lanapants

It is really amazing how a friend of over 5 years will turn on you at the drop of a dime!
Literally...

Ok so, once upon a time B and Alana worked together at Kids Footlocker.
The young B decided to try and woo Alana who had already given herself up to another.

...Ok any way, yadda yadda yadda... we started dating a while after and all was well. I worked with his mother at a nonprofit radio broadcast station and we all got along famously! There were 2 roller-coaster years and B then graduated from High School and decided to join he Airforce. That July 4th before he entered boot-camp he asked me to marry him, and I said yes.

After a tearful good bye at the airport B was off to boot-camp. There was a wedding for me to plan and the start of a new life to look forward to. However B did not make it through boot-camp, I went on with the plans for the wedding, and prepared to take care of a destroyed spirit. He was crushed, after all he does come from a military family... father was a career marine, mother was in the navy, and one of his sisters was now in the marines...

Things when horribly wrong after he came home and I decided that it would be best if we postponed the wedding, so after I had put $2500 down for the room and food, we cancelled. I figured in the long run it would be the best thing for us to do. THANK GOD I DID. I thought that our life would get better...well it did not, I ended up financially supporting him for many months I felt more like his mother. I was working two full time jobs while he was unemployed. I bought him a car to help motivate him and that was the last straw!
I told him that I wanted to go on break and so we did. He did not understand what being on break was and eventually I completely broke our relationship off. I moved out of my house and I started to rebuild my life and move forward, I started seeing someone 4 months after I broke off the "on break" period.
There was a long period of silence.
I was going to move to Ca to get married: he went crazy
There was another long period of silence
We decided to stay friends. It sort of worked
He came to visit, he thought we were going to get back together...we were not.
We still stayed friends... he helped me with my traffic ticket because I could not pay it.
I tried to pay it back. He told me it was a gift.

Present day issue... WE (I cosigned I know BIG mistake) had taken out a personal loan to pay for the rings (BIG MISTAKE believe me I know). After the break up I took over one of the payments and he took over the other. I took over the payment that was more burdensome... a $5000 credit card and he took the $2500 loan. The engagement ring is in his possession and so after 3 years of not paying it sometimes and paying it sometimes he has affected my credit. consequently I am talking over the payment because he told me that since I owe him the money from the ticket and since I left him I should pay it. He has become verbally abusive with me, saying things like "I bet you suck dicks to get your piercing" and "how are you going to get the money to pay the loan you do not have any, oh I know you are going to work the corner" "You are pathetic". He has turned against me.
This has been a hard day for me.
The love of money is the root of all evil...some say...I think that money is simply evil, it has the power to turn loving households into war zones, it even drives some to kill, steal, deceive.
Like I said it has just been a hard day.
Oh well this too shall pass...
Thank you for listening!