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I've been seeing a really great person lately. But the last few times we've been together she's been really frustrated with my being quiet. Now I do tend to be somewhat of a quiet person but the problem more complex than that. I have a problem really opening up and letting myself be myself. It'll come out in small doses from time to time and when it does things are great between us. However a lot of the time I get anxious because this woman means a lot to me and I want nothing more to impress her but because of that it only pulls me deeper in my shell. Getting really drunk is one way for me to open up but it's not exactly a cure to the problem. This has hurt other relationships of mine and I'm tired of it. Plus the more she focus' on it the more worried about it I become and the worse it gets...it's a cycle the feeds upon itself and makes me upset, anxious and depressed. It's like I know what needs to be done and I know how to do it but I just have problems doing it. As it is I'm opening up more to her than any other relationship I've ever had but I'm not satisfied. Anybody with any helpful ideas or words?