I saw a buddy of mine who had been trying hard to have a baby for several years announce that he and his wife were expecting only to see this die-hard feminist cut him down for being so elated by it. So this is where we've come to, folks? There aren't enough problems in the world, so we've got to create new ones? I'm a liberal asshole as much as the next guy, but enough's enough, gang.
I grew up with a single mother for the first third of my life. Life was incredibly hard on her in attempting to raise a son on her own. I think back and wonder how her health would have differed if the stress of being a single parent was alleviated from her shoulders. This, my friends, was a REAL problem. I grew up with a chorus of people reciting incantations about how shitty deadbeat dads were and how men should stick around, or grow up and accept their new responsibilities, let alone fully embrace them.
Now you have an entire generation of men who are not only accepting those responsibilities, but doing so with great passion. For some of them, becoming a dad is a lifelong dream--including my buddy. And now I'm seeing a bevy of women speaking out AGAINST enthusiastic dads-to-be. So if a deadbeat dad is a bad thing, and a committed father is a bad thing, where is the good thing? An apathetic father who thinks his days are done and he's just clocking in to see it through another day? I'm genuinely confused. I also don't think it shows much tact to shit on possibly the biggest Facebook update they've ever made (which said simply "We're having a baby!", not "I'll be nurturing a fetus for the next nine months within my body!") because you're jumping on the newest "it" bandwagon of imaginary things to become angry about.
Some feminists--definitely not all, nor even a majority--try to lower men instead of raise women. We should seek equality. They're the same branch of feminists who scoff at masculinity culture as if it's a made-up problem while becoming angry when no one takes their problems seriously. All of this is a two-way street and we need to work together if we will ever reach equality.
Men can't have children; our pain tolerance was not even developed that way to accept such a thing. Men cannot and will not ever know the pain that brings, nor the myriad of things women will go through during their pregnancies. I don't think any man would lay that claim, so perhaps lay off the semantics when you see a guy say "we are having a baby." Semantics do nothing but divide. But just as men are not ones to judge the intricacies of a pregnancy, I don't think anyone else--male or female--is one to measure a person's happiness in regards to becoming a parent.
Also, people are dumb. Be smart.
