So the topic of Psychology this week is, unfortunetly, love. I started reading and almost threw up on my book (yah... I know... me anti love? stranger right) due to the circumstance over the past few weeks of me and my friends. I have yet to see a relationship work out... or be that of what we all dream, true love. I haven't pondered this to much because in all honesty I've just been to busy and haven't cared enough to worry that I haven't so much as seen or smelled or tasted even a hint of love in months, maybe even years. I am not talking about friendship love cause I feel that everyday I am talking about romantic love. So, getting back to me almost throwing up on my book, I began thinking as I started out at our beautiful campus from my perch in the library, does it really exist? Or is it a product of society? Is it a unicorn? Or is it a dove?
I continued reading and came upon a story about a man who had written his wife a beautiful love letter and put it in a bottle and sent it to sea. The letter read "If, by the time this letter reaches you, I am old and gray, I know that our love will be as fresh as it is today. It may take a week or it may take years for this note to find you... if this should never reach you, it will still be written in my heart that I will go to extreme means to prove my love for you..." Now, this letter was found many years later by a jogger on the beach, the person that found it tracked down the wife and when the jogger began reading the letter to her she began to laugh and replied "We're divorced" and hung up the phone.
This wasn't the way I was wanting the story to end. But it seems like more and more this is how the great romance end. If Shakespear had written Romeo and Juliet now would it have ended with divorce or Romeo cheating on Juliet or how about Juliet deciding she got a better offer and instead of killing herself left Romeo in exile? Its quesions like this that have turned me from being the hopeless romantic I once was into the skeptic I am now. I don't think I realized my change until I read that story and the numerous other quotes that came about in that section of the book. It seemed that maybe one or two had something nice to say about love and the rest seemed to say that love was just a cruel joke nature played on us to get us to procreate.
It was equally as disheartening to read about the diffrent types of attatchment styles (thanks mom and dad for getting divorced late in my life... you've doomed me apperently...and douch bag that I dated for far to long...) because it seemed that no matter what way you spun it it was impossable for anyone to fit the healthy type of attachment styles. I prolly should be less concerned with our societys, and my own, apperently lack of care that love is slowly becoming a thing of the past soon we are going to talk about like we discuss the dinosaurs. Our grandkids are going to say "oh yah cause you were alive when love roamed around." The issue is I can't seem to get this issue out of my head now.
I have a pile of studying to do and all I can do is disect every relationship I've had or my friends have had and wonder when we started to trade love for this life we have now. Where did it go? I beileve I remember a song that said "all you need is love" well apperently not anymore. Even the way we date is assbackwards now, though I beileve that changed along time ago. What happened to courtship? What happened to actual dates? What happened to the mystery? We all seem to skip that.... and not just me (cause yes I do skip all that lol) but everyone I know. I think I know of one or two of my friends who, recently, have gone on actual dates before we fell into bed. And don't you dare take offense to that cause I do it to... and there is nothing wrong with fuckin around... I am speaking stricly towards the formation of romantic attachments that we are supposidly suppose to grow love from.
I have one last little point to make. How many love stories are out right now? And Twilight doesn't count because that is basically the Romeo and Juliet of our time... or the Titanic, which someone compared it to on the movie review.... but other than that movie how many can we think of? I can think of all action movies. Even our pop culture has start to phase out love. Most of the songs on my ipod have to do with breaking up, or being a free of a relationship... basically anything but love. The songs that do contain love are songs that are from the 90's or early 2000's... nothing recently. I think the most recent thing you could call a love song on my ipod is Bubbly, which I hate and I don't know how its on my ipod. Or maybe a few Evanescene songs or Avril songs... but thats about it. Its just funny that we have all swung from yay romantic relations to.... this.
Ok whew that was a really long blog. I didn't mean to ramble like that but they... at least I got it out. Ugh off to the library I go for another thrilling day of studying for finals.
I continued reading and came upon a story about a man who had written his wife a beautiful love letter and put it in a bottle and sent it to sea. The letter read "If, by the time this letter reaches you, I am old and gray, I know that our love will be as fresh as it is today. It may take a week or it may take years for this note to find you... if this should never reach you, it will still be written in my heart that I will go to extreme means to prove my love for you..." Now, this letter was found many years later by a jogger on the beach, the person that found it tracked down the wife and when the jogger began reading the letter to her she began to laugh and replied "We're divorced" and hung up the phone.
This wasn't the way I was wanting the story to end. But it seems like more and more this is how the great romance end. If Shakespear had written Romeo and Juliet now would it have ended with divorce or Romeo cheating on Juliet or how about Juliet deciding she got a better offer and instead of killing herself left Romeo in exile? Its quesions like this that have turned me from being the hopeless romantic I once was into the skeptic I am now. I don't think I realized my change until I read that story and the numerous other quotes that came about in that section of the book. It seemed that maybe one or two had something nice to say about love and the rest seemed to say that love was just a cruel joke nature played on us to get us to procreate.
It was equally as disheartening to read about the diffrent types of attatchment styles (thanks mom and dad for getting divorced late in my life... you've doomed me apperently...and douch bag that I dated for far to long...) because it seemed that no matter what way you spun it it was impossable for anyone to fit the healthy type of attachment styles. I prolly should be less concerned with our societys, and my own, apperently lack of care that love is slowly becoming a thing of the past soon we are going to talk about like we discuss the dinosaurs. Our grandkids are going to say "oh yah cause you were alive when love roamed around." The issue is I can't seem to get this issue out of my head now.
I have a pile of studying to do and all I can do is disect every relationship I've had or my friends have had and wonder when we started to trade love for this life we have now. Where did it go? I beileve I remember a song that said "all you need is love" well apperently not anymore. Even the way we date is assbackwards now, though I beileve that changed along time ago. What happened to courtship? What happened to actual dates? What happened to the mystery? We all seem to skip that.... and not just me (cause yes I do skip all that lol) but everyone I know. I think I know of one or two of my friends who, recently, have gone on actual dates before we fell into bed. And don't you dare take offense to that cause I do it to... and there is nothing wrong with fuckin around... I am speaking stricly towards the formation of romantic attachments that we are supposidly suppose to grow love from.
I have one last little point to make. How many love stories are out right now? And Twilight doesn't count because that is basically the Romeo and Juliet of our time... or the Titanic, which someone compared it to on the movie review.... but other than that movie how many can we think of? I can think of all action movies. Even our pop culture has start to phase out love. Most of the songs on my ipod have to do with breaking up, or being a free of a relationship... basically anything but love. The songs that do contain love are songs that are from the 90's or early 2000's... nothing recently. I think the most recent thing you could call a love song on my ipod is Bubbly, which I hate and I don't know how its on my ipod. Or maybe a few Evanescene songs or Avril songs... but thats about it. Its just funny that we have all swung from yay romantic relations to.... this.
Ok whew that was a really long blog. I didn't mean to ramble like that but they... at least I got it out. Ugh off to the library I go for another thrilling day of studying for finals.
good luck on your finals sweety...