I haven't updated in forever!!
I've been so stressed out it's been making me sick
Having my son is wonderful, it's an absolute joy taking care of him and loving him. And I'll never let anyone take him from me. My ex boyfriend (Zane's dad) that I haven't heard from since Septemember, right after I told him I was pregnant, is trying to take him. He served me with custody papers on April 12. We have to go to mediation on May 10, and on May 17 we go before the judge. He's asking for full custody and trying to give me no visitations.
Are you fucking serious? I carried Zane in my belly for 9 months, was in the hospital for 3 days, was in labor for 24 hours and gave birth to an 8lb 3oz (fucking ow!!) baby and you think you're going to just waltz right in and take him from me??
I used to be a hardcore alcoholic//pill popper before I got pregnant but I got clean when I found out. He, on the other hand, was always out partying and getting arrested while I was pregnant. He went to jail twice. Once for possesion//intent to sell marijuana and once for possesion of a controlled substance without a prescription, possesion of marijuana, and possesion of a concealed dagger. He's got 3 years probation for each stint. And I have never been to jail, not on probation, and have no priors. Not to mention, I just payed $2500 for a lawyer and I have pictures of him with ecstacy pills on his tongue and smokingpot//drinking with minors.
But he's still convinced he's going to win. I don't understand it. I already saw what he's using against me. He printed out a bunch of crap off my myspace. In not one of those pictures am I doing anything illegal. I'm not even pregnant in any of them!! And all my blogs are from 05/06 for the most part. My statuses talk about going to my friends house, my mouse had her babies, blah blah. None of it will hold up in court. He also wrote that I'm a "current drug user" and that I still cut myself and that I'm "suidale" God, he can't spell for shit. Well, I went and got a drug test done and my OBG is currently writing me a letter saying I was clean//cut free my whole pregnancy and on thursday I'm going to the dermotaligyst (I was going to him my whole pregnancy) to have him sign a paper saying he never saw any new cuts on me my whole pregnancy. And as for being suicidal, I never have been, it even says so in all my medical records. Oh! And he said "unstable living conditions" Uh, hello? I moved back in with my mom and little sister when I got pregnant. This house is far from unstable and he knows that.
He has no income, no insurence, no insurence for Zane, he moves from to house to house every few months. Between my income and my dads we make almost 5000$ a month. I have insurence, I went and got Zane on insurence before he was even born, and I live in a stable home.
There's a ton of other shit he has against him to but it's making me mad typing all of this >_<
I'm asking for no visitations but my lawyer said he'd probably get them. So we're gonna ask that they must be supervised and that he can't bring anyone with him. Since Zane's so young he'll probably get to see him for 2 hours every other weekend. But that'll cost about 200$ a month, plus child support. If he doesn't pay child support I can call the DA and they'll take his driver's license away. If he pays for visitations but not child support I can take him back to court to try and get his visitation time reduced. And if he doesn't pay child support or have the money for visitations (very likely since he has no income) that means he can't come to see him and I can take him to court for that too.
I'm hoping one of the above will happen and this will all be resolved by the end of the year, me having full custody, him having no visitations. I don't want for me, and exspecially Zane, to have to be having custody battles for the next 18 years.
Wish me luck.
I've been so stressed out it's been making me sick
Having my son is wonderful, it's an absolute joy taking care of him and loving him. And I'll never let anyone take him from me. My ex boyfriend (Zane's dad) that I haven't heard from since Septemember, right after I told him I was pregnant, is trying to take him. He served me with custody papers on April 12. We have to go to mediation on May 10, and on May 17 we go before the judge. He's asking for full custody and trying to give me no visitations.
Are you fucking serious? I carried Zane in my belly for 9 months, was in the hospital for 3 days, was in labor for 24 hours and gave birth to an 8lb 3oz (fucking ow!!) baby and you think you're going to just waltz right in and take him from me??
I used to be a hardcore alcoholic//pill popper before I got pregnant but I got clean when I found out. He, on the other hand, was always out partying and getting arrested while I was pregnant. He went to jail twice. Once for possesion//intent to sell marijuana and once for possesion of a controlled substance without a prescription, possesion of marijuana, and possesion of a concealed dagger. He's got 3 years probation for each stint. And I have never been to jail, not on probation, and have no priors. Not to mention, I just payed $2500 for a lawyer and I have pictures of him with ecstacy pills on his tongue and smokingpot//drinking with minors.
But he's still convinced he's going to win. I don't understand it. I already saw what he's using against me. He printed out a bunch of crap off my myspace. In not one of those pictures am I doing anything illegal. I'm not even pregnant in any of them!! And all my blogs are from 05/06 for the most part. My statuses talk about going to my friends house, my mouse had her babies, blah blah. None of it will hold up in court. He also wrote that I'm a "current drug user" and that I still cut myself and that I'm "suidale" God, he can't spell for shit. Well, I went and got a drug test done and my OBG is currently writing me a letter saying I was clean//cut free my whole pregnancy and on thursday I'm going to the dermotaligyst (I was going to him my whole pregnancy) to have him sign a paper saying he never saw any new cuts on me my whole pregnancy. And as for being suicidal, I never have been, it even says so in all my medical records. Oh! And he said "unstable living conditions" Uh, hello? I moved back in with my mom and little sister when I got pregnant. This house is far from unstable and he knows that.
He has no income, no insurence, no insurence for Zane, he moves from to house to house every few months. Between my income and my dads we make almost 5000$ a month. I have insurence, I went and got Zane on insurence before he was even born, and I live in a stable home.
There's a ton of other shit he has against him to but it's making me mad typing all of this >_<
I'm asking for no visitations but my lawyer said he'd probably get them. So we're gonna ask that they must be supervised and that he can't bring anyone with him. Since Zane's so young he'll probably get to see him for 2 hours every other weekend. But that'll cost about 200$ a month, plus child support. If he doesn't pay child support I can call the DA and they'll take his driver's license away. If he pays for visitations but not child support I can take him back to court to try and get his visitation time reduced. And if he doesn't pay child support or have the money for visitations (very likely since he has no income) that means he can't come to see him and I can take him to court for that too.
I'm hoping one of the above will happen and this will all be resolved by the end of the year, me having full custody, him having no visitations. I don't want for me, and exspecially Zane, to have to be having custody battles for the next 18 years.
Wish me luck.
It's easy to be a father but very hard to be a Dad!