Last night, with Claire's blessing, Wendy came over. It was a birthday gift. I have heard this from married men. The wife asks him what he wants for his birthday, and the man replies that he wants a blow job. The wife asks no, what do you really want, and the husband responds that he really does want a blow job. Wendy is fine about blow jobs, but not so much about the inevitable response and swallowing. She did manage to overcome her discomfort and managed twice.
Wendy is in trouble with Claire not because of what she does with us. Rather, her old roommate called her. She likes to reward her boyfriends with threesomes, and Wendy is her go to woman. Wendy has done a few, so she said yes. Without thinking. When she told Claire where she was going to be on Friday, Claire was fine with it. When she told her where she would be on Saturday night, Claire, to use Wendy's word, "exploded."
Wendy was confused. She has spent entire weekends with us before. Why are Aisha and I okay and her old roommate not? Claire knows us, likes us, and trusts us. She does not know Wendy's former roommate and the man being treated from Eve and Adam. Also, the thing with Aisha and I has been going on for a long time. Longer than they have known each other, longer than they have been sleeping together, and far longer than they have been living together in a serious relationship. Claire knows she has to deal with us, for the moment, at least.
Wendy said she understood, but did not want to reneg on the agreement. Claire said not, tell her that your girlfriend told you cannot go. Do her own dirty work, find her own third partner, you are mine, and I forbid you. At least, that is the gist of what Wendy told us.
Aisha, Courtney, Megan and myself agree that this argument is not over. The first fight in a relationship is often about fidelity. Courtney and Megan went through it, as did Aisha and I. We agree further that early in a relationship, it may be stronger. The little things that annoy each other has not really built up yet. On the flip side, early in the relationship, it is far easier to terminate it that it would be years down the line.
Best for us to stay out of it.
I just hope that it does not ruin our vacation. Wendy has told us that Claire is leaning towards coming with us. While Wendy told me not to count my chickens--I know what that means, but why would I count chickens I do not have--Claire is exploring options on birth control. The last thing we need is two women in a relationship hanging by a thread. Best to stay out of it, but we may yet have to intervene.