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I've been reminded as to why I stay off the boards. Too much garbage not enough nutrients. oh well... it's sad though. Sad sad sad. props to anyone who hasn't given up and has worked on life and living as a consious choice.
done for a while. I forgot how harsh sg really is.
oprah moment time!
I delt with something like this a little while back. I was dating this fellow and really liked him, but felt just really self consious and not attractive and so on. I wasn't. My body was actually alittle smaller than I am in the shots posted. Anyways. Unlike the guy who wrote into the sg advice column, my guy would always get frustrated with me and then say things that weren't too pleasent, with his entire demeanor towards the relationship changing. And it wouldn't stay there, the attitude would then kinda seep into the other aspects of our relationship. Bad went to worse and then ended. ::sigh:: I got over it. But I havn't had a boyfriend since. A few males, but no one steady. And ovbiously don't see myself in that light anymore (note the shots posted in my files) Rebuliding post that relationship was hard. It sucked. and it hurt. alot. but it can be done. and it didn't require anyone but me.
Guys, if your girl is doing this, And you give a damn about her, don't stop telling her she's beautiful. Do romantic things, take the time to hold her and tell her she's beautiful wthout having a hard on and then don't engage in sexual activity for a while. Make her pancakes for breakfast. SPEAK WITH HER! Find out how awesome this chick is that you're with. Be open to her in the other areas of life and give her a safe place to grow sexually. She's probally dealt with crap like what I have or worse. OR. IF you don't give a damn about her and/or you reach breaking point with it, leave the relationship in a respectful manner. (ESPICALLY ifyou are so over it all you just wanna scream!) Regardless, have boundries of that which you will and will not be responsible for in realtionships. Someone's self esteem is their issue. Just as is someone's hardon. All of this is repeated for Chicks, with the proper pronoun change.
yea. oprah moment over.
ps. Include in this the below statement from our sponsors.
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Something I believe firmly, and will not waver on Is that YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE! If it sucks, then you're the only one who can change it. It's your life. Not mine, not her's, not his. YOURS. Whatever your issue is. Deal with it. Don't rely on other people. People suck. they will never be there for you. because face it, you're not important to their lives. Why? you're not them. we are human. humans are selfish. We each live in our own universes that have us in the very center! Don't expect someone to modify their universe to circle around you. You're responsible for your own shit. it stinks. I don't want to deal with it. you deal with it. ITS YOURS! Grow some fucking balls, grow up, create yourself (it's within your ablity) and take responsiblity like an adult.
Fig
I've been reminded as to why I stay off the boards. Too much garbage not enough nutrients. oh well... it's sad though. Sad sad sad. props to anyone who hasn't given up and has worked on life and living as a consious choice.
done for a while. I forgot how harsh sg really is.
oprah moment time!
I delt with something like this a little while back. I was dating this fellow and really liked him, but felt just really self consious and not attractive and so on. I wasn't. My body was actually alittle smaller than I am in the shots posted. Anyways. Unlike the guy who wrote into the sg advice column, my guy would always get frustrated with me and then say things that weren't too pleasent, with his entire demeanor towards the relationship changing. And it wouldn't stay there, the attitude would then kinda seep into the other aspects of our relationship. Bad went to worse and then ended. ::sigh:: I got over it. But I havn't had a boyfriend since. A few males, but no one steady. And ovbiously don't see myself in that light anymore (note the shots posted in my files) Rebuliding post that relationship was hard. It sucked. and it hurt. alot. but it can be done. and it didn't require anyone but me.
Guys, if your girl is doing this, And you give a damn about her, don't stop telling her she's beautiful. Do romantic things, take the time to hold her and tell her she's beautiful wthout having a hard on and then don't engage in sexual activity for a while. Make her pancakes for breakfast. SPEAK WITH HER! Find out how awesome this chick is that you're with. Be open to her in the other areas of life and give her a safe place to grow sexually. She's probally dealt with crap like what I have or worse. OR. IF you don't give a damn about her and/or you reach breaking point with it, leave the relationship in a respectful manner. (ESPICALLY ifyou are so over it all you just wanna scream!) Regardless, have boundries of that which you will and will not be responsible for in realtionships. Someone's self esteem is their issue. Just as is someone's hardon. All of this is repeated for Chicks, with the proper pronoun change.
yea. oprah moment over.
ps. Include in this the below statement from our sponsors.
*edit*
Something I believe firmly, and will not waver on Is that YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE! If it sucks, then you're the only one who can change it. It's your life. Not mine, not her's, not his. YOURS. Whatever your issue is. Deal with it. Don't rely on other people. People suck. they will never be there for you. because face it, you're not important to their lives. Why? you're not them. we are human. humans are selfish. We each live in our own universes that have us in the very center! Don't expect someone to modify their universe to circle around you. You're responsible for your own shit. it stinks. I don't want to deal with it. you deal with it. ITS YOURS! Grow some fucking balls, grow up, create yourself (it's within your ablity) and take responsiblity like an adult.
Fig
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done for a while. I forgot how harsh sg really is."
Too much Procrastination wouldn't you say? Eh, we all do it.
Why Search for Inner Peace when we can ramble on about Random subjects haha....
You deserve props
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