notraps_spiltoh

Everyone on here is in everyone's business all the time. It's not something I mind so much anymore... It's just how things work here... But after hearing all kinds of ridiculous bullshit I feel like I need to correct whatever record has been made.

- Around the middle of September, caught my ex bf initiating a relationship with someone else. When I confronted him about it, he flat out lied to me, telling me the opposite of what was going on between him and this person. This isn't the first time this had happened and I came to the conclusion that there was never going to be a last. I decided at this point to finally leave him.
- He did call the police on me. He had gotten physical the day was supposed to move out which I responded to in defense. He hid his bong, left, and came back with 3 cops. After giving them 3 different stories, and my story not changing, he was arrested and held overnight, which gave me enough time to move anything valuable to me out. I had to leave half a house of furniture and furnishings behind. His plan was to have me arrested so he could move everything out, knowing I wanted to leave, and stick me with a year long lease at $1600/mon + utilities n crap...
- I have lost close to $4000 through all of this... between what's owed to me, the cost of moving back across the country, medical expenses, and stuff I have to replace.
- I paid for my car completely. It wasn't stolen. The title was not in my name when I left, but even the officers that came to the apartment made it clear that it can't be reported as stolen if I left in it.
- He has continued to contact me online. He has made attempts to talk to friends and even acquaintances about my current situation and whereabouts. If I have blocked you recently or deleted you from fb, this is probably why.
- I am at peace. I've spent almost 3 years of my life loving someone, despite the fact that myself and everyone else was telling me not to, giving everything I had inside of me to him. Heart, Mind, Body, Soul all to someone who didn't respect it or appreciate it. But Im okay with that. I know a lot of people see me as weak or dependent, but I don't think those people know what it takes to truly forgive someone. I think that love is more of a decision than an emotion. When I decide to do something, I do my best and follow through until it's done. I did everything I could and I did it the best I could. You can't help someone that can't help themself first.

There's a lot more to it but that covers enough.


Something else that's somewhat related....
A relationship takes investment from both parties. Nothing is ever one sided. Everything is mutual.
Blaming one person for everything wrong between two people doesn't make sense.
Everyone always has room for improvement. There is always something you can work on... always something you can do better or learn to get better at doing.