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I believe that most people at some point in their lives wonder if what they feel is normal. I look at how emotional other people get and I think if that is normal what is wrong with me. I am very even keel when it comes to my feelings and emotions. It is good that I do not have very low lows but I also do not have very high highs. My whole family is like this, we don't talk about our feelings or anything thing of substance. We dance around issues without coming out and saying what we mean. For example this last year my dad's mother passed away and she was the last of my grandparents to pass. When my dad called to tell me I had no clue what to say and after which I went on with the rest of my day as if nothing had happen and this is the first that I have mention it to anyone. I don't have no feelings and I was not raised to believe that boys should not cry yet somehow it seams like my feelings are turned down to low. I have had my feelings come out at random times which shows that they are there. The earliest that I can remember was in the 6th grade when I was being picked on by a couple of other kids at school. For a couple of weeks I would cry myself to sleep until I could not take it any longer. I remember crying in bed for the umpteenth night in a row and then walking into my parents bedroom as they were getting ready for bed and then sobbingly telling them what was going on at school. Everything got sorted out in the end. A more resent and a little bit random time that I had some string feelings is when I had jury duty a few years ago. It was a murder/manslaughter case where a group of late teens/early 20's beat up a homeless man that later dies from his injuries. We convicted on manslaughter and when the verdict was read and I saw the guys girlfriend break down, I did have some mixed emotions at that point. The random thing was that I was rereading the Harry Potter series and that day I read the part of the last book where Dobby dies and I completely broke down. Because of the heavy emotions of the day Dobby's death is the saddest part of the entire series for me. When a friend was thinking of asking his girlfriend to get married, he asked another friend that is married and has kids, if it was worth it. The first friend would see facebook posts about some of the negative aspects of starting a family and the second friend responded with well those are just the stories that he needs to vent about. Yes the lows are lower then before he had kids but also the highs are so much higher and out number the lows but they do not make the best facebook posts. I will have to see if this is true for me given I find someone to start a family with.