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I feel accomplished but MY GOD does my finger hurt!!! I have a room in my house which ends up being the catchall and has no real purpose. I don't know why I like homes with multiple living rooms but then can never really figure out what to do with one of them. Enter Craigslist and an ad for a broken 55" HDTV. Finally a...
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psychobettie13:
that's amazing. a mission- accomplished! Do you have any freecycle forums in the u.s? we have them in manchester..similar to craigslist, but an email forum with offered/wanted items. x
thefreddy:
I got a Honda Civic that needs some body work done. U up for it?
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Pleh
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zombox5000:
That was very bleak. I feel for you. For what it is worth, regardless of the assertion that many give that family is everything - I am on your side. Your friends, the family you choose, are everything. That can include your parents, or it may not if you have a bad relationship. I have an extremely poor relationship with my father for various reasons. I will not forgive him the trespasses he made that damaged me, both directly and indirectly, in my youth.

Remember, your life is only as good as the people you fill it with. If you fill it with people you love, take joy in and appreciate then you will be fulfilled. If you fill it with the frail, the damaged and the wicked then you will suffer for that.
lumenagerie:
Argh!
Reading this makes my blood boil.
My mom used to complain that she was raised in a dysfunctional house and then created the same.
Some people just shouldn't be parents.
Your husband saying you should apologize sounds like when someone says, "get over it." I was raised in a cult and get that all the time. There are things that are ingrained in us that makes us who we are and in no way, shape or form can we forget. Being the bigger person isn't whats needed, rather, getting rid of the cancer is.
(cliche alert) Living well is the best revenge.
Live well.

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I've had so much fun lately! I had kind of gotten old and set in my schedule, dropped out of the scene, etc. I accidentally mistyped something and ended up at this groupon web site for Chicago. I had no idea but it was a good deal. I then saw a let me know when it is in my city. I found it was going...
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ilsa:
Sagrada Familia is nice but always surrounded by cranes and tourists, hehe. I hope you can make it here!
naepeer:
There is a great documentary on Gaudi's architecture called, Antonio Gaudi. Criterion released it on DVD, rent or netflix it. It was directed by Hiroshi Teshigahra.
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Today I managed to get up and go to school.

This is an accomplishment because I missed school yesterday because I was very ill. I still feel drained from yesterday so I'm proud I managed. Not sure I'll manage anything else. I canceled my appointment for my flu vaccine and skipped going to talk to my instructor from yesterday's class. I skipped picking up this...
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padre:
Parking is a fucking nightmare @ school. And I'm sure you go to a much bigger school than I, so I can only imagine

Keep my fingers crossed the antibiotics helps
talamia:
Poor doggy frown I do hope he gets better !
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Well, I had written a nice update but SG ate it. GRRRRrrrrrr....................

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padre:
That seemed to be the most common problem yesterday. So I hope you write again what you were saying
gujsel:
oh ...is always fantastic read of you darling !!how are you ?? kisses ..............kisskisskisskisskiss
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I want to talk about going to the gym today. And no I'm not GOING to the gym. About a year and a half ago my husband wanted to go join the gym. SO the whole family joined. We lived on the outskirts of what is the wealthiest neighborhood in the state so most of our shopping and our gym going is right in the...
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devilsreject:
i looked it up, it's already patented. There goes our millions......
divacallas:
Girl I agree! I have been thinking the same things for a while now. We run around working so we can buy stuff and rinse and repeat.. or even worse we run around working to for things we have already bought on credit ( house not included) but what does it really all mean? Fuck marketing for making us slaves, most are so hooked into the grid that they cannot realize what has happened to them.

ARRR!!!
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I guess I should post an update. I finished a semester at school, 3 A's and a B+ so I did ok. I also moved, AGAIN and have been very busy refinishing my furniture since moving so much in a year really takes it's toll on furniture. I also was unimpressed with the outdoor furniture I have seen and the price of it, (over $5000...
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sanez:
Hey dear - question for ya - I built something close to your image here. except I have no real cover to keep the rain out and really like the fabric look you did on your setup. Question is what is the outdoor fabric you used, were did you get it, and how did you hang it like so???
sanez:
I know in AZ it does not rain much - but keep keep in mind if you do a track system it may need to be oiled and if it is in a raining area you may get rust after two seasons.. Thanks for the info...
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I'm very sad today. I raised some Amazon milkfrog tadpoles who grew to be very lovely Amazon Milkfrogs. Today I lost one to the terrible chytrid fungus which is wiping out and extincting frog species all over the world. The fungus can be treated in captivity and I have my other frogs all getting hourly soaks in the Lamisil AT. I think the fungus got...
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aldremech:
Happy Mother's Day smile
wren:
I just got an issue of National Geographic that had a small article about this. There was a picture of a stream with about six froggies belly up. So sad.
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If anyone is interested in sharing their experiences:

I'm taking a class this semester on gender and race. I was not sure about the class when it started, because even though this is not a 101 kind of class it began with a couple sections on the history of sociology which had some somewhat harebrained, by today's standards, ideas.

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aldremech:
That is an interesting hypothesis. It may truly be a question of networking looking at all of the factors.
devilsreject:
Most of my experience is anecdotal, i never really kept anything to back it up.

Edit: this got long

SPOILERS! (Click to view)

On a working level:

Since i have been in my teens i have worked Maintenance. The first place i worked for was a ski resort. The entire maintenance staff was white, even the summer help was white. I think it had more to do with the area than anything else, the ski resort is located in a primarily white area and the seasonal workers were usually college kids on winter break. To honestly tell you the truth, i can't remember anyone of a different race actually working there. There was one black and one asian ski patroller, but they were volunteer staff. It never dawned on me to talk to them about what they thought simply because i don't think on that level, unfortunately i am one of those people that is obtuse, and really doesn't think about the situation. I saw them as people, not as race.

I think where i experienced the most segregation was when i went to work at the steel mill. I saw the same thing you saw at your office and at your home. Black workers were hired for lesser jobs even though they were completely capable of doing the higher end jobs, and only a few actually held higher paying or supervisory positions. But they needed work, they couldn't turn down the money. Steel mills pay somewhat well and i think they ran into the same thing that you were speaking of. The networking was where it came from. You could go be on a non-union electrician at some place for say $16 an hour, or you could go be labor at the mill for $22 an hour, with union benefits. I know for a fact some of the people dumbed themselves down to take a labor position.

When we ate lunch, it was like actually taking a step back in time. It was like the lunch room was segregated. Blacks on one side and Whites on the other. When i sat down with a black co-worker on the other side of the lunch room, people looked at me like i was on fire. There were some people that were out-right racists there. I swear, straight out of the backwoods carrying a noose around. What made it even worse was that management never did anything to correct the behavior, they ignored it, in hopes that it would work itself out. That doesn't work. It usually led to high stress situations, and you know steel-workers. It's not like they sit down and talk things out, it usually ended up in someone going at someone, and creating a larger gap.

I hated it there. For multiple reasons, but that was one of the big ones. It sincerely felt like when i went to work i was taking a step back into the 1950's. I talked to everyone, i treated everyone the same and i honestly think that held me back in certain situations, there was a few like me, everyone was judged by who they were not what color they were, but we were in the minority. It also worked both ways. As much as there were extremist whites, there was extremist black people. It ran the whole gambit. There were different levels of tolerance, and it seems like the people that were the most tolerant of race were usually looked down upon by the majority of extremists.

I am not a fan of the word "nigger", in so much it makes me grind my teeth when i hear it. 80,000 words in the English language, and the only way some moron knows how to express himself is to use that word. I am quite surprised i never lost it. I eventually got laid off, i can't say it bothered me.

I have had a few other positions since then. The last job i left, the entire management staff was white, and the entire production staff was black. The Maintenance crew was mixed. But if you stood back and listened, management would use some very...."iffy" phrases. "Those people" and they would definitely treat production workers different than they treated maintenance workers, or other white management members.

It was weird. Definitely another instance where i felt like i was walking into the past.

In my city:

I live in a city that is 90%+ white. Houses around here go for about 125k. I can remember only one black family living on my street, about 6 years ago. They moved in a few houses down from me. I went over and made chit-chat with them, where they are from, where they moved from and it was a rather pleasant conversation. We talked a couple weeks later.

Unfortunately the reason we talked was because i was apologizing for my race. A local high school student had burned an 8-foot cross in their front yard.

It was kind of cool though, our little niche here kind of came out and i realized i have pretty good neighbors. We helped them reseed the grass, clean up what was left of the cross and basically in about a day, you wouldn't have even realized it had happened. We kind of made it into an outing, they started grilling, my mom brought down potato salad, the other neighbors brought other stuff. It kind of made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside and actually gave me hope that people aren't bastard coated bastards with bastard filling.

They eventually moved out, he was transferred at work and the family followed the job. They have been the only black family that ever lived on this street. Our immediate neighborhood is still 99% white, and the city itself is still either in the low 90 or high 80 percentile in white population.



anyway. i just stopped by to tell you that "dirty pootie" is my favorite phrase of the week. I may steal that for later use.