so what about polyamory... the idea of loving more than one person at the same time... i've always known it was possible, ever since my earliest relationships. i just thought it was weird or even really unusual not to just want to be with one person. to not feel crazy jealous when the one you were with wanted to be with someone else.
so a little later in life, i learned that there are *really* special challenges when you are attracted to someone outside your primary relationship who gives you something great that your partner could never provide... like being of an opposite gender.
now when this happens, what do you do? balance both? have a 'primary' partner and then what, flings on the side? is it OK to just want sex from another person? is it better or even worse if you genuinely *love* that other person outside your relationship? can it work to have a triangle relationship where everybody loves eachother??? have you ever experienced this in your life? could you ever be with someone who was committed to non-monogamy? are you?
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so a little later in life, i learned that there are *really* special challenges when you are attracted to someone outside your primary relationship who gives you something great that your partner could never provide... like being of an opposite gender.
now when this happens, what do you do? balance both? have a 'primary' partner and then what, flings on the side? is it OK to just want sex from another person? is it better or even worse if you genuinely *love* that other person outside your relationship? can it work to have a triangle relationship where everybody loves eachother??? have you ever experienced this in your life? could you ever be with someone who was committed to non-monogamy? are you?
for a longterm ongoing discussion of this topic (and subtopics):
polyamory.tribe.net
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anyway on the question of your journal... well i have never been lucky enough to be in love, and havent really had a girlfriend in years so i guess im a little unqualified to answer. but it is certainly something i've thought about. i've got a feeling that im very much a 'one woman man' in that if i had someone i really loved then they would be all i needed. but in saying that i have a fear that if i was in that situation, what would i be missing out on if other opportunities arose? would i get bored of my girlfriend and look for excitement elsewhere? i guess i wont know the answer to those questions until the time comes. but i would see myself as being a jealous type, and would probably go mental if my girl was with another guy (tho for some reason i have less of a worry if she was with another girl - i guess mainly cause i feel that most guys are assholes and most girls are gentle).