After an exceedingly long dry-spell (4 years), I succumbed to what may possibly have been the stupidest idea I have ever had. Unprotected sex with a stranger.
The irony is, I have been a strong proponent for safe sex my whole life. Read the literature, practiced it whenever the opportunity arose, never bothered with anyone I didnt know well enough personally.
Still, with all this knowledge and previous precautions, all it took was one night and a blow job. I actually thought to myself, A blow job how bad could it be? Even though I KNEW the risks of just a blow job.
And NO ONE should ever think, Wow, theyre so into me, Im sure theyve NEVER had sex with someone theyve just met before. Because they probably have and were about as careful as they were willing to be with you, which was not at all. Again, something I knew and mentally disregarded.
So, what became of it all? Well, if Im lucky, its no more than a fungal infection or something that can be cleared up with medication. The worse case scenario: Ive contracted herpes. No cure.
I wont know for a few days if Ive contracted herpes or not. But simply thinking about it has changed my outlook on things. For one, my sex life is pretty much over. I know you can take precautions to help prevent its spreading, but apparently condoms are not 100% effective, and I quite simply cant deal with the fact I could spread this to anyone else. It just doesnt seem fair. This, of course, isnt even an issue if the person who decides theyd like to take me to bed decides better of it once I inform them Im infected. Telling someone you have herpes is the best way to sway someone from wanting a physical relationship with you. So, in short, if they still decide its worth the risk to be with me using precautions, I probably wont want to risk it. End result: no sex. Wishing Id had more of it now.
Id also considered the past few years of having a family. Aside from the no sex I plan on never having again, EVEN if I did decided to break down and have a physical relationship with someone, settle down, get married and start a family spreading it to my partner would be quite easy while trying to conceive, which then puts the unborn child at risk. The best way to give birth when infected with herpes is to have a cesarean. Not the most pleasant process of giving birth. Also tends to leave a bit of a scare. Again, this is too much to ask of someone. Willingly accepting a virus and being cut open to give birth.. No.
So, why would I be putting all of this out there if Im not even sure if I have herpes yet? Why risk the stigma simply the rumor of me having it will bring me? Because I KNEW better and maybe YOU think you know better, too.
Please, DO NOT have unprotected sex with ANYONE youre not 100% sure of. Even then, feel free to double check. Even then, make sure its someone who you REALLY want to be with.
Take care, everyone.
The irony is, I have been a strong proponent for safe sex my whole life. Read the literature, practiced it whenever the opportunity arose, never bothered with anyone I didnt know well enough personally.
Still, with all this knowledge and previous precautions, all it took was one night and a blow job. I actually thought to myself, A blow job how bad could it be? Even though I KNEW the risks of just a blow job.
And NO ONE should ever think, Wow, theyre so into me, Im sure theyve NEVER had sex with someone theyve just met before. Because they probably have and were about as careful as they were willing to be with you, which was not at all. Again, something I knew and mentally disregarded.
So, what became of it all? Well, if Im lucky, its no more than a fungal infection or something that can be cleared up with medication. The worse case scenario: Ive contracted herpes. No cure.
I wont know for a few days if Ive contracted herpes or not. But simply thinking about it has changed my outlook on things. For one, my sex life is pretty much over. I know you can take precautions to help prevent its spreading, but apparently condoms are not 100% effective, and I quite simply cant deal with the fact I could spread this to anyone else. It just doesnt seem fair. This, of course, isnt even an issue if the person who decides theyd like to take me to bed decides better of it once I inform them Im infected. Telling someone you have herpes is the best way to sway someone from wanting a physical relationship with you. So, in short, if they still decide its worth the risk to be with me using precautions, I probably wont want to risk it. End result: no sex. Wishing Id had more of it now.
Id also considered the past few years of having a family. Aside from the no sex I plan on never having again, EVEN if I did decided to break down and have a physical relationship with someone, settle down, get married and start a family spreading it to my partner would be quite easy while trying to conceive, which then puts the unborn child at risk. The best way to give birth when infected with herpes is to have a cesarean. Not the most pleasant process of giving birth. Also tends to leave a bit of a scare. Again, this is too much to ask of someone. Willingly accepting a virus and being cut open to give birth.. No.
So, why would I be putting all of this out there if Im not even sure if I have herpes yet? Why risk the stigma simply the rumor of me having it will bring me? Because I KNEW better and maybe YOU think you know better, too.
Please, DO NOT have unprotected sex with ANYONE youre not 100% sure of. Even then, feel free to double check. Even then, make sure its someone who you REALLY want to be with.
Take care, everyone.
I got out today.
I will call you soon.