still soliciting advice... skip the spoiler if you don't wanna know personal info or don't care.
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my wife broke her neck in a car accident 3 years ago. she's a complete quad. (complete in medical terms means that she's got absolutely no movement or feeling below the injury line, quad means that her injury line is about the top of the breast) about 20 months ago, we tried having sex. while i still dearly love my wife and am still completely attracted to her, i find that necrophilia isn't my thing. we've not had any action since then. she's getting all paranoid that i'm cheating on her since we haven't done anything sexual since. there's a 0% chance that i'd ever cheat on her (yes, i'm completely celebate at the moment, and have been for 3 years with that 1 disasterous exception). (side note: what is it with a woman's psychology that causes them to hit on me in droves since the wife's accident? it's not me seeing things that aren't there, i've had a number of verbal offers. (One from a woman who turned me down for a date when I was single...))
how to handle the fragile psyche of the wife, keep her satisfied that i still love her (even though we're not having sex), etc?
spent the last week sitting around a hospital room. the wife picked up a MRSA UTI. it jumped the barrier on thurs and turned into a blood infection. this is what's known as "bad". put in other terms, it's also known as "potentially lethal". been sitting in an uncomfortable chair watching bag after bag of cipro and vanco get pumped into her through a recently installed pipe in her throat.. they tried to kick me out at 9 on thurs night. they since learned that letting me stay is better for all involved.. they've since given me a 24 hr visitor's pass. so, i sit in that room for 16-18 hr/day. not my idea of a good time. hopefully she'll get better soon, so we can move home again. oh, and the hospital food has totally screwed my guts. feels like i've been kicked in the sternum.
ahhh, well, no rest for the wicked.
if you need an ear, let me know. i'm sure all will be alright.
you are such a good man. you really set the bar for amazing husbands.
try to hang in there mmmmmuah