kozmikgirl

My son went to his first dance tonight... homecoming. You know that your social anxiety is out-of-control when you are getting nervous for someone who isn't nervous at all. I asked him "Are you nervous?" He was like "Ehh." & shrugged & continued with his computer game.

When we pulled up there were millions of people in line, again he shrugged at that. It didn't bother him that he didn't know if his friends were there yet or if they were gonna show up at all. He just walked out & said "I'll find someone to talk to." Keep in mind this wasn't even his school having the dance, it was the BIGHUGE school in town. Sheesh. Amazing.

I am learning to be silent with the areyounervous stuff with him. I don't want to make him nervous when he is not, which is what my mom did to me. She would be like areyousureyouaren'tnervous? & areyousureyouwillbeokattheparty? & I think that is what got me going with the "what ifs" & the nerves is her & her questions. I have to push my nerves down for him & play it like I am not freaking out for him. I know that. He needs to keep that cool additude. It will give him a happier future.