Sure I could keep ranting on and on and on about how much masculine culture sucks and while it felt good for me to get a lot of feelings out in the open at long last I'm sure the rest of you are probably getting sick of it. I mean seriously, how many more bloggers have done what I just did? While it's good to raise awareness bitching and whining is only going to go so far. At some point I'm going to have to get off my soap box and start getting shit done.
So what do I do? How much can I do? Well making my feelings known is really only step one, now it's time to take some action. I need to live the life that I feel is going to make the world a better place. Not pressure my fellow males into having sex, not pressure my fellow females into having sex and all the other things that go along with it. I mention sex because I really do feel that's at the center of all this. We don't call it "rape culture" because women keep getting sniped in Call of Duty. By changing my attitude about sex (or rather just keeping the same attitude that I've had all along. No means no, sex is not owed, etc.) I can show my fellow males that it's possible to live a life of happiness that doesn't include demanding sex. Sex is not related to social status nor does it determine your worth as a human being. As I posted on Twitter, "If the size of your genitals is how you judge the worth of others, you're the problem."
I actually went three years without sex not once, but twice. I'm still here. Not only that but now I'm happily married to a wonderful woman. I still do all the awesome things that are generally ascribed as "manly," I watch auto racing, I play video games (I'm currently addicted to Metal Gear Solid V: The Phantom Pain.) but I also sew, draw and I think I look halfway decent in a corset and a dress. I'm happy and you can be too.
I hope that at some point my fellow males see that being a man isn't necessarily tied to how often you fuck. You can be a happy dude who never has sex, has lots of sex and everything in between. Being married doesn't mean you're "pussy whipped" it means you're in love, the best thing any man or woman can give one another. Don't do things for your S.O. (be they male or female.) just because you expect them to blow you later. It's okay to take care of the man or woman you love, that's all part of the deal and if you ask me it's the best part. Happiness isn't determined only by the number of orgasms you're having (although that sure doesn't hurt. ;) ) and who cares if your buddy has more or less than you. You're happy with the one you love and that's what's most important.
Be the change you want to see in the world someone once said. I intend to take that to heart.