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I had an odd night last night because I witnessed to completely conflicting events regarding human nature and relationships. On the one hand, I spent the night in the company of a married couple who were very compatible and very comfortable with each other to the point that I, myself, cynic though I am, felt that maybe marriage could be a good thing with the right person. This particular couple weren't missing out on anything, they weren't suffering or sacrificing in the name of marriage. They both seemed happy and, strangely, better for having gotten married. In our little group and in direct opposition to the married couple was the we-are-in-that-weird-break-up-phase couple. The guy, John, had come by himself and was later joined by his (ex?)girlfriend. Whereas my married couple remained the center of attention, laughing and just enjoying themselves, this couple slunk off and talked to each other all night in that don't-let-anyone-know-we're-fighting whisper. They are a mismatched couple but clearly they don't see that, just as the married couple don't see themselves as mismatched but only one couple is correct in thinking that. So, how the hell do we know when we are just kidding ourselves over the longevity of our relationships?

I was comforted to see a married couple who was actually happy. I realize now how rare that is! The most miserable people I've ever met are all married with no hope of a happier future; they all seem committed to life-long misery without end.