"And I've got that going for me...."
Now this is going to sound really rude but I'm at that time in my life that if I bend over backwards for you, you better be doing the same. I don't have a lot of time. My time spent not working or going to classes is precious. I am no longer spending my precious time on folks who don't bring anything to the table.
I don't know that this is the way I was brought up, "do onto others" and so forth, but this is how I've got to live my life.
Free loaders beware. You're being kicked to the curb.