I might have already mentioned this before in an earlier entry, so forgive me if this is repetitive, but I don't have time to go through all my journal entries. Also, this is my journal, and I'll write as I please, and if you don't like it you can pound sand. With that out of the way, I think every straight man should use Grindr. As a non-straight, but also non-gay, man, I use Grindr because I have no particular affinity for bars but I do find some men attractive. And oh dear heavens, the gay and bi boys are no different than the straight ones. It is immensely frustrating when an attractive man approaches you with "Looking?" and then immediately sends you four pictures of his penis. My interest in that person simply evaporates, which is a shame, although it does let me get a lot more reading done. But the upside is that I have a much clearer idea of what online dating is like for women, and I have a much more finely tuned sense of sympathy for women in the public sphere, surrounded by people who look at you as a piece of meat and act correspondingly.
One other thing I had on my mind: these incels, the involuntary celibates. They're not involuntarily celibate. If all they wanted was sex, just take a quick trip to Nevada every once in a while; there are plenty of prostitutes to frequent, although our federal government, in its infinite wisdom, has made their lives significantly harder. But what grinds them, meaning the incels, is not their lack of access to sex; it's their lack of a sense of worth. The persistent rejection they experience tells them that they are not valuable. The longer I've been single, the more this has become clear to me. What they want, fundamentally, is to be praised, and the problem is that they don't seem to do anything or have any qualities that are praiseworthy. They haven't earned, but they think they're entitled. The lack of sex is a symptom of their greater illness, which no one seems to have diagnosed.