Dear SG:
I don't usually date, because when I do I'm usually disappointed. I found someone I really enjoy spending time with, I really click with, and I would LOVE to spend MORE time with.. *but*...
(Someone once told me nothing really counts before the word 'but'...)
After a few dates, things were going well... Great even! I'm a very prude person.. I don't mind being naked, unless I'm in a relationship with you.. lol At first, anyway! So yeah. 1 week of texting, calling, grabbin' a drink, eatin' a bite, snugglin' and watchin' movies.. perfect!
And then it happened.
He said he was coming over... be there in an hour! "okay!" I say. "I'm waiting!" ....and never showed up.
So the next day, same kinda deal... "sorry about yesterday, I want to hang out though. I'll be over after a while." ...and then I at least get a call of apology. "So tired..! I didn't get much sleep last night, super tired, I can't make it... I know you're going to hate me.. I'm so sorry! I'll make it up to you. I *WILL* call you tomorrow, and I *WILL* buy you sushi!"
Tomorrow comes... we text, we talk, "I'll be there. Gimme an hour!"
...and he never showed. I believe that was Thursday? Yeah... Last week. He finally got on FB and responded to a message I'd sent asking about the order for shoes and a purse (he does really great work... custom painted shoes... bad ass! that's how I ended up talking to him..) since I had assumed he didn't want to talk to me.
What should I do?
So far I've accepted his apology, told him I don't know what to do from here, and I'm probably going to be pissed off for a while. I sat around for hours waiting on him to show up, and he couldn't be bothered to send a text?! That takes 5 seconds! His mom has been having a hard time, but I still don't see how a person would not have the 5 seconds at some point over the course of hours or even days...?
Am I being over-sensitive? Should I be so upset? I feel like he's shown me some real disrespect and disregard, and I want real advice... don't just say what will make me happy. Give me something good.
Should I give him a second chance? Or has he already had three and failed two of the three? Am I being an ego bitch, unreasonable, and self-centered? I understand the problems of others and make allowances for certain things... is this enough of a big deal, or does it matter if it was a big deal, seeing as it took forever to get back to me and he had time to post on FB?
Madilynn <3
I don't usually date, because when I do I'm usually disappointed. I found someone I really enjoy spending time with, I really click with, and I would LOVE to spend MORE time with.. *but*...
(Someone once told me nothing really counts before the word 'but'...)
After a few dates, things were going well... Great even! I'm a very prude person.. I don't mind being naked, unless I'm in a relationship with you.. lol At first, anyway! So yeah. 1 week of texting, calling, grabbin' a drink, eatin' a bite, snugglin' and watchin' movies.. perfect!
And then it happened.
He said he was coming over... be there in an hour! "okay!" I say. "I'm waiting!" ....and never showed up.
So the next day, same kinda deal... "sorry about yesterday, I want to hang out though. I'll be over after a while." ...and then I at least get a call of apology. "So tired..! I didn't get much sleep last night, super tired, I can't make it... I know you're going to hate me.. I'm so sorry! I'll make it up to you. I *WILL* call you tomorrow, and I *WILL* buy you sushi!"
Tomorrow comes... we text, we talk, "I'll be there. Gimme an hour!"
...and he never showed. I believe that was Thursday? Yeah... Last week. He finally got on FB and responded to a message I'd sent asking about the order for shoes and a purse (he does really great work... custom painted shoes... bad ass! that's how I ended up talking to him..) since I had assumed he didn't want to talk to me.
What should I do?
So far I've accepted his apology, told him I don't know what to do from here, and I'm probably going to be pissed off for a while. I sat around for hours waiting on him to show up, and he couldn't be bothered to send a text?! That takes 5 seconds! His mom has been having a hard time, but I still don't see how a person would not have the 5 seconds at some point over the course of hours or even days...?
Am I being over-sensitive? Should I be so upset? I feel like he's shown me some real disrespect and disregard, and I want real advice... don't just say what will make me happy. Give me something good.
Should I give him a second chance? Or has he already had three and failed two of the three? Am I being an ego bitch, unreasonable, and self-centered? I understand the problems of others and make allowances for certain things... is this enough of a big deal, or does it matter if it was a big deal, seeing as it took forever to get back to me and he had time to post on FB?
Madilynn <3
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saved_sinner:
I thought maybe this can put a little smile on your face!!!!
piratenate:
The bottom line is this: technology has made it so simple in so many ways to communicate SOMETHING very easily in a matter of seconds. That fact alone really leaves no room for excuses no matter how busy one's life is or no matter how many issues that person may be dealing with. If a person cares, he will find a way. Just my opinion.