UNCONDITIONAL TO WHAT POINT?!

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Unconditional to what point?!

Do you believe that there is just one person for everyone? Are you a hopeless romantic?!
At what point is enough.. enough.. ? Does til death do us part really exsist?

I was never the little girl that dreamt of the day that I would be married.. I grew up being a very independant little girl and I am still that same person today.

I did feel the pressure to get married at a very young age and quickly realized that I was not marriage material, the person was abussive and a serial cheater and I didnt need to tolerate any of it…. I packed my bags and went back to independant Meg.

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I love my independence.. I love to travel and learn. I keep a pretty minimal lifestyle so that I am able to experience the “Buffet of Life”.. Many have judged this part of me thinking ..that I should settle down, get a carreer and act my age.

I met someone few years ago under some very different circumstances at the local gym. I remained a bit guarded but, did fall pretty hard in the end. I have made a lot of sacrifices and possibly ended my career in my field of study… Has anyone else done this?? I have delt with theft, poor choices, addiction and aggressive behaviors towards others.. oh and loss of my employment.. just to name a few obstacles. .Saught out counselling and tried to keep true to me.. . I have been a good sport about the whole thing.. I just piled it all up to a learning experience .. Love will conquer all.. right?! right?!?!

Things remain difficult several years in … I always seem to put them first… . trust is a bit tricky…. I know they are faithful but, I never know if they will come home.. if they got themselves into trouble or god knows what else.. can you survive on love alone? Can it really still be love or is it convenience.. Clearly there is still a past and feelings .. but can you move forward.. I know we all make these mistakes.. Sometimes we can fall for the wrong people ..We are all in love with the idea of “love”.. Can it really come to frusition and become true love in a relationship??

I have studied the human mind and behaviors for many years and I am probably the person who is most confused when it comes to relationships. I still beleive to this day that I am bad at them.. I give to much of myself to the other person. I sacrifice my own identity in alot of ways.. I will go back to what I said earlier.. I am one of those people that was built to tackle this world alone.. I am 1000000% certain of it..

What do you guys think?!

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mtlmarbles:
@bad_a_dave  Thank you! Not a great english writer but have lots to say haha
bad_a_dave:
Well apparently hitting enter posts the comment so I will try this again. I don't think that we should ever have to give up our identities to be in a "good" relationship. Relationships are equal, or should be at least. Everyone these days finds someone they really like or have an attraction to and tries to make it work. However how often in life can we actually "make" anything work except with ourselves. Unfortunately we have no control over how much someone else will give in a relationship which is why it's imperative to be selective in those we give our hearts to. I've had numerous bad relationships. Several that were abusive to me. Both physically and emotionally. However, all you can do is learn from the situation and try not to make the same mistakes. Over my years of dating I have found certain characteristics that I do not mesh with. When I start dating someone and see these characteristics I run. It sounds bad but I find it better to run, for myself, than to try to change them or try to change me. Being ones true self and someone accepting and loving ones true self is the only way to make a relationship work! Find someone that loves you for all your flaws, not someone that deals with them. Find someone that finds your irritating geusters and find them as your greatest strengths. Find someone that sees your flaws, not as flaws, but rather what makes you unique and different from everyone else. In this you will find a lasting relationship. Now I will put a warning on this... I've been single two years because I've been waiting for "the one" that has all the traits I've just mentioned. However, those I found those traits in, found someone else while we were seeing each other. The last two almost wrote me the exact same message stating just that. I still keep a positive attitude about it but I'm happy with who and where I'm at and for that, I can survive even if I never find my "one". Hopefully this might help at least show a different perspective on your troubles. Good luck and don't be a good luck chuck! Haha

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