As for the boss thing, the point of compassion isn't to think "it's okay that she's being an asshole to me." It isn't okay that she's being an asshole to you. You can't save her job (or cost her her job, for that matter). The point of compassion is that it's a shield. You can literally think of it that way. If you can get compassion for her, you can use it to protect your mind from the shit she's throwing at you. And as an added benefit, because the shit is now bouncing off your shield, you're in a position to interact with her without being maxed out just dealing with the shit, which is good for you and her.
But the main thing is to keep trying. None of this stuff ever works the first time. It's like learning karate--the first year of doing katas probably makes you clumsier, because you're thinking everything through, and that's too slow. But eventually it becomes second nature, and then you can actually do something with it.
I don't know when my gift account expires here. I think it's sometime next week. I have to pay a bunch of stuff like car insurance and new tabs soI won't be able to renew my account for a while.i will try to get back on here ASAP. hit me up on facebook my email john.det.734.det@gmail.com. myspace.com/fuckimjamey, aim:passengerme.
I really don't have much at the moment. The only things going through my head at the moment are the negatives...I feel disconnected from everyone. Like the relationships that I have with all my friends and family are falling apart. I feel like my whole world is shifting and caving in on itself. I have no idea what to do about it. I guess it's... Read More
The only constant in your world is that you are in it. We tend to look at the world and think it's more solid than it is. And then when it disappoints us, we freak out. It's a horrible feeling. The only way to avoid it is to stop setting the foundation of your peace of mind on things that aren't dependable, and find something that is. I realize that's easier said than done, but that's what you have to do.
So yesterday was awesome we put in a couple hours on my back tattoo. Bill had to go over a lot of the shading that we already did because the Rotary machine is... Read More
If you have compassion you can make it your practice to be compassionate toward someone who doesn't appear to have any, and you can even do it in a relationship with them. But it's a practice, and it isn't easy, and if you do it you're not doing it to get something out of it for yourself - you're doing it to practice compassion. If karma works, by doing this practice you should actually be able to transform someone who's really cold-hearted and selfish into someone who's perfectly compassionate.
And the point is that if you do do a practice like this (and I'm not suggesting it), nothing you do to try to correct the other person's behavior will have any effect at all. You can negotiate all you want, and nothing will change. You can plead, and nothing will change. You can criticize, and nothing will change. All the change will come from how you, yourself, behave toward them and toward everyone else in the world around you.
So this is a good practice to do if you're already in a relationship with someone you don't want to leave. But it could take a while, so it's definitely easier to start out with someone who already has compassion, if you can find someone like that.
"Charlie Chaplin once entered a Charlie Chaplin look-alike contest in Monte Carlo and came in third; that's a story."
work. sleep. think. type. sleep. work.
today is a good day. loving life.
i'm out.
edited to add I was listening to some hip hop song by a local guy and heard these lyrics which cracked me(though they probably shouldn't as they are very tasteless) "Screaming... Read More
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I got home from work yesterday and stayed up all day. I hung out with neighbor and we road our bikes up to the Bar. Had Water. He paid for some food. Gave me money cause he knew I was broke. I told him I didn't... Read More
