Is it possible to say something negative about oneself without being accused of feeling sorry for yourself?
I have come to believe that I will never be married or have children. This isn't some overnight sort of thing, either. I'm 32, so truthfully, I'm past my prime. Looking at myself with an honest eye, yes, there are things that I think women would find attractive about me, but I know that there are a lot of unattractive things as well. I don't have a job, I'm overweight, and I have a criminal record for being stupid when I was younger. Oh, and of course, there's my depression. But I just feel like I can't ever express these thoughts into words, because then someone's going to think I'm having a pity party, and then they feel obliged to try and cheer me up.
The truth is, I just have terrible luck with women. Usually, the ones I find are clingy, or they have depression issues of their own, that I want to help with, but eventually, I just can't keep up. Also, I get scared off sometimes by women. It's like, it's so rare to find a woman who pursues me, rather than me pursuing her, that I just don't know how to deal with it, so I end up spazzing out and screwing things up. I mean, like right now, there's a girl on this site that I really like, but I'm so scared of really trying anything because I don't want to seem clingy, or just like a typical fan or whatever. Sure, I thought she was gorgeous before I messaged her, and I really liked a lot of the stuff in her profile, but truthfully, it was while we were talking back and forth that I really started finding myself truly attracted to her. I feel lost now though, and want to proceed, but don't know what to do.
And RL hasn't really been any better. I honestly don't even know any single women, so that's pretty much out. Since I'm not working, it's not like I can meet anyone from work, or go out to meet women... so, unless something truly surprising happens, I'm stuck in this rut, and I don't want to be... but it's a rut I dug.
I have come to believe that I will never be married or have children. This isn't some overnight sort of thing, either. I'm 32, so truthfully, I'm past my prime. Looking at myself with an honest eye, yes, there are things that I think women would find attractive about me, but I know that there are a lot of unattractive things as well. I don't have a job, I'm overweight, and I have a criminal record for being stupid when I was younger. Oh, and of course, there's my depression. But I just feel like I can't ever express these thoughts into words, because then someone's going to think I'm having a pity party, and then they feel obliged to try and cheer me up.
The truth is, I just have terrible luck with women. Usually, the ones I find are clingy, or they have depression issues of their own, that I want to help with, but eventually, I just can't keep up. Also, I get scared off sometimes by women. It's like, it's so rare to find a woman who pursues me, rather than me pursuing her, that I just don't know how to deal with it, so I end up spazzing out and screwing things up. I mean, like right now, there's a girl on this site that I really like, but I'm so scared of really trying anything because I don't want to seem clingy, or just like a typical fan or whatever. Sure, I thought she was gorgeous before I messaged her, and I really liked a lot of the stuff in her profile, but truthfully, it was while we were talking back and forth that I really started finding myself truly attracted to her. I feel lost now though, and want to proceed, but don't know what to do.
And RL hasn't really been any better. I honestly don't even know any single women, so that's pretty much out. Since I'm not working, it's not like I can meet anyone from work, or go out to meet women... so, unless something truly surprising happens, I'm stuck in this rut, and I don't want to be... but it's a rut I dug.