So I have somewhat of a problem. My girlfriend has gone back to school, and she is also trying to get a side business of the ground. Im really proud of her for doing all of this, but in doing so, we have gotten zero time together. I will go to her house and end up sitting in the other room watching tv because she is busy with school work or her side business.
This has been going on sice January, but it didnt become a real problem until this week when we couldn't celebrate our 7 year anniversary because she had a presentation to deliver in one of her classes. So we adapted. Our anniversary was Tuesday night, her presentation was Wednesday night, so we made dinner plans for Thursday night. Except before we went to dinner, i had to take her to a business associates house, to drop something off. And then I was told that after dinner, she had to come back here to drop something else off, that she had forgotten at home. So there goes any plans of doing anything after dinner.
And I kind of feel like I'm in a "Fucked if I do, fucked if I don't" situation because if I say anything, I feel like Im not being supportive. But if I don't say anything, then things will just stay the same and all I will have is a girlfriend that I only get to spend time with when Im driving her to events for her business.
This has been going on sice January, but it didnt become a real problem until this week when we couldn't celebrate our 7 year anniversary because she had a presentation to deliver in one of her classes. So we adapted. Our anniversary was Tuesday night, her presentation was Wednesday night, so we made dinner plans for Thursday night. Except before we went to dinner, i had to take her to a business associates house, to drop something off. And then I was told that after dinner, she had to come back here to drop something else off, that she had forgotten at home. So there goes any plans of doing anything after dinner.
And I kind of feel like I'm in a "Fucked if I do, fucked if I don't" situation because if I say anything, I feel like Im not being supportive. But if I don't say anything, then things will just stay the same and all I will have is a girlfriend that I only get to spend time with when Im driving her to events for her business.
peachysweetlove:
You two should talk about this .... sometimes you have to remind yourself that school isn't forever. See if she has a time frame on her goals and decide if that's a time frame you can deal with. You might have to spend your time driving her to and from right now but is that better then no time at all? I'm slightly biased because I have a demanding job that sometimes comes up at all hours or may be very isolating at times....but I know this isn't my "forever". I've had guys say I work too much...etc but this is the dues I pay for the field I want to be in....and I hope to find a guy who understands and supports that because the overall benefits will outweigh these temporary inconveniences. But...only you can decide and I think the first step is to talk because she might not even realize you feel this way. You aren't saying she shouldn't do it ...you just want a little more "her" time in the middle of it all. Good luck babe.