zerotolera

I was wondering why guys play head games!!! As a female who just got back in the "game" herself, things have changed. Bars are so seedy and the reality of meeting someone half way decent there is hopeless. I have come to the conclusion that guys don't want someone who actually has their shit together. My ex is now hanging out with an 18 year old stripper... which just does wonders for my self confidence, but what can you do??
As a women, I don't like making the first move, but it seems like the last 3 guys I have been with I have been the one putting forth all the effort.
Are guys just so used to women doing all the work? Does it make things easier for you when we approach you?
I am going out tonight and I bet not one guy comes up and talks to me, just because I am not dressed like a whore and acting stupid.
Sorry if I got off on a rant, but this is a really hot topic for me!! Input please!!