ok, this could get long... so buckle up...
so i think most of you have heard the story of the girl at work i have been talking to and hung out with a couple times. but she is married (although separated) and getting divorced and has two kids. not exactly the ideal situation, but its not like i have any other prospects, so i went with it. now she has said that she doesnt feel comfortable being more than just friends until her divorce is final. which sucks, but i understand. so i've kinda given up the hope of being more than friends cuz i honestly didnt think it was gonna happen anyway, so hopefully its easier that way. well now i dont think that i can even be just friends.
i stumbled into something the other day, and now i have a TON of things on my mind. i talked to this girl, Sheila, on AIM on tuesday... the first message she sent was like her kids names with a 1 at the end. and then she said oops like she didnt mean to send that, and then we just started chatting. at first i thought maybe it was one of her kids playing with the keyboard, but the more i thought about it, it seemed like a password. for what i didnt know, the AIM, her email, who knows, maybe its nothing. so after a day or two, curiosity got the better of me and i tried it on her hotmail. shouldnt have done it, but hey no ones perfect. and it worked. but i didnt read anything. now, i was really torn as to whether or not i should go back and look for any emails to my friend Rob, who Sheila works with, or his wife Amanda, who she also talks to. i was curious what, if anything she had said about me, even though i had written off being anything but friends. so again, i logged in and looked around, and there was really nothing there, no sent items, and only email of interest that had already been read, and it was from my friend Rob... here's where it gets strange.
it seems they were texting back and forth on tuesday and that he stopped answering so she emailed him, cuz she thought he was talking to his wife, and in his response, he was. now the things that they were saying, i cant even remember word for word, but they werent anything overly incriminating, but just little things that made me think something is going on between them. now i know the my friend likes her, they have been good friends at work for a while and his way of just hanging out and talking with her is kinda flirty, so maybe i'm reading too much into it, but i dont think so. also based on that email i got the feeling that Rob and Amanda might not be on the best of terms right now. and the night after i read that email, i got a couple of usual joke forwards from Sheila, but in looking at who she sent them to, the list was the same as ones i had gotten in the past, except for one name... Amanda wasnt on the list anymore. so that made me thing maybe they had had some type of altercation, and possibly at work, cuz we all work together, but only Rob and Sheila in the same department. and Sheila made some comment to me about one day this week was a really bad day and maybe she should just stay out of work for a while. and since i always think of the worst case scenario, i'm thinking its either to avoid Amanda who may want to kick her ass, or maybe to avoid Rob and avoid things getting out of hand. but who knows.
now the worst part of all this is that i cant say anything to anyone cuz all my reasons for suspicion came from an ill gotten password. which she has since changed. i dont think it was cuz of me though, i was careful, i dont think she knew i was in there, but you never know.
now here's where it gets weird again. i had been back and forth from the computer most of the day and hadnt seen either Rob or Sheila on AIM, until about 8:00, Sheila signed on and then Rob like 5 minutes later. i didnt talk to either of them, and then i left the room for a minute, came back and they were both gone. about 30 minutes after that, Rob calls me and tells me that i am "gonna be his alibi for tonight" the story he tells me is that he got drunk last night and pissed Amanda off, and that he was supposed to hang out with a guy he used to work with cuz his dad had been sick and needed someone to hang out with him, but Amanda would think that he was gonna get drunk again and not like it, so he told her that he was haning out with me. and that if she IM's me just to ignore it and and if she asks later why i didnt answer that i wasnt in the room and didnt see it til later. now i'm sure youre all thinking what i'm thinking... Rob and Sheila are somewhere fucking like mad right now. it sure seems possible.
so now, what i am supposed to do? if my friend wants to throw away his marriage, thats his business. at first i didnt like Amanda, but once they got engaged and married i grew to tollerate her cuz she is my friends wife. but she wasnt around anymore i wouldnt really care. should i be pissed at Rob cuz he is using me as the excuse to be with Sheila and doing it behind my back since he has been helping me try to get with her in the first place, even though he has known her longer and i have told him that i had given up on being more than friends with her. and Sheila, well i just dont know, like i said i gave up so what she does is her business.
basically here it is.... i dont have many friends and Rob is my best friend, i dont know that he would say i was his best friend, but i am one of probably his 2 or 3 best friends. so basically, without sounding too gay, i dont want to lose him, even if what he is doing is shitty. i just wonder how long this has been going on with the two of them, if its going on at all of course... i do always over think things and think the worst, but in this case.... well i dont know. if he has been screwing around with her for a while, why would he try to help me talk to her and get to know her? especially when 2 of the 3 times i went out with her it was with Rob and Amanda too. i dont know. the one thing i keep thinking back to was the day that i went out with Sheila for the first time. this was when just the two of us went out and for a movie and dinner. before we went out Rob called me and told me that Sheila had talked to Amanda who talked to him and said that she was feeling a little awkward about going out since she was still married and she didnt know how things would go, and that she hoped i wouldnt try to kiss her good night, cuz she wasnt sure how she'd react. now i am a pretty slow mover and really unsure about when to make that move anyway, so i hadnt planned on it. and after hearing that i was sure i wouldnt, and i didnt. but, what i'm thinking now is, did the call from Sheila to Amanda and then relay of info to Rob even take place, or did he just tell me this so that i wouldnt try to kiss the girl he getting with on the side? and if thats the case, ok, but heres the thing that gets me even more than that.... the whole way i even started talking to her, was thru him. i mean i had seen this girl and thought she was hot, and she is very hot, so i never thought i had any kind of shot with her. but he was always telling me how she is gonna be divorced and thinks guys dont like her and how guys never look at her and stuff. and then the ice breaker email he sent her, which was completely his idea, was he told her that i had said good morning to her in the parking garage, but she didnt hear me. so she then emailed me and appologized for it, and we started talking from there. so i dont know.
i think next time i talk to Rob i am gonna say, so what did you really do Saturday night? cuz your story sounded pretty phony to me. and see what he says.
as for Sheila, even if i am completey nuts and nothing is going on, i am done with her. not that there was anything to even be done with, but the waiting for the divorce and the fact that she has two kids, its just too much for me. now dont get me wrong, the kids thing isnt that big a deal to me, but its just.... i dont have much experience at all anyway, and then for all this to happen, its just too much.
so i guess my feeling right now is... "bros before hoes" as bad as that sounds, i just hope i'm not being played big time here. but i do get that feeling.
and who knows, if the shit really does hit the fan, i'll be looking for a new best friend, lol.
so to quote BASEketball.....
"wake up bitch youre my new best friend"
and yes i'll take you to the zoo.
so i think most of you have heard the story of the girl at work i have been talking to and hung out with a couple times. but she is married (although separated) and getting divorced and has two kids. not exactly the ideal situation, but its not like i have any other prospects, so i went with it. now she has said that she doesnt feel comfortable being more than just friends until her divorce is final. which sucks, but i understand. so i've kinda given up the hope of being more than friends cuz i honestly didnt think it was gonna happen anyway, so hopefully its easier that way. well now i dont think that i can even be just friends.
i stumbled into something the other day, and now i have a TON of things on my mind. i talked to this girl, Sheila, on AIM on tuesday... the first message she sent was like her kids names with a 1 at the end. and then she said oops like she didnt mean to send that, and then we just started chatting. at first i thought maybe it was one of her kids playing with the keyboard, but the more i thought about it, it seemed like a password. for what i didnt know, the AIM, her email, who knows, maybe its nothing. so after a day or two, curiosity got the better of me and i tried it on her hotmail. shouldnt have done it, but hey no ones perfect. and it worked. but i didnt read anything. now, i was really torn as to whether or not i should go back and look for any emails to my friend Rob, who Sheila works with, or his wife Amanda, who she also talks to. i was curious what, if anything she had said about me, even though i had written off being anything but friends. so again, i logged in and looked around, and there was really nothing there, no sent items, and only email of interest that had already been read, and it was from my friend Rob... here's where it gets strange.
it seems they were texting back and forth on tuesday and that he stopped answering so she emailed him, cuz she thought he was talking to his wife, and in his response, he was. now the things that they were saying, i cant even remember word for word, but they werent anything overly incriminating, but just little things that made me think something is going on between them. now i know the my friend likes her, they have been good friends at work for a while and his way of just hanging out and talking with her is kinda flirty, so maybe i'm reading too much into it, but i dont think so. also based on that email i got the feeling that Rob and Amanda might not be on the best of terms right now. and the night after i read that email, i got a couple of usual joke forwards from Sheila, but in looking at who she sent them to, the list was the same as ones i had gotten in the past, except for one name... Amanda wasnt on the list anymore. so that made me thing maybe they had had some type of altercation, and possibly at work, cuz we all work together, but only Rob and Sheila in the same department. and Sheila made some comment to me about one day this week was a really bad day and maybe she should just stay out of work for a while. and since i always think of the worst case scenario, i'm thinking its either to avoid Amanda who may want to kick her ass, or maybe to avoid Rob and avoid things getting out of hand. but who knows.
now the worst part of all this is that i cant say anything to anyone cuz all my reasons for suspicion came from an ill gotten password. which she has since changed. i dont think it was cuz of me though, i was careful, i dont think she knew i was in there, but you never know.
now here's where it gets weird again. i had been back and forth from the computer most of the day and hadnt seen either Rob or Sheila on AIM, until about 8:00, Sheila signed on and then Rob like 5 minutes later. i didnt talk to either of them, and then i left the room for a minute, came back and they were both gone. about 30 minutes after that, Rob calls me and tells me that i am "gonna be his alibi for tonight" the story he tells me is that he got drunk last night and pissed Amanda off, and that he was supposed to hang out with a guy he used to work with cuz his dad had been sick and needed someone to hang out with him, but Amanda would think that he was gonna get drunk again and not like it, so he told her that he was haning out with me. and that if she IM's me just to ignore it and and if she asks later why i didnt answer that i wasnt in the room and didnt see it til later. now i'm sure youre all thinking what i'm thinking... Rob and Sheila are somewhere fucking like mad right now. it sure seems possible.
so now, what i am supposed to do? if my friend wants to throw away his marriage, thats his business. at first i didnt like Amanda, but once they got engaged and married i grew to tollerate her cuz she is my friends wife. but she wasnt around anymore i wouldnt really care. should i be pissed at Rob cuz he is using me as the excuse to be with Sheila and doing it behind my back since he has been helping me try to get with her in the first place, even though he has known her longer and i have told him that i had given up on being more than friends with her. and Sheila, well i just dont know, like i said i gave up so what she does is her business.
basically here it is.... i dont have many friends and Rob is my best friend, i dont know that he would say i was his best friend, but i am one of probably his 2 or 3 best friends. so basically, without sounding too gay, i dont want to lose him, even if what he is doing is shitty. i just wonder how long this has been going on with the two of them, if its going on at all of course... i do always over think things and think the worst, but in this case.... well i dont know. if he has been screwing around with her for a while, why would he try to help me talk to her and get to know her? especially when 2 of the 3 times i went out with her it was with Rob and Amanda too. i dont know. the one thing i keep thinking back to was the day that i went out with Sheila for the first time. this was when just the two of us went out and for a movie and dinner. before we went out Rob called me and told me that Sheila had talked to Amanda who talked to him and said that she was feeling a little awkward about going out since she was still married and she didnt know how things would go, and that she hoped i wouldnt try to kiss her good night, cuz she wasnt sure how she'd react. now i am a pretty slow mover and really unsure about when to make that move anyway, so i hadnt planned on it. and after hearing that i was sure i wouldnt, and i didnt. but, what i'm thinking now is, did the call from Sheila to Amanda and then relay of info to Rob even take place, or did he just tell me this so that i wouldnt try to kiss the girl he getting with on the side? and if thats the case, ok, but heres the thing that gets me even more than that.... the whole way i even started talking to her, was thru him. i mean i had seen this girl and thought she was hot, and she is very hot, so i never thought i had any kind of shot with her. but he was always telling me how she is gonna be divorced and thinks guys dont like her and how guys never look at her and stuff. and then the ice breaker email he sent her, which was completely his idea, was he told her that i had said good morning to her in the parking garage, but she didnt hear me. so she then emailed me and appologized for it, and we started talking from there. so i dont know.
i think next time i talk to Rob i am gonna say, so what did you really do Saturday night? cuz your story sounded pretty phony to me. and see what he says.
as for Sheila, even if i am completey nuts and nothing is going on, i am done with her. not that there was anything to even be done with, but the waiting for the divorce and the fact that she has two kids, its just too much for me. now dont get me wrong, the kids thing isnt that big a deal to me, but its just.... i dont have much experience at all anyway, and then for all this to happen, its just too much.
so i guess my feeling right now is... "bros before hoes" as bad as that sounds, i just hope i'm not being played big time here. but i do get that feeling.
and who knows, if the shit really does hit the fan, i'll be looking for a new best friend, lol.
so to quote BASEketball.....
"wake up bitch youre my new best friend"
and yes i'll take you to the zoo.
if i was the wife, i would want to know, but it's not really your responsibility to tell her. i think i would make sure she found out though, if it really is true.
maybe your friend was trying to hook her up with someone else because he was starting to like her, and then decided he wanted to go for it himself......