read this online (the poster was a woman):
"Women should be single and celibate and refuse to accept less than queen treatment from men; at this point in human history it's honestly our duty to choose celibate nun life over settling for a dusty man due to how damaging to society dusty men are. Sleeping with a man who hasn't done any work on himself rewards his mediocrity. In no other species but human does this happen. Better to be single and celibate forever than rewarding these fools. Make him work for you or stay single."
I gotta say, she makes some great points. It's true, no other species does that, and if he thinks there's nothing wrong with him then that is a HUGE red flag that he's nothing but trouble. And you can give yourself an orgasm, so being celibate and single does make a lot of sense for a lot of women IMO...