THE PERILS OF THE SF BAR SCENE
Last night at Pop's, I saw this really cute girl who was about 6 feet tall walk in. I only saw her from behind but I could tell she was a cutie. I strolled up to her and her friends and then...noticed SHE WAS A DUDE! In tight low-rise pants, a pony tail, and carrying a purse, but definately a dude. I beat a hasty retreat and explained the situation to my buddies who, of course, could not stop laughing at me.
Moments later, one of them rebuked me, "That IS A GIRL! And a hot one too" said one of them. "Look, she's got dudes all over her!" It was true, lots of guys were on her tip...but then he went over and was dismayed to realize that she WAS a guy (for the second time). This gender-connundrum went back and forth all night. At one point we called in the heavy artillery; our gay friend who informed us that it was indeed a very femminine man in drag. He then went down the bar pointing out every homo in the place by sheer sight alone. I questioned a few of his assessments but he was adament about his ability to spot homos in public.
In the end...I was still confused. But I figured that if the question remained, it was better to not take the chance in the first place.
Is there a polite way to ask a girl, "Excuse me, but....do you have a penis?"
Last night at Pop's, I saw this really cute girl who was about 6 feet tall walk in. I only saw her from behind but I could tell she was a cutie. I strolled up to her and her friends and then...noticed SHE WAS A DUDE! In tight low-rise pants, a pony tail, and carrying a purse, but definately a dude. I beat a hasty retreat and explained the situation to my buddies who, of course, could not stop laughing at me.
Moments later, one of them rebuked me, "That IS A GIRL! And a hot one too" said one of them. "Look, she's got dudes all over her!" It was true, lots of guys were on her tip...but then he went over and was dismayed to realize that she WAS a guy (for the second time). This gender-connundrum went back and forth all night. At one point we called in the heavy artillery; our gay friend who informed us that it was indeed a very femminine man in drag. He then went down the bar pointing out every homo in the place by sheer sight alone. I questioned a few of his assessments but he was adament about his ability to spot homos in public.
In the end...I was still confused. But I figured that if the question remained, it was better to not take the chance in the first place.
Is there a polite way to ask a girl, "Excuse me, but....do you have a penis?"