@caraphernelia just posted a blog that got me thinking. In the last few weeks, I've had multiple female friends tell me about having been sexually assaulted, propositioned, or used for sex. It's nothing new, unfortunately. Caraphernelia's post deals more with sexual harassment (unsolicited dick pics) than assault, but it all starts somewhere. So first of all, here's a simple infographic about when it's appropriate to send a dick pic.
True, the infographic was created before Trump was elected, and I'm sure some people actually do want to see dick pics, but seriously, if you aren't being asked (literally asked, like "Send a dick pic, please?), DON'T SEND A DICK PIC. If you aren't sure, ask, "Should I send a dick pic?" If the answer is no, in any form (No; No thanks; Please don't; Oh g-d that's disgusting!), DON'T SEND A DICK PIC.
One of the difficulties we men may have is understanding the difference between flattery and harassment. We can't judge our female counterparts by our own standards. I went to a music fest a few years ago with my then-girlfriend. As we were pushing through a crowd, some asshole "accidentally" grabbed my girlfriend's butt. I hate myself to this day because I wasn't able to get to him to punch him in the balls, because of the crowd. Naturally, I thought about the hypothetical lecture I would give him (after punching him in the balls) and asking him "How would you feel if she had 'accidentally' grabbed your butt?" And right there is the problem. Most guys would absolutely love to have a pretty girl cop a feel. Guys love it when a girl stares just a little too long or makes physical contact, even just a simple hand on the arm while talking. But guess what, guys? When we do it to girls, it can be inappropriate and even threatening.
One of the comments on that blog post invited any woman willing to spread her wet vagina to do so. I'm not in any way judging the person who said that. Men want to see wet vaginas. Straight men, anyway. And that's totally okay. It's natural. But if a woman doesn't want to show her wet vagina, don't pressure her to show it anyway. That being said, there is a time and place (or in the case of SG, a thread) for everything. But sending unsolicited pics of aroused genitalia is just bad form, generally.
I realize that just because I would like something, doesn't mean everyone would like the same thing. I'm sorry that this even has to be said, especially in this day and age, but apparently some people still haven't caught on to the concept.
