Today began the second day of negotiations with my BDSM Dom. I have known her socially for a few months, she's dating a good friend of mine.
Having been raised in both the 'vanilla' and 'kink' worlds it's pretty funny to reflect on what is appropriate and accepted within each. For example, in the 'vanilla' world having an intimate sexual experiance (minus intercourse or oral sex) with your friend's girlfriend isn't something usually done or accepted. In the 'kink' world far stranger shit is accepted without a second thought. So, I keep moving away from the 'vanilla' world of relationships and sex, it's turning out to be more fufilling.
So on to the dirty stuff, non? I took the www.bondage.com questionaire for kink sexual practices you're into, fucking thing took me over an hour! Which is impressive because as a psych major I deal with surveys and questionaires all the time, I like to think I've gotten pretty good at them. There'll be a fair ammount of play, mostly me as a service oriented submissive. It'll be interesting to see how well we seperate how we act in scene with how we act in casual social circumstance - I'm hoping for a clear boundry - time will tell.
We decided not to include intercourse or oral copulation in our agreement of acceptable practices. While she and her boyfriend are both poly (that is to say, polyamrous [sp?]), it would just add a weird dynamic into the friendship from all angles. While my dick laments the lack of attention I think from an emotional standpoint it'll make things much easier.
More as it develops bat fans.
Having been raised in both the 'vanilla' and 'kink' worlds it's pretty funny to reflect on what is appropriate and accepted within each. For example, in the 'vanilla' world having an intimate sexual experiance (minus intercourse or oral sex) with your friend's girlfriend isn't something usually done or accepted. In the 'kink' world far stranger shit is accepted without a second thought. So, I keep moving away from the 'vanilla' world of relationships and sex, it's turning out to be more fufilling.
So on to the dirty stuff, non? I took the www.bondage.com questionaire for kink sexual practices you're into, fucking thing took me over an hour! Which is impressive because as a psych major I deal with surveys and questionaires all the time, I like to think I've gotten pretty good at them. There'll be a fair ammount of play, mostly me as a service oriented submissive. It'll be interesting to see how well we seperate how we act in scene with how we act in casual social circumstance - I'm hoping for a clear boundry - time will tell.
We decided not to include intercourse or oral copulation in our agreement of acceptable practices. While she and her boyfriend are both poly (that is to say, polyamrous [sp?]), it would just add a weird dynamic into the friendship from all angles. While my dick laments the lack of attention I think from an emotional standpoint it'll make things much easier.
More as it develops bat fans.