frankenhovey

I just read an awesome tidbit of information in Esquire. In an advice column, the columnist made the statement that (I am paraphrasing here) any time a person gives more attention on a regular basis to someone other than their spouse or partner, it is considered an affair of sorts. It may not be a sexual affair or the like but it is still a violation. Upon reading this I realized this has a very true meaning to me. Several times in my life, I have had really close friends who have gone and gotten married and our friendship has changed and evolved. This always did not settle well with me (I learned to deal with it and am no longer bothered by it...call it maturity or a defense mechanism...I got over it and learned to enjoy the new direction my relationship with both the old friend and the new friend's (spouse) I met along the way. In many ways I am happier with the new results.) This column gave me greater insight to the other side of the coin. Just because they did not spend the same amount of time, or do the same things and same activities with me does not mean anything negative toward me, It just means they need to spend that time with their significant other in order to get the most out of their relationship and be faithful to their significant other. It was like a cartoon lightbulb went off in my head. Amazing what one can learn about themselves from a random quote or article.

And now for a dramatic shift in thought and a great segway. Speaking of relationships, Bigfoot is a hoax!!!!! In the immortal word of Brainy Smurf - "I was right, I was riiight!!".

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XL6bClxI0jc