The SG and Me Blog

This is me, on why I'm here.

it all started a couple of years ago when a very good friend of mine told me she was thinking of submitting a set of pics to SG. I think i knew what it was but i'd never considered being a member.
This friend of mine is the daughter of a girl i went out with 20 years ago. We lost touch from the time she was 5 until she was almost 20. She meant a great deal to me - this little kid. I had no idea i liked kids until she was in my life.... and after her mom and i parted ways - it left a big hole in my life until i finally had a family of my own many years later.

So through the magic of the internet i was able to find her after almost a couple of decades. It started a tentative friendship at first but before long we were trading emails and eventually chatting and became friends again. She's since met this great guy and they now have had a child of their own.

She is also a very talented artist. As a natural part of the process she explored her own body with her art via photography and paint which may have led her to SG (not sure).
It was a little weird for me at first - she's still a little girl in my mind. And even when we see each other she's still a little girl (sorry !) but in her photography she's a beautiful young woman and being a guy who grew up believing women to be the most perfect form of art in existence (yes - as well as people) it would be hypocritical - and totally uncool for me not to support what she was doing. In other words .. she forced me to grow up a bit.

So i joined SG - prepared to support her efforts, and ironically - she never did send in any of her sets. SG missed a beautiful opportunity there - but sometimes the stars that allign at one point, can move slightly later. Situations change. She's still an active member - a popular part of the community from what i can see, and a very happy/busy/fantastic mom.

So i was a member of SG for about 18 months without ever looking at it. I went in initially and looked around a bit - but soon stopped and forgot my username/password.

Out of curiosity a few months ago something made me check to see if i could still get in ...
Oh - it was because my friend had her baby and told me she posted pics up - that was it..
I had to send emails to find my username and password and eventually went in to check out the pics. (cute baby - of course)

Then - for the first time - i noticed the forums.
I used to belong to forums here and there on the webs .. but i'd get turned off by them after a bit. The trolling and general unpleasantness that exists online is unbelievable. Forums seem to be the electronic flame that attracts the crazy moths. social misfits looking for anonomous victims because its the only way they can hit back - as they are the ones victimized in the real world. Sad ? yeah i guess - but i really don't go to a forum to deal with that. i just want to talk about movies. thats all. no bullshit. no drama. If i meet people who i can connect with and we can joke around - thats fine, i just dont need drama. plenty of that in the real world.

So i see there are forums here and i take a look. first at the geezer forum. Woah - everyone is nice - no bullshit.
Then i see the movie forums ... every one is civil there too (there have been a couple of minor exceptions but it gets toned down quickly - its just not tolerated)
Then i find the photography forums ... and i'm completely hooked.
I've been interested in photography since i was a kid. But i never had any encouragement. (without going into detail - my parents were a couple of self absorbed assholes who seemed to try to spend the 17 years i was in their house convincing me i wasnt capable of doing anything. 49 years later i'm shaking that cloud off but its still part of me. I always wanted to express myself with some kind of medium. I tried painting, drawing, etc (i sucked) ..never had the money for camera gear. until recently.
Several years ago a guy at work gave me this old Zeiss Icon camera. an ancient 35mm. I started playing with it .. it was completely manual and i never learned all the ins and outs of it - but i liked it.
Eventually i got a decent Minolta at a garage sale and after years of that got into digital.
I bought my 1st D-SLR on my own (a cheaper Sony alpha-100 - my wife uses it now) but a guy at work showed me his Nikon and i never used the Sony a day after that. It felt at home in my hand - like it beloonged there. I caressed the body, licked the buttons, took off the cap exposing the hole where the lense goes, unzipped my pants and ...

ok - you get the picture (no pun intended) I LOVED the nikon.

My father passed away about this time - unexpectedly - and left us some money. My wife and i have good jobs.. we arent hurting .. but it was hard to justify expensive camera equipment for a hobby. The money my father left me changed that.

I used a bit of it to get set up nicely with photo gear ... shit this is more suitable for another blog about me and photography .. back on track.

The point was - i had a life long interest in photography, i had an eye for it, i now had the gear ... and SG had a photography forum. For the most part i read it .. went back and looked at threads from the beginning and started picking up all kinds of tips and tricks that were shared by the incredibly generous and talented photogs on the sight.

So at this point.. i'm hooked on SG.

Oh - 1 other pivotal thing happened. I was at a fan convention i was sent to cover in the spring. They had an SG booth there so i went by to pick up THE BOOK. There was a handfull of canadian SGs there - one of them looked really familiar. Beautiful girl ... i couldnt stop thinking i knew her when it suddenly came to me - no way ! - so i asked her ..." Do you work in a used DVD store ?"

and it was her .. Nymph ... i've bought DVDs off of her dozens of times (thinking when i did that she'd make an awesome SG) and she does. (she's since left the job at the DVD store - so don't ask me where it is !)
So when i got home i looked up the sets for the girls i just saw and was blown away by how good they are. These girls are the real deal - professional models.
Not only are the girls out of this world stunning, but the photography was just so well done - and interesting..
So that got me checking out their sets and a few others that are recommended - attached to their sets.
And thats how i eneded up with my first couple of friends, and favorite Suicide Girls.

Lastly - especially Geezers - i started liking several of the people i 'met' in the forums.
Turns out some of them use the chat function so i got to meet a few there as well.

So yeah - now i'm hooked. I created a profile, try to share the odd pics .. I've made friends through geezers and film forums... i've sent friend requests and have had some sent to me ....and there are a small handfull of people i chat with back and forth via PMs daily - and i really look forward to that interraction.

No bullshit, no hidden agenda, just nice folks i'd love to hang and talk with with if we werent seperated by all the geography between us.

One more thing.

I never once viewed SG as a porn site. I've seen it referred to as such many times. I dont equate female nudity as porn. never have. I'm not going to say it cant be exciting .. sure it is. but so can a beautiful woman in a sexy outfit passing me on the opposite escalator ina department store.

To me porn is photos of the act of physical sex. its pretty much that simple. Sex can be implied in the multi sets - but its really very tame.
Some solo sets can be more explicit than others ... but thats still not pornogaphic. we all have bodies.
Pictures of a womans body isnt porn.
Maybe its because i'm a canadian - we seem to have closer cultural ties with our more open european cousins. Maybe its because i've just always loved the sight of a beautiful woman and have been able to enjoy that aesthetic in a non sexual way (until it becomes appropriate : personal relationships).
Maybe i'm just insanely liberal - or dillusional. i dont care really. In the immortal words of the infamous vegan mariner : "i yam what i yam"

call bullshit if you like .. but i see this place as a celebration of the beauty of women, with a big bonus plan - the ability to chat with and learn from a lot of great folks. Nice people, talented people, beautiful people.

and that - in the worlds largest nutshell - is why i like SG.