I just have to get this out there. I am using my journal to vent out thr frustration that has been swimming in my head over the last couple of weeks. Seriously don't waste your precious time reading all this crap.....
If anything skip to the very end to find out the latest pregnancy updates....
So first my parents say they want to come down to visit for when I go into labor. I suggest that since they live in the sacto area which is 6+ hours to drive or an hour flight, they should just come during the 2nd week of October when the baby will for sure be here. My dad agrees and my mom seems to agree. I also suggest they bring my brother since they have yet to all come down at the same time.
They say that they will.
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My dad calls me and says that he and my brother won't be able to get any time off. That they will only be able to stay for a weekend. However my mom will be able to get about 10 days off.
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Mom calls and says that grandma and auntie want to come down as well. She says that she feels its only fair since my grandma and aunt from my dad's side of the family are talking about coming to visit as well. I tell her that I don't think it's a good idea to have that many people here all at once and that I would rather have only my immediate family here. I will bring baby and hubby to thanksgiving to see everyone else. Plus, Auntie can't help pay for herself to get down here so that would be mean that mom and grandma would have to pay for her...that isn't really fair either. Mom still isn't whole heartedly agreeing to the 2nd week of Oct. because she is afraid that something will happen to me or the baby in the hospital and she wants to make sure that she is here when or if something goes wrong. I tell her that she can't make plans that way. I live too far away for that to be realistic. she crys. I feel bad. She breaks down and agrees.
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Auntie is out of the picture. But grandma is insisting that she and mom drive down together because it would be cheaper. Mom can't drive because of her epilepsy and grandma drives an automatic with both feet and is horrible at driving on the freeway... all in all a bad idea.
I don't like the idea but know that there isn't anything that I can say about it to change their minds. So dad and bro are going to fly down the 14th and stay the weekend and grandma and mom still haven't really made plans yet....
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Great Aunt Venus who lives in Ojai has heart problems that can't be fixed. Even simple heart surgury will kill her. She is my grandma's aunt. She is moved from Ojai to a hospice in ventura. She is given 6 months to live. She has given up all hope and refuses to eat. Grandma wants to take her uncle to see his sister before she dies. Great Uncle Llyod is 85 and can't drive himself. So grandma suggests that he come with them. She can drop him off with his sister and the come visit me. And pick him up on the way back home.
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Dad confirms that he and bro will be comeing down here the 14-16th. Mom and grandma still not sure what they are going to do.
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grandma calls me and asks about my ultrasound. She calls a couple days too early though because my appointment isnt until later that week. she asks me to call her as soom as i find anything out about the baby. and to ask the doctor when she thinks i might give birth. i already know that the doctor can't tell me an exact date but i promise to call grandma anyway.
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My ultrasound today shows that baby's head is in my pelvic bone and he even has a little tuft of hair.
He weighs 6lbs and 10 oz right now and is expected to be up to 7 1/2 lbs by birth, if i make it till my due date. i get my cervix checked next week to see how thinned out it is. Doc says that if I make it to the 28th then she will induce the labor. But I could naturally go into labor any day now.
I call grandma and tell her everything I just wrote and said that I will have the baby at least by Oct. 8th. That is actually the 2nd saturday of October...which I didn't know...until now... She says that it looks like she and my mom and uncle Llyod will be coming down here on Oct. 3rd and staying till Oct. 12th. I can't yell at my grandma so I reserve that for my WTF conversation with my mom... I tell her that my mom, her and Llyod can stay at my place since my dad and bro won't be coming until the 14th. She says that it would help out alot since they don't really have a lot of money.
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Dad calls and says that the 2nd weekend of Oct is the 8th-10th. This means that my dad and bro are going to be here then instead of the 14th-16. This also means that my mom, grandma, llyod, dad and brother will all be here at the same time at least for a weekend. I don't have room to fit all of them. So my dad and brother are going to have to get a hotel room when they get down here. Oh and they are no longer flying...they are going to drive my brother's car.
I yell at my mom because I made it clear that I didn't want any company until the 14th. As it is now...no one will be here then...they will all be here at least a week early. My mom doesn't understnad why I find this to be frustrating. I feel like an asshole for telling at her because I know that she is coming here early to make sure that they can see aunt v before she dies.
And as I write this I have major heartburn and it feels like I'm having light contractions...nothing to worry about folks...no baby is coming... My family infuriates me. I'm going to bed.
If anything skip to the very end to find out the latest pregnancy updates....
So first my parents say they want to come down to visit for when I go into labor. I suggest that since they live in the sacto area which is 6+ hours to drive or an hour flight, they should just come during the 2nd week of October when the baby will for sure be here. My dad agrees and my mom seems to agree. I also suggest they bring my brother since they have yet to all come down at the same time.
They say that they will.
...
My dad calls me and says that he and my brother won't be able to get any time off. That they will only be able to stay for a weekend. However my mom will be able to get about 10 days off.
...
Mom calls and says that grandma and auntie want to come down as well. She says that she feels its only fair since my grandma and aunt from my dad's side of the family are talking about coming to visit as well. I tell her that I don't think it's a good idea to have that many people here all at once and that I would rather have only my immediate family here. I will bring baby and hubby to thanksgiving to see everyone else. Plus, Auntie can't help pay for herself to get down here so that would be mean that mom and grandma would have to pay for her...that isn't really fair either. Mom still isn't whole heartedly agreeing to the 2nd week of Oct. because she is afraid that something will happen to me or the baby in the hospital and she wants to make sure that she is here when or if something goes wrong. I tell her that she can't make plans that way. I live too far away for that to be realistic. she crys. I feel bad. She breaks down and agrees.
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Auntie is out of the picture. But grandma is insisting that she and mom drive down together because it would be cheaper. Mom can't drive because of her epilepsy and grandma drives an automatic with both feet and is horrible at driving on the freeway... all in all a bad idea.
I don't like the idea but know that there isn't anything that I can say about it to change their minds. So dad and bro are going to fly down the 14th and stay the weekend and grandma and mom still haven't really made plans yet....
...
Great Aunt Venus who lives in Ojai has heart problems that can't be fixed. Even simple heart surgury will kill her. She is my grandma's aunt. She is moved from Ojai to a hospice in ventura. She is given 6 months to live. She has given up all hope and refuses to eat. Grandma wants to take her uncle to see his sister before she dies. Great Uncle Llyod is 85 and can't drive himself. So grandma suggests that he come with them. She can drop him off with his sister and the come visit me. And pick him up on the way back home.
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Dad confirms that he and bro will be comeing down here the 14-16th. Mom and grandma still not sure what they are going to do.
...
grandma calls me and asks about my ultrasound. She calls a couple days too early though because my appointment isnt until later that week. she asks me to call her as soom as i find anything out about the baby. and to ask the doctor when she thinks i might give birth. i already know that the doctor can't tell me an exact date but i promise to call grandma anyway.
...
My ultrasound today shows that baby's head is in my pelvic bone and he even has a little tuft of hair.
He weighs 6lbs and 10 oz right now and is expected to be up to 7 1/2 lbs by birth, if i make it till my due date. i get my cervix checked next week to see how thinned out it is. Doc says that if I make it to the 28th then she will induce the labor. But I could naturally go into labor any day now.
I call grandma and tell her everything I just wrote and said that I will have the baby at least by Oct. 8th. That is actually the 2nd saturday of October...which I didn't know...until now... She says that it looks like she and my mom and uncle Llyod will be coming down here on Oct. 3rd and staying till Oct. 12th. I can't yell at my grandma so I reserve that for my WTF conversation with my mom... I tell her that my mom, her and Llyod can stay at my place since my dad and bro won't be coming until the 14th. She says that it would help out alot since they don't really have a lot of money.
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Dad calls and says that the 2nd weekend of Oct is the 8th-10th. This means that my dad and bro are going to be here then instead of the 14th-16. This also means that my mom, grandma, llyod, dad and brother will all be here at the same time at least for a weekend. I don't have room to fit all of them. So my dad and brother are going to have to get a hotel room when they get down here. Oh and they are no longer flying...they are going to drive my brother's car.
I yell at my mom because I made it clear that I didn't want any company until the 14th. As it is now...no one will be here then...they will all be here at least a week early. My mom doesn't understnad why I find this to be frustrating. I feel like an asshole for telling at her because I know that she is coming here early to make sure that they can see aunt v before she dies.
And as I write this I have major heartburn and it feels like I'm having light contractions...nothing to worry about folks...no baby is coming... My family infuriates me. I'm going to bed.
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I love you sweetheart, you need to call dad and tell him to litterally grow up a little and talk to mom and figure this out because it is stressing you out and that isn't good for Aiden. Fuck.............. talk to your brother.hell even Froggie!!! Have one of them talk to your parents about how this is affecting you. I think hearing it come from someone face to face like that might snap them out of it.
I'm driving out to Ventura County to go see my new nephew this weekend. I will call you. Please take it easy.