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littledevil0:
And I am worried they may feel like a toy, but don't most one night stands kind of feel that way? I don't know I've never had one.
chef:
ok. then avoid the poly stuff. it's for people who want to go the other direction...actually date. the fact that you think most one night stands will feel like a toy doesn't make you sound like a good person to have one with. I've had some...and i've NEVER felt like a toy. and i've always endeavored to make sure no one i've slept with feels like an object. they should feel like another human whose feelings and desires you respect and want to share. it should be fun. but the itstuff i said about finding one person you both like, who actually likes BOTH of you too? it goes as much for swinging as it does for relationships. just keep in mind that it can be FUN to swing separately too:)