something guys should try and remember

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I wanted to conduct a little survey/experiment, so I asked 5 male friends at work a question: does your partner do/wear anything sexy for you? I didn't want to know details, just if they did. All 5 said yeah, not all the time but they did stuff that they knew the men found sexy. So my follow up question was: what do you do for them that they find sexy?

Crickets chirping.

Oh sure, a couple of them said that their partners found it sexy if they did (blank), but when pressed if they actually asked their partner what was sexy, they admitted they only knew about (blank) cuz their partner was the one who brought it up.

Guys, we are failing our partners if we don't have these conversations with them. And sure, a lot of guys when asked about it (I read it in an article somewhere) said that they didn't know how to be sexy and strip or weren't comfortable dancing to music alone with their partner (aka lap dance music). But that is only one facet of being sexy, and maybe your partner isn't wanting that either. But, if she is, you should really at least give it a try (being good, giving and game makes for a good partnership).

It shouldn't just be up to the women to be sexy in the relationship. Guys, we need to do our parts also. But, like everything else in life, it requires open communication. So men, step up and show your partners how much you enjoy turning them on. I'm sure they will appreciate it very much ;)

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fullfeeling:
Oh, and a more simple direct answer:  I try.  God it's sad to know how few men even do that.  In the last 20 years or so I've asked each partner I've been with more than a handful of times what they might like.  It's usually not much: Dance with me.  Keep the beard short.  Don't shave your head.  Do shave your balls.  All easy enough.  My current GF has a couple requests that I'm trying to bend my ego around. 1. More colorful underwear.  We're meeting in the middle as some things she thinks are "fun" I think are cheesy and tacky.  I wouldn't ask her to wear something she hates, but I'm happy to try out more color and pattern than my standard solids.  She found a company that has a cut we both love on me so I'm slowly replacing the whole drawer.  2. I'm never comfortable in shorts because I'm very long in the torso and they make me look even stubbier.  But she really likes my legs, so I wear shorts now sometimes.  When I can stand it.  Ha!  If she said wear this silky bodystocking for me in the bedroom, I wouldn't bat an eye.  But shorts in public are a struggle!
sheashannara:
@fullfeeling LOL! And good for you for making the effort at least, and compromising! Honestly, I think most of our partners would be happy if we just listened more and tried to meet them somewhere approximately in the middle (like you said, very rarely is a relationship 50/50)

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