So is it more important to have a girlfiend who is your "best friend" and you would lay down on the train tracks for - BUT - have no passion and the sex is lame. Or have someone who you both want to rip each others clothes off and have enough in common that there is stimulating conversation - BUT not that "deep" connection. Being 31 years on this earth, I find that I am looking at relationships totally different. Most of my friends are doing the white picket fence....and that is terrifying. Marriage yes, kids yes, but normality....run kicking and screaming. In Buddhism, the underlying principle is that there is "no- things" - since every moment every "thing" is changing - therefore what "is" in this moment is no longer the same in the next moment. Not the same "thing". So these plastic peple trying to exist in a dreamland of "stability" and "normality" are suffering such pain since that reality requires so many lies and false beliefs - like happiness depends on the size of your suv, tv, and prada purse. Anyways, people suffer in this world because they do not accept that everything is changing - that new outfit, relationship, or car - will change and if you are attached to that - you will suffer. Your girlfriend will not be the same person that you met, she will change, I will change. So accept that....well at least thats what i am trying to convince myself of......
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I would never throw away something really special for more exciting sex though, you can find that everywhere. Lame sex canget worked out, but you can't make a person smarter or more interesting