can't get exactly what you need, try something different for a while and then maybe your needs will change.
To be honest, I could also use a little of my own advice, but after reading it, it sounds really corny, like something an out of touch motivational speaker would say to a bunch of disaffected teens. Well, what does one say to disaffected adults who are too cynical to fall for that type of B.S.??? I have trouble getting what I want too... Undoubtedly, my life would be in a much better place if I could effectively assert myself. Perhaps it's easier to hope for the best for others, cheering them along and rooting for them throughout life. Maybe the type of support you give will one day be received in return. Who knows for sure, but it doesn't hurt to have friends who believe in you but can still be honest enough to let you know when you are "tilting at windmills"... The hardest part is learning to accept those things that you cannot change, it can be like facing a wall between you and your dreams. On the other hand, such barriers may be self-imposed, merely serving to deceive and cause doubt. Often, I wish that I knew the magic words to dissolve such doubts to be replaced with the type of foolhardy confidence that would allow me to believe anything is possible, to realize my dreams if only I dared to reach...
To be honest, I could also use a little of my own advice, but after reading it, it sounds really corny, like something an out of touch motivational speaker would say to a bunch of disaffected teens. Well, what does one say to disaffected adults who are too cynical to fall for that type of B.S.??? I have trouble getting what I want too... Undoubtedly, my life would be in a much better place if I could effectively assert myself. Perhaps it's easier to hope for the best for others, cheering them along and rooting for them throughout life. Maybe the type of support you give will one day be received in return. Who knows for sure, but it doesn't hurt to have friends who believe in you but can still be honest enough to let you know when you are "tilting at windmills"... The hardest part is learning to accept those things that you cannot change, it can be like facing a wall between you and your dreams. On the other hand, such barriers may be self-imposed, merely serving to deceive and cause doubt. Often, I wish that I knew the magic words to dissolve such doubts to be replaced with the type of foolhardy confidence that would allow me to believe anything is possible, to realize my dreams if only I dared to reach...