Looks like this is becoming my rant page.
This week's "Sirius Issue": the BDSM group. How many hoops do you need to jump through to get in to it? I understand the desire for them... but realy. 6 months, send and email to a different account, pleading "oh, please let me in mistress!!!", and then click to join. Oh yeah, you have to be participating on other boards. How often? Well... enough. If you have to ask, it's not enough.
Listen. These posts aren't being read by many so I'm just shouting in the dark... but don't you think this is BS? Here, our community is small, struggling for acceptance, and difficult enough to enter. Now we are imposing all of these extra hurdles? Why? Because we don't want some "undesireables" there? Next it will be "no one that doesn't like ropes", then "no suspension" then "no monogomy"... I have an idea... let's exlcude everyone not like me!
I thought we had enough exclusion already. I thought we had enough bigotry. I thought each and every one of us on this site was sick of being judged by others... yet here we are... once again having to conform to one persons views of what is right.
I appreciate what they are trying to do... but I'm not jumping through other peoples hoops to prove myself worthy. I've had enough of that already. Haven't you?
Sirius
This week's "Sirius Issue": the BDSM group. How many hoops do you need to jump through to get in to it? I understand the desire for them... but realy. 6 months, send and email to a different account, pleading "oh, please let me in mistress!!!", and then click to join. Oh yeah, you have to be participating on other boards. How often? Well... enough. If you have to ask, it's not enough.
Listen. These posts aren't being read by many so I'm just shouting in the dark... but don't you think this is BS? Here, our community is small, struggling for acceptance, and difficult enough to enter. Now we are imposing all of these extra hurdles? Why? Because we don't want some "undesireables" there? Next it will be "no one that doesn't like ropes", then "no suspension" then "no monogomy"... I have an idea... let's exlcude everyone not like me!
I thought we had enough exclusion already. I thought we had enough bigotry. I thought each and every one of us on this site was sick of being judged by others... yet here we are... once again having to conform to one persons views of what is right.
I appreciate what they are trying to do... but I'm not jumping through other peoples hoops to prove myself worthy. I've had enough of that already. Haven't you?
Sirius
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1. I am not against. I am fiercely private. Even having a journal goes against my grain. I respect that.
2. This is the one that bothers me. You ask me to come again, on bended knee and be judged by you. I have an issue with that. I don't care what the criteria is, to be judged by others is to submit to their value system. I don't. It's the way I am to define my own value and value those that are with me... be they friend or sub. Perhaps it's viewed as a personality flaw by some. Perhaps it's viewed as egotism... either way I don't care.
Any time you exclude, you demean. It doesn't matter if it is because someone has blue eyes, is right handed, has a different ethnic background... or doesn't post much. Exclusion doesn't make things exclusive. It forces people to conform.
I will resubmit after 90 days because my dedication to the material, the community, and those that are willing to place their care in to my posession is strong. I will not do so gladly.
I do want to thank you for pointing me to the Shibari group. I'm still learning my way around here and appreciate the assistance.
Sirius
[Edited on Mar 28, 2006 3:19PM]
But then the irony is, to join any group is an act of conformity and opens you to judgment by others.
Join SG, and conform to their rules, if you want to stay on the site. If they judge that you've broken any, they boot you.
Join Hellfire Club, Dykes on Bikes, Boyscouts or the PTA and sure enough you have to conform or not participate, leaving yourself open to judgment from others.
Belonging can be a vicious cycle.