The Binding of Isaac (Part 2): Edge Play and Knife Play
We previously discussed how the story of the binding of Isaac from the Book of Genesis, Chapter 22, can be interpreted with undertones of dominance, submission, switching and rope bondage. This week we want to take a closer look at what this allegoric story teaches us about edge play and knife play.
"They arrived at the place of which God had spoken to Abraham; Abraham built an alter there, and arranged the wood; he bound Isaac, his son, and placed him on the alter atop the wood. Abraham stretched out his hand, and took the knife to slaughter his son. And an angel of God called to him from heaven, and said, 'Abraham! Abraham!' And Abraham said, 'Here I am.' And the angel said, 'Do not strech out your hand against the lad nor do anything to him for now I know that you are a God-fearing man, since you have not withheld your only one, from Me.'" (Genesis 22: 9-12).
In the two power dynamics here, the dominant figures, God and Abraham respectively, test their submissives' unconditional obedience. They use psychological and physical power to take their submissives to their edge. We can consider this edge play.
Edge play is defined by Wipipedia as follows (http://www.lfshosting.co.uk/wipi/index.php/Edgeplay):
"In BDSM, edgeplay is a subjective term for types of sexual play that are "on the edge" of the traditional safe, sane and consensual creed. These forms of BDSM activity are regarded by many as inadvisable and dangerous, and it is nearly universally held that they should not be attempted without proper training, supervision, safety precautions, etc. as appropriate.What constitutes edgeplay varies with the persons involved, and also over time
Edgeplay may involve:
--the risk of serious, even permanent harm or death (such as branding, body modification, breathplay, gunplay)
--increased risk of spreading disease (E.g. cuttings, bloodplay)
--psychological danger (from such practices as humiliation play, incest fantasies)
--social taboos (for example, ageplay, scat fetishism, racial slurs)
--controversial topics like Total Power Exchange, anonymous rape and abduction scenes, zoophilia.
In the story of the binding of Isaac, there is not a sexual context, but we nevertheless can learn similar lessons from this story about pushing the envelope in power relationships.
The unfaltering preparations for a human sacrifice and the intensity and immediacy of the threat to Isaac's life at the hand of Abraham's knife are the passionate extremes here.
Abraham's sadistic knife play is not limited to this one biblical story. Earlier, in Genesis 17: 23-27, Abraham went on a knife wielding circumcision rampage at the command of his God.
"Then Abraham took his son Ishmael and all those servants born in his household and all those he had purchased for money - all the male members of Abraham's house - and he circumcised the flesh of their foreskin on that very day as God had spoken with him. Abraham was 99 years old when he was circumcised on the flesh of his foreskin; and his son Ishmael was 13 years old when he was circumcised on the flesh of his foreskin. On that very day was Abraham circumcised with Ishmael his son, and all the people of his household, born in his household and purchased for money from a stranger, were circumcised with him."
Now that's one sadistic, knife happy man! All this talk of Abraham and extremism with knives, leads into our discussion on knife play.
Mephistopheles from Albany Power Exchange provided some very helpful basic tips on knife play at http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/BDSMinfo/knife_play.htm:
Knife Play
The Cutting Edge of BD/SM
The form of human interaction commonly referred to as BD/SM is in my view, best defined as "The art of producing emotional feelings and physical sensation in a human partner." Common methods of accomplishing these goals, of fulfilling this art form, include both the dynamics of the D/s relationship, and the physical reactions to the act of S&M itself. In this discussion, I will be referring to those physical aspects of the relationship and specifically, to the one method of producing physical sensation I prefer above most others, knife play.
Before I begin, there are a few misconceptions related to knife play that I would like dispel from the outset. The first deals with the "depth" of the cutting. In S&M the goal of the Top in all cases, is to inflict a maximum or desired level of sensation, WITHOUT disfiguring the physique of the bottom. Knife play is therefore about 75touching, scraping and rubbing" and about 25ctual cutting. The second popular misconception, is that a knife has but one use, but one sensation that it can produce, and is therefore of limited use to the S&M devotee. Knives have a cutting edge of course, but also have sides, points, handles and since they are made of metal, can be refrigerated or heated as the Top may decide. A third erroneous view involves the concept of actual blood letting. True, there may well be some, but this is absolutely unnecessary if undesired. Finally, the fourth most popular misconception involves the idea that to play with knives means to scar by necessity, and that scars, permanent lasting scars are the name of the game. My current partner and I have played in this manner on many occasions, and she has not ONE permanent scar on her body, despite the fact that I have had her bleed for me as often as not.
Having gotten that out of the way, let's begin:
Knives are damn dangerous things. They have been used to kill and maim for thousands of years. Some people have an inbred fear of them. Of concern to the Top, should be the fact that unless they are cared for VERY well, are sharp and are above all CLEAN, knives can well incur their traditional penalties.
There are a few rules related to knife play.
1) Buy quality equipment. You are looking for carbon steel blades, the finest quality you can find. You want a keen, smooth UNSERRATED edge. You want to keep this edge razor sharp, or rather dull. Either or, as befits your level of experience. The most dangerous knives are those that are a "little" sharp. These are unpredictable. They cut sometimes, but not others, depending on the texture of the skin. Sharp always cuts. Dull never will. Choose either and be sure of the situation.
2) Keep the knives you choose WELL. That means, use them for no other purpose. Keep them in a fine state of repair. You might well be able to get away with a cat of 20 tails that has a few tails missing, or a riding crop that has a frayed wrapping on the handle, but a knife that is chipped or nicked or has a loose handle, is absolutely ready for the garbage can., or non-S&M related uses.
3) Keep your tools clean. Always use "hospital sterile technique". Wash the knife blade and handle in denatured alcohol, or with a sterilizing soap of the sort surgeons use to scrub up with. "Liquid germicidal soap" works well here, but I still prefer alcohol. It kills bugs dead. Have your bottom take a shower before beginning. Wash your hands, and unless you are playing with your life's partner, BE SURE TO WEAR LATEX RUBBER SURGICAL GLOVES. Aids is transmitted very nicely through the blood. So are a host of other ailments.
4) Go slow. Take your time. We are NOT in a rush. Are we? Enjoy the session, and make it last a rather long time. Make slow distinctive movements. Never vary the speed unless you have a few years of experience under your belt.
5) Nothing above the shoulders. Eyes and facial nerves are impossible to repair if cut or gouged.
Specifics:
Buying a knife
The purchase of a blade, to be used in S&M play bears a deal of consideration. Visit a knife shop, and have a look at what they have on display. For your first blade, I would strongly suggest that you stay well away from all the fancy "fantasy" blades that they have on sale. They look pretty, but tend to be very cumbersome for the first time "player". Choose instead a basic knife, of medium size. A bowie with a six inch blade is a good choice. Remember, we are going for QUALITY here, so expect to spend from 100 to 150 dollars US. As you become experienced with the concepts of knifeplay, you may want to add to your collection of bladed toys. A small knife, of razor sharpness for detail work. (straight razors are the MOST dangerous knives used in this field, so be warned!) A larger blade for scoring and welting. And perhaps even a set of fingertip blades that will make you look like a well manicured version of Freddie Kruger. Each has a specific purpose, each has a role to play. Eventually, after you have become Master of the blade, you may well at that point want to invest in a premium quality fantasy knife, of the type that caught your eye the first time you walked in the door of the shop. Expect to pay between 200 to 600 dollars. Some sell for thousands. Knives to stay clear of are chrome plated ones, serrated ones, those made for food preparation, double edged knives (unless you are an expert) "fruit knives", which tend to be chrome plated stainless steel, and are unsharpenable, hobby knives, widget blades, disposable razor blades, box knives, carpet knives, switch blades, folding knives unless they have a positive lock and of course, cheap knives.
Keeping it sharp
If you have followed my advice, and purchased a quality blade, made of steel with a high carbon content, you should have little problem keeping it sharp. You will need a set of oil stones coarse, medium and fine. You will need mineral oil, to keep the stones wetted as you sharpen, and finally, you will need a leather strop (yes just like the kind your Grandfather spanked your Father with) to hone the final edge. If you are unsure, your cutler will be more than pleased to sharpen and hone your purchase for you. If you are a regular customer, you can pop in from time to time to have the edge tweaked. Beginners need no extra sharpening on their blades. The factory does a pretty damn fine job. In fact, you might just like to take that edge DOWN a notch or two, by placing a bit of steel wool on a cutting board, and running the edge through it, as if you are slicing a loaf of bread. The quality knife can always be sharpened again later. It's all a matter of choice, but I find that sharpening the blade while your bottom lays bound on the bed waiting for you adds greatly to the scene.
Keeping it clean
Since knives can break the skin (that's what they were ALL made to do in the first place!) it is imperative that you keep them absolutely clean at all times. Wash your knife by hand (NO DISHWASHERS) every time you plan to do something with it. If it came with a leather scabbard, be sure to clean the blade before putting it away. Cleaning can be as simple as rubbing it with a soft cloth, and oiling it lightly with mineral oil, (high carbon steel WILL rust if not given a light coat of mineral oil from time to time) or as involved as scrubbing it with alcohol or germicidal soap prior to it's use. Beware of using the same blade on multiple partners without sterilizing it. Never "boil" a knife in oil or water to clean off the germs either. It can ruin the handle, or even warp the blade. It can also impregnate the steel with the oil itself, and cause it to lose some of it's temper. That means you can no longer keep it sharp. (Hospitals can and DO boil all their surgical instruments with hot steam in an autoclave but note that they are all stainless steel, and that the cutting edge is disposable.) Look at it this way, you have spent from 100 to 1000 dollars on the knife. The need to keep it clean, take care of it, seems pretty straight forward after that.
Beginning technique
I have always held strongly to the philosophy of "Me First" when it comes to trying out new S&M toys. It's not that I am a masochist by any means, but how else can one actually know the sensation one is creating in one's partner. Sit yourself down in a stable chair, and take the blade in your writing hand. Place the blade SHARP SIDE UP, that is away from the skin, on your thigh near the knee, and let the weight of the blade rest more or less, depending on how much you feel, and how heavy the blade is, on it's point. Draw a line. Be delicate and gentle. Err on the side of caution. In a few minutes, if you have done sufficiently hard enough, a fine welt should begin to appear. Draw another line along side it. Draw several, varying the force on the point and the knife's position and angle. At NO time try this with the "sharp" side of the blade. Once you have mastered this, you can begin tentative steps with your partner. The technique is the same. Use the blade to draw welted lines. This is the core of knifeplay. Try this with the sharp side of the knife, and you will be taking your partner to the emergency ward. Never EVER reverse the direction of the blade so that the point digs into the skin. This is also a sure way to become familiar with the EMS people in your area. For the beginner, the drawing of these welted lines is the first stage of the learning curve. It's the beginning that can take up to a year or more to become really good at. These lines will leave no scars, yet may occasionally weep a little blood. This is not a huge concern. They will in time fade, but may take a few days to do so. Something to consider when playing this way, as they may be difficult to explain the following day at work. Experiment with placement of the lines, patterns and such. Don't be afraid to lay them down over the erogenous zones, but watch out for ticklish people. Nobody wants any sudden movements.
Another beginning technique is that of "dragging". Place the blade sharp side down against your thigh. (I am assuming you are going to practice on yourself again first, and are sitting once more on that sturdy chair.) Tilt the blade so that it lays at about a 45 degree angle to your skin. Now move the blade so that it scrapes your skin, that is drag it AWAY from the sharp edge. If you move it the other way, you will cut yourself deeply if the blade is as sharp as I have suggested it be, or you will simply gouge a little if you are a rank beginner and have wisely dulled it on the steel wool as I suggested. Continue to drag the blade, back and forth, as if spreading butter on a slice of bread. Vary the force, and feel how your skin reacts. My partner finds this particularly relaxing on her back, and the backs of her legs. I often use it, and a gentle voice, to help her find her focus prior to beginning more advanced play. Again this can be used all over the body.. However, there is ONE caveat. I would not recommend this around the nipples, nor would I suggest this for any places where the body's curves might cause you to unintentionally place too much weight on any one given spot along the length of the blade. Always start the knife moving laterally before applying pressure, or you will cut deeply. NEVER pull the knife to the side, (towards the handle) or you will cut. Again, play cautiously. You have the rest of your life to build up to the "ultimate scene"
More advanced Techniques
Once you feel confident that you have mastered the beginning stages, and can stripe your partner so that he or she looks like a tiger or zebra, consider moving to the next step. By now you will have acquired a variety of blades. Choose a small and wickedly sharp one. Razor sharp. Experiment first on yourself once again. Make a line on your thigh, that will produce a nice clean welt. Lay the large knife aside. Now, using the small blade, make tiny scratches at 90 degrees to the welt line, that will draw a little blood. The cuts need go ONLY into the welt itself, NOT the skin on either side. Hence the need for a small sharp knife, or you WILL cut too far. I find it handy to use a short bladed knife, and to hold it as one would a pencil for this. PLEASE don't give into the temptation to use an exacto knife or a carpet knife...You cannot get them clean enough. Wrap a longer blade with a few layers of sterile bandage tape if you need to to protect your hand from the cutting edge. These cuts will bleed freely, and seal themselves quickly after having done so. Still it is possible to have your partner's back or thighs, or wherever you choose, to become awash in the sheen of red. The secret is not to make deep cuts to flow the blood, but instead to make MANY tiny ones each producing no more than a few drops. On a personal note, I have always found the climax of such a scene, to be the point where I take some of this red nectar from my partner... (yes, life's partner) into my mouth, returning it to her in a kiss. It's something I would recommend only for those who play exclusively together, and have no other partners. Once you have completed your session, take the time to cleanse your partner's body. Wash with antibacterial soap, and finally, take care of your tools before putting them away.
That first scene
Alright. You have the tools, you have practiced on yourself, and you have a willing, perhaps wantonly willing partner. How do we begin? If the partner has never felt a blade against his or her skin, now is NOT the time to be placing the blade in the freezer or the oven. In fact, now is not even the time to be bringing any D/s or role-play into the scene. Might I suggest a clinical approach. Take your partner, and lay him or her on a stable surface. The floor works very well, water beds are RIGHT OUT. Have your partner relax, and lay the blade on his or her back, so that it has a chance to come to body temperature, and your partner can relax and focus a bit. Don't put any emotional stress on him or her, now is not the time. Simply explain what is going to happen, and help them to relax. Begin lightly, stroking them with the handle of the blade. Gradually and gently, touch them here or there, on their back, or buttocks with the flat or dull side of the blade. Get them used to it... take your time. Draw a line on their back with your finger, and tell them this will be the first welted line. Draw the line gently with the blade as I described above. It does not matter if it welts up or not, you are building trust here. Nothing fancy. Continue for a time, and see if all is agreeable. D/s and role-play can come into it on the next session. Be caring and concerned. Otherwise you may well find that you have spent good money and practiced hard, only to have that nice blade become a beautiful ornament on your mantelpiece.
A final word
If you remember nothing else from this briefest discussions on knifeplay, remember this. Go it slow, and go it sanely. There are other techniques I personally use, which I will not discuss here, since they involve a degree of skill the average reader will not have even for a few years if he or she plays and practices a fair amount. My bio is on the list here, and if you like you can mail me. Be advised that I give out little information to those I believe are not ready for it. It's not selfish, it's in the interest of your own safety. I have been playing at this game for a long time. I hope and trust you will enjoy it as much as I have. Oh yes, one more thing... Remember I mentioned fantasy knives? There is nothing quite like giving your submissive a spanking (standing bondage) using the flat side of a four and a half foot broadsword, which weighs in at more than 20 pounds. You shall have to try it some time, but that is another story.
Master Sam provides this guidance on his website about knife play (http://www.angelfire.com/al4/knife_lessons/main.html [good site about knife play])
Risk Level Assessment of commonly used knives:
The following list is not all encompassing but does convey where risk assessments play a part in the selection of the knife you may want to play with. These knives are listed from the lowest risk to highest risk. Keep in mind that even the lowest risk knives are still a risk. This is also the list I advise those new to knife play start with and spend at least half a dozen scene's a piece with before moving onward and only if you have mastered the use of the knife on the level you are on. The exception being butter knife. If you are comfortable and ready after only a couple of scenes using a butter knife, then move onward.
1) Butter knife
2) 4" or less tactical folder, single cutting edge
3) 6" or less tactical folder, single cutting edge
4) 6" or less hunting knife, single cutting edge
5) 12" or less hunting knife, single cutting edge
6) 6" or less curved knife, single edge
7) 6" or less dagger, dual cutting edges
8) 12" or less hunting knife, dual cutting edges
9) Kriss or Seprantine Knife (several curves in the cutting edges - normally dual cutting edge)
10) Simple fantasy knife: curved blade, dual edge, no more than 2 cutting points (please note on some fantasy knives there may be technically only 2 points, but due to blade design other points can be counted. The Gil Hibben Jackal for example has two prominent points at the point of the blade, but due to blade design has a total of 5 other points along the shape of the blade that could result in injury){example}
11) Complex fantasy knife: curved blade, 3 or more cutting points, single or dual cutting edge (the Cobra Blade, made famous in the movie called Cobra, is a curved dual cutting edge blade with a hilt covered in sharp points. This would be an example of a complex fantasy knife).{example}
12) Non-edged Swords
13) Simple Edged Swords
14) Complex Edge words
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We thought we would end with a narrative story about the excitement that can came with some forms of edge and knife play.
PLEASURES OF KNIFE PLAY
I was so excited when Master came to visit this time. I had bought the knife as He had instructed me. I showed it to Him as soon as we got to the room. I had to know if He liked it or not. He said it was perfect and He loved it. It was about 18" including the handle. The handle had the most unusual wood grain in it. The color in the grain of the wood went from bright green to cherry. The end of the handle had a brass wrap towards the handle making it easier to grip. In front of the handle was decorative brass extending out two inches to each side. The blade was approximately ten inches and was quite curved having an upward swing at the tip. It reminded me of a buccaneer's knife of long ago. Of course it had a brown leather case, just like Master wanted.
That evening Master told me to undress and give Him my wrist and ankle restraints. He placed my restraints on me and then put my blindfold on. He told me to lay face down on the bed and not to move, no matter what. Suddenly I felt the ice cold blade running flat against my back. The coldness of the steel took my breath away. Master would stop and then I would feel it somewhere else on my body. Master moved it slowly over my butt, down my thighs and even on my feet. The blade felt like it was making love to me. The coldness of the steel was now gone because my body heat had warmed it.
Master firmly reminded me not to move even a hair. Then I felt it. The sharp edge of the knife was now against my skin. Master took the blade moving it ever so lightly and carefully. I lay spread eagle but was not tied at this time. Master ran the edge of the blade down my spine. I began to breath heavier from the excitement I was feeling build up inside of me. Master told me to roll over on my back. Once I did He tied my arms and legs spread eagle.
As I lay there blindfolded I tried to listen for Master's every move. It's surprising how quiet a Master can be when He sets His mind to it. Suddenly I felt the prick from the tip of the knife on my right breast as Master circled the nipple. I didn't move the top half of my body but I sure moved my bottom half and Master scolded me for moving at all. He took the sharp tip and ran it over my arms, legs, inside my legs up to my pussy and then I felt cold steel against my pussy. I was scared to death and gasped saying, "No Master! Please no!" Of course in my mind I saw Master with the sharp blade against my pussy and I was terrified. Master whispered in my ear, "princess what's wrong? Don't you trust Me? Do you think I would cut you or hurt you?" I halfway whimpered, "No Master I know You would never hurt me, I'm sorry." Master reached down between my legs and pressed the cold steel hard against my pussy. It was then I realized it was the handle of the knife not the blade.
The one thing that builds such feelings of fear and being scared with knife play for me is the fact I have a blood disorder. If I start to bleed I have a very hard time trying to stop the bleeding. Would I ever do this with another Dominant? Never would I take this sort of chance with any one other than my Master. He knows of all my health problems and uses care in everything He does with me.
Being blindfolded causes so much more excitement for me. My mind runs wild when I can't see. I never have one clear thought at times like these. Numerous thoughts rush through my head all together. For example, when I had thought Master was using the blade of the knife, I could see Him slowly inserting it in me. I could almost feel the desire to want to move towards it and fuck it even knowing the danger. Then I thought of Him slipping with the knife and my getting cut. All these things rushed through my head in seconds of feeling the cold steel against me. If I had not been blindfolded I would have known what Master was doing. The knife would have felt the same on my skin. But the excitement of not knowing what was really being done would have been missing. And for me that is a very important part of our playing.
Before I met Master and was introduced into this lifestyle, I never really knew this kind of excitement or fear. Now I find living on the edge adds to the excitement and mystery of it all. I have never before experienced the type of passion that runs between Master and myself. If you have read many of my stories in My Journey you realize that our passion can be very good or very bad. But I will say the good out numbers the bad many times over.
When I lived in the vanilla world I had a desire to make love and enjoyed the closeness of a mate that I was in love with. As I think back I always remember having a feeling of "there has to be more then this". I never read hard-core stuff but even in romance novels there were exciting things happening between couples. I could never find any of those things in my relationships. Of course I would not talk about these things either. I didn't know how to let someone know I needed more. I'm not very good at that even today but I'm a whole lot better than back then. All I know is I wouldn't trade these last years of being with Master for anything in this world. He is the one that has breathed life back into this body of mine. Before Master I simply existed. Master has shown me the true meaning of life and I cherish each day that we have together.
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Well these knives may not be great for bdsm play, but we thought we would show you a few good Jewish knives.
As always we hope that you have left this week's blog feeling like you've learned either something about Judaism, something about the world of kink, or hopeful something about both of these themes.
We previously discussed how the story of the binding of Isaac from the Book of Genesis, Chapter 22, can be interpreted with undertones of dominance, submission, switching and rope bondage. This week we want to take a closer look at what this allegoric story teaches us about edge play and knife play.
"They arrived at the place of which God had spoken to Abraham; Abraham built an alter there, and arranged the wood; he bound Isaac, his son, and placed him on the alter atop the wood. Abraham stretched out his hand, and took the knife to slaughter his son. And an angel of God called to him from heaven, and said, 'Abraham! Abraham!' And Abraham said, 'Here I am.' And the angel said, 'Do not strech out your hand against the lad nor do anything to him for now I know that you are a God-fearing man, since you have not withheld your only one, from Me.'" (Genesis 22: 9-12).
In the two power dynamics here, the dominant figures, God and Abraham respectively, test their submissives' unconditional obedience. They use psychological and physical power to take their submissives to their edge. We can consider this edge play.
Edge play is defined by Wipipedia as follows (http://www.lfshosting.co.uk/wipi/index.php/Edgeplay):
"In BDSM, edgeplay is a subjective term for types of sexual play that are "on the edge" of the traditional safe, sane and consensual creed. These forms of BDSM activity are regarded by many as inadvisable and dangerous, and it is nearly universally held that they should not be attempted without proper training, supervision, safety precautions, etc. as appropriate.What constitutes edgeplay varies with the persons involved, and also over time
Edgeplay may involve:
--the risk of serious, even permanent harm or death (such as branding, body modification, breathplay, gunplay)
--increased risk of spreading disease (E.g. cuttings, bloodplay)
--psychological danger (from such practices as humiliation play, incest fantasies)
--social taboos (for example, ageplay, scat fetishism, racial slurs)
--controversial topics like Total Power Exchange, anonymous rape and abduction scenes, zoophilia.
In the story of the binding of Isaac, there is not a sexual context, but we nevertheless can learn similar lessons from this story about pushing the envelope in power relationships.
The unfaltering preparations for a human sacrifice and the intensity and immediacy of the threat to Isaac's life at the hand of Abraham's knife are the passionate extremes here.
Abraham's sadistic knife play is not limited to this one biblical story. Earlier, in Genesis 17: 23-27, Abraham went on a knife wielding circumcision rampage at the command of his God.
"Then Abraham took his son Ishmael and all those servants born in his household and all those he had purchased for money - all the male members of Abraham's house - and he circumcised the flesh of their foreskin on that very day as God had spoken with him. Abraham was 99 years old when he was circumcised on the flesh of his foreskin; and his son Ishmael was 13 years old when he was circumcised on the flesh of his foreskin. On that very day was Abraham circumcised with Ishmael his son, and all the people of his household, born in his household and purchased for money from a stranger, were circumcised with him."
Now that's one sadistic, knife happy man! All this talk of Abraham and extremism with knives, leads into our discussion on knife play.
Mephistopheles from Albany Power Exchange provided some very helpful basic tips on knife play at http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/BDSMinfo/knife_play.htm:
Knife Play
The Cutting Edge of BD/SM
The form of human interaction commonly referred to as BD/SM is in my view, best defined as "The art of producing emotional feelings and physical sensation in a human partner." Common methods of accomplishing these goals, of fulfilling this art form, include both the dynamics of the D/s relationship, and the physical reactions to the act of S&M itself. In this discussion, I will be referring to those physical aspects of the relationship and specifically, to the one method of producing physical sensation I prefer above most others, knife play.
Before I begin, there are a few misconceptions related to knife play that I would like dispel from the outset. The first deals with the "depth" of the cutting. In S&M the goal of the Top in all cases, is to inflict a maximum or desired level of sensation, WITHOUT disfiguring the physique of the bottom. Knife play is therefore about 75touching, scraping and rubbing" and about 25ctual cutting. The second popular misconception, is that a knife has but one use, but one sensation that it can produce, and is therefore of limited use to the S&M devotee. Knives have a cutting edge of course, but also have sides, points, handles and since they are made of metal, can be refrigerated or heated as the Top may decide. A third erroneous view involves the concept of actual blood letting. True, there may well be some, but this is absolutely unnecessary if undesired. Finally, the fourth most popular misconception involves the idea that to play with knives means to scar by necessity, and that scars, permanent lasting scars are the name of the game. My current partner and I have played in this manner on many occasions, and she has not ONE permanent scar on her body, despite the fact that I have had her bleed for me as often as not.
Having gotten that out of the way, let's begin:
Knives are damn dangerous things. They have been used to kill and maim for thousands of years. Some people have an inbred fear of them. Of concern to the Top, should be the fact that unless they are cared for VERY well, are sharp and are above all CLEAN, knives can well incur their traditional penalties.
There are a few rules related to knife play.
1) Buy quality equipment. You are looking for carbon steel blades, the finest quality you can find. You want a keen, smooth UNSERRATED edge. You want to keep this edge razor sharp, or rather dull. Either or, as befits your level of experience. The most dangerous knives are those that are a "little" sharp. These are unpredictable. They cut sometimes, but not others, depending on the texture of the skin. Sharp always cuts. Dull never will. Choose either and be sure of the situation.
2) Keep the knives you choose WELL. That means, use them for no other purpose. Keep them in a fine state of repair. You might well be able to get away with a cat of 20 tails that has a few tails missing, or a riding crop that has a frayed wrapping on the handle, but a knife that is chipped or nicked or has a loose handle, is absolutely ready for the garbage can., or non-S&M related uses.
3) Keep your tools clean. Always use "hospital sterile technique". Wash the knife blade and handle in denatured alcohol, or with a sterilizing soap of the sort surgeons use to scrub up with. "Liquid germicidal soap" works well here, but I still prefer alcohol. It kills bugs dead. Have your bottom take a shower before beginning. Wash your hands, and unless you are playing with your life's partner, BE SURE TO WEAR LATEX RUBBER SURGICAL GLOVES. Aids is transmitted very nicely through the blood. So are a host of other ailments.
4) Go slow. Take your time. We are NOT in a rush. Are we? Enjoy the session, and make it last a rather long time. Make slow distinctive movements. Never vary the speed unless you have a few years of experience under your belt.
5) Nothing above the shoulders. Eyes and facial nerves are impossible to repair if cut or gouged.
Specifics:
Buying a knife
The purchase of a blade, to be used in S&M play bears a deal of consideration. Visit a knife shop, and have a look at what they have on display. For your first blade, I would strongly suggest that you stay well away from all the fancy "fantasy" blades that they have on sale. They look pretty, but tend to be very cumbersome for the first time "player". Choose instead a basic knife, of medium size. A bowie with a six inch blade is a good choice. Remember, we are going for QUALITY here, so expect to spend from 100 to 150 dollars US. As you become experienced with the concepts of knifeplay, you may want to add to your collection of bladed toys. A small knife, of razor sharpness for detail work. (straight razors are the MOST dangerous knives used in this field, so be warned!) A larger blade for scoring and welting. And perhaps even a set of fingertip blades that will make you look like a well manicured version of Freddie Kruger. Each has a specific purpose, each has a role to play. Eventually, after you have become Master of the blade, you may well at that point want to invest in a premium quality fantasy knife, of the type that caught your eye the first time you walked in the door of the shop. Expect to pay between 200 to 600 dollars. Some sell for thousands. Knives to stay clear of are chrome plated ones, serrated ones, those made for food preparation, double edged knives (unless you are an expert) "fruit knives", which tend to be chrome plated stainless steel, and are unsharpenable, hobby knives, widget blades, disposable razor blades, box knives, carpet knives, switch blades, folding knives unless they have a positive lock and of course, cheap knives.
Keeping it sharp
If you have followed my advice, and purchased a quality blade, made of steel with a high carbon content, you should have little problem keeping it sharp. You will need a set of oil stones coarse, medium and fine. You will need mineral oil, to keep the stones wetted as you sharpen, and finally, you will need a leather strop (yes just like the kind your Grandfather spanked your Father with) to hone the final edge. If you are unsure, your cutler will be more than pleased to sharpen and hone your purchase for you. If you are a regular customer, you can pop in from time to time to have the edge tweaked. Beginners need no extra sharpening on their blades. The factory does a pretty damn fine job. In fact, you might just like to take that edge DOWN a notch or two, by placing a bit of steel wool on a cutting board, and running the edge through it, as if you are slicing a loaf of bread. The quality knife can always be sharpened again later. It's all a matter of choice, but I find that sharpening the blade while your bottom lays bound on the bed waiting for you adds greatly to the scene.
Keeping it clean
Since knives can break the skin (that's what they were ALL made to do in the first place!) it is imperative that you keep them absolutely clean at all times. Wash your knife by hand (NO DISHWASHERS) every time you plan to do something with it. If it came with a leather scabbard, be sure to clean the blade before putting it away. Cleaning can be as simple as rubbing it with a soft cloth, and oiling it lightly with mineral oil, (high carbon steel WILL rust if not given a light coat of mineral oil from time to time) or as involved as scrubbing it with alcohol or germicidal soap prior to it's use. Beware of using the same blade on multiple partners without sterilizing it. Never "boil" a knife in oil or water to clean off the germs either. It can ruin the handle, or even warp the blade. It can also impregnate the steel with the oil itself, and cause it to lose some of it's temper. That means you can no longer keep it sharp. (Hospitals can and DO boil all their surgical instruments with hot steam in an autoclave but note that they are all stainless steel, and that the cutting edge is disposable.) Look at it this way, you have spent from 100 to 1000 dollars on the knife. The need to keep it clean, take care of it, seems pretty straight forward after that.
Beginning technique
I have always held strongly to the philosophy of "Me First" when it comes to trying out new S&M toys. It's not that I am a masochist by any means, but how else can one actually know the sensation one is creating in one's partner. Sit yourself down in a stable chair, and take the blade in your writing hand. Place the blade SHARP SIDE UP, that is away from the skin, on your thigh near the knee, and let the weight of the blade rest more or less, depending on how much you feel, and how heavy the blade is, on it's point. Draw a line. Be delicate and gentle. Err on the side of caution. In a few minutes, if you have done sufficiently hard enough, a fine welt should begin to appear. Draw another line along side it. Draw several, varying the force on the point and the knife's position and angle. At NO time try this with the "sharp" side of the blade. Once you have mastered this, you can begin tentative steps with your partner. The technique is the same. Use the blade to draw welted lines. This is the core of knifeplay. Try this with the sharp side of the knife, and you will be taking your partner to the emergency ward. Never EVER reverse the direction of the blade so that the point digs into the skin. This is also a sure way to become familiar with the EMS people in your area. For the beginner, the drawing of these welted lines is the first stage of the learning curve. It's the beginning that can take up to a year or more to become really good at. These lines will leave no scars, yet may occasionally weep a little blood. This is not a huge concern. They will in time fade, but may take a few days to do so. Something to consider when playing this way, as they may be difficult to explain the following day at work. Experiment with placement of the lines, patterns and such. Don't be afraid to lay them down over the erogenous zones, but watch out for ticklish people. Nobody wants any sudden movements.
Another beginning technique is that of "dragging". Place the blade sharp side down against your thigh. (I am assuming you are going to practice on yourself again first, and are sitting once more on that sturdy chair.) Tilt the blade so that it lays at about a 45 degree angle to your skin. Now move the blade so that it scrapes your skin, that is drag it AWAY from the sharp edge. If you move it the other way, you will cut yourself deeply if the blade is as sharp as I have suggested it be, or you will simply gouge a little if you are a rank beginner and have wisely dulled it on the steel wool as I suggested. Continue to drag the blade, back and forth, as if spreading butter on a slice of bread. Vary the force, and feel how your skin reacts. My partner finds this particularly relaxing on her back, and the backs of her legs. I often use it, and a gentle voice, to help her find her focus prior to beginning more advanced play. Again this can be used all over the body.. However, there is ONE caveat. I would not recommend this around the nipples, nor would I suggest this for any places where the body's curves might cause you to unintentionally place too much weight on any one given spot along the length of the blade. Always start the knife moving laterally before applying pressure, or you will cut deeply. NEVER pull the knife to the side, (towards the handle) or you will cut. Again, play cautiously. You have the rest of your life to build up to the "ultimate scene"
More advanced Techniques
Once you feel confident that you have mastered the beginning stages, and can stripe your partner so that he or she looks like a tiger or zebra, consider moving to the next step. By now you will have acquired a variety of blades. Choose a small and wickedly sharp one. Razor sharp. Experiment first on yourself once again. Make a line on your thigh, that will produce a nice clean welt. Lay the large knife aside. Now, using the small blade, make tiny scratches at 90 degrees to the welt line, that will draw a little blood. The cuts need go ONLY into the welt itself, NOT the skin on either side. Hence the need for a small sharp knife, or you WILL cut too far. I find it handy to use a short bladed knife, and to hold it as one would a pencil for this. PLEASE don't give into the temptation to use an exacto knife or a carpet knife...You cannot get them clean enough. Wrap a longer blade with a few layers of sterile bandage tape if you need to to protect your hand from the cutting edge. These cuts will bleed freely, and seal themselves quickly after having done so. Still it is possible to have your partner's back or thighs, or wherever you choose, to become awash in the sheen of red. The secret is not to make deep cuts to flow the blood, but instead to make MANY tiny ones each producing no more than a few drops. On a personal note, I have always found the climax of such a scene, to be the point where I take some of this red nectar from my partner... (yes, life's partner) into my mouth, returning it to her in a kiss. It's something I would recommend only for those who play exclusively together, and have no other partners. Once you have completed your session, take the time to cleanse your partner's body. Wash with antibacterial soap, and finally, take care of your tools before putting them away.
That first scene
Alright. You have the tools, you have practiced on yourself, and you have a willing, perhaps wantonly willing partner. How do we begin? If the partner has never felt a blade against his or her skin, now is NOT the time to be placing the blade in the freezer or the oven. In fact, now is not even the time to be bringing any D/s or role-play into the scene. Might I suggest a clinical approach. Take your partner, and lay him or her on a stable surface. The floor works very well, water beds are RIGHT OUT. Have your partner relax, and lay the blade on his or her back, so that it has a chance to come to body temperature, and your partner can relax and focus a bit. Don't put any emotional stress on him or her, now is not the time. Simply explain what is going to happen, and help them to relax. Begin lightly, stroking them with the handle of the blade. Gradually and gently, touch them here or there, on their back, or buttocks with the flat or dull side of the blade. Get them used to it... take your time. Draw a line on their back with your finger, and tell them this will be the first welted line. Draw the line gently with the blade as I described above. It does not matter if it welts up or not, you are building trust here. Nothing fancy. Continue for a time, and see if all is agreeable. D/s and role-play can come into it on the next session. Be caring and concerned. Otherwise you may well find that you have spent good money and practiced hard, only to have that nice blade become a beautiful ornament on your mantelpiece.
A final word
If you remember nothing else from this briefest discussions on knifeplay, remember this. Go it slow, and go it sanely. There are other techniques I personally use, which I will not discuss here, since they involve a degree of skill the average reader will not have even for a few years if he or she plays and practices a fair amount. My bio is on the list here, and if you like you can mail me. Be advised that I give out little information to those I believe are not ready for it. It's not selfish, it's in the interest of your own safety. I have been playing at this game for a long time. I hope and trust you will enjoy it as much as I have. Oh yes, one more thing... Remember I mentioned fantasy knives? There is nothing quite like giving your submissive a spanking (standing bondage) using the flat side of a four and a half foot broadsword, which weighs in at more than 20 pounds. You shall have to try it some time, but that is another story.
Master Sam provides this guidance on his website about knife play (http://www.angelfire.com/al4/knife_lessons/main.html [good site about knife play])
Risk Level Assessment of commonly used knives:
The following list is not all encompassing but does convey where risk assessments play a part in the selection of the knife you may want to play with. These knives are listed from the lowest risk to highest risk. Keep in mind that even the lowest risk knives are still a risk. This is also the list I advise those new to knife play start with and spend at least half a dozen scene's a piece with before moving onward and only if you have mastered the use of the knife on the level you are on. The exception being butter knife. If you are comfortable and ready after only a couple of scenes using a butter knife, then move onward.
1) Butter knife
2) 4" or less tactical folder, single cutting edge
3) 6" or less tactical folder, single cutting edge
4) 6" or less hunting knife, single cutting edge
5) 12" or less hunting knife, single cutting edge
6) 6" or less curved knife, single edge
7) 6" or less dagger, dual cutting edges
8) 12" or less hunting knife, dual cutting edges
9) Kriss or Seprantine Knife (several curves in the cutting edges - normally dual cutting edge)
10) Simple fantasy knife: curved blade, dual edge, no more than 2 cutting points (please note on some fantasy knives there may be technically only 2 points, but due to blade design other points can be counted. The Gil Hibben Jackal for example has two prominent points at the point of the blade, but due to blade design has a total of 5 other points along the shape of the blade that could result in injury){example}
11) Complex fantasy knife: curved blade, 3 or more cutting points, single or dual cutting edge (the Cobra Blade, made famous in the movie called Cobra, is a curved dual cutting edge blade with a hilt covered in sharp points. This would be an example of a complex fantasy knife).{example}
12) Non-edged Swords
13) Simple Edged Swords
14) Complex Edge words
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We thought we would end with a narrative story about the excitement that can came with some forms of edge and knife play.
PLEASURES OF KNIFE PLAY
I was so excited when Master came to visit this time. I had bought the knife as He had instructed me. I showed it to Him as soon as we got to the room. I had to know if He liked it or not. He said it was perfect and He loved it. It was about 18" including the handle. The handle had the most unusual wood grain in it. The color in the grain of the wood went from bright green to cherry. The end of the handle had a brass wrap towards the handle making it easier to grip. In front of the handle was decorative brass extending out two inches to each side. The blade was approximately ten inches and was quite curved having an upward swing at the tip. It reminded me of a buccaneer's knife of long ago. Of course it had a brown leather case, just like Master wanted.
That evening Master told me to undress and give Him my wrist and ankle restraints. He placed my restraints on me and then put my blindfold on. He told me to lay face down on the bed and not to move, no matter what. Suddenly I felt the ice cold blade running flat against my back. The coldness of the steel took my breath away. Master would stop and then I would feel it somewhere else on my body. Master moved it slowly over my butt, down my thighs and even on my feet. The blade felt like it was making love to me. The coldness of the steel was now gone because my body heat had warmed it.
Master firmly reminded me not to move even a hair. Then I felt it. The sharp edge of the knife was now against my skin. Master took the blade moving it ever so lightly and carefully. I lay spread eagle but was not tied at this time. Master ran the edge of the blade down my spine. I began to breath heavier from the excitement I was feeling build up inside of me. Master told me to roll over on my back. Once I did He tied my arms and legs spread eagle.
As I lay there blindfolded I tried to listen for Master's every move. It's surprising how quiet a Master can be when He sets His mind to it. Suddenly I felt the prick from the tip of the knife on my right breast as Master circled the nipple. I didn't move the top half of my body but I sure moved my bottom half and Master scolded me for moving at all. He took the sharp tip and ran it over my arms, legs, inside my legs up to my pussy and then I felt cold steel against my pussy. I was scared to death and gasped saying, "No Master! Please no!" Of course in my mind I saw Master with the sharp blade against my pussy and I was terrified. Master whispered in my ear, "princess what's wrong? Don't you trust Me? Do you think I would cut you or hurt you?" I halfway whimpered, "No Master I know You would never hurt me, I'm sorry." Master reached down between my legs and pressed the cold steel hard against my pussy. It was then I realized it was the handle of the knife not the blade.
The one thing that builds such feelings of fear and being scared with knife play for me is the fact I have a blood disorder. If I start to bleed I have a very hard time trying to stop the bleeding. Would I ever do this with another Dominant? Never would I take this sort of chance with any one other than my Master. He knows of all my health problems and uses care in everything He does with me.
Being blindfolded causes so much more excitement for me. My mind runs wild when I can't see. I never have one clear thought at times like these. Numerous thoughts rush through my head all together. For example, when I had thought Master was using the blade of the knife, I could see Him slowly inserting it in me. I could almost feel the desire to want to move towards it and fuck it even knowing the danger. Then I thought of Him slipping with the knife and my getting cut. All these things rushed through my head in seconds of feeling the cold steel against me. If I had not been blindfolded I would have known what Master was doing. The knife would have felt the same on my skin. But the excitement of not knowing what was really being done would have been missing. And for me that is a very important part of our playing.
Before I met Master and was introduced into this lifestyle, I never really knew this kind of excitement or fear. Now I find living on the edge adds to the excitement and mystery of it all. I have never before experienced the type of passion that runs between Master and myself. If you have read many of my stories in My Journey you realize that our passion can be very good or very bad. But I will say the good out numbers the bad many times over.
When I lived in the vanilla world I had a desire to make love and enjoyed the closeness of a mate that I was in love with. As I think back I always remember having a feeling of "there has to be more then this". I never read hard-core stuff but even in romance novels there were exciting things happening between couples. I could never find any of those things in my relationships. Of course I would not talk about these things either. I didn't know how to let someone know I needed more. I'm not very good at that even today but I'm a whole lot better than back then. All I know is I wouldn't trade these last years of being with Master for anything in this world. He is the one that has breathed life back into this body of mine. Before Master I simply existed. Master has shown me the true meaning of life and I cherish each day that we have together.
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Well these knives may not be great for bdsm play, but we thought we would show you a few good Jewish knives.
As always we hope that you have left this week's blog feeling like you've learned either something about Judaism, something about the world of kink, or hopeful something about both of these themes.
salome:
Well researched. Have you joined the BDSM group on SG?
kinkyjews:
Yes, they just accepted KinkyJews last week.