ok so i hadnt really intended this to be my journal topic for today, but i received this comment yesterday and i havnet been able to stop thinking about it since...
RoseMarie said onJune 05, 2004 08:48 PM
"Please don't put yourself down. It is bad for your insides.
You seem wonderful to me.
A good friend of mine wasn't aware of how often he prefaced sentences with, "This is dumb but..."..."I know I'm stupid, but"...,"I'm such a loser..." etc.. He said he was kidding, but I made him write down how many times he puts himself down (even joking) in one day, and it shocked him.
Your unconscious listens.
I used to do it too. It was a hard habit to get out of, as was being a pessimist. I don't listen anymore to that "self-doubt" demon. Fuck him, he sucks. I am so much happier now.
I don't want you to take this as a lecture, but it changed my life."
first off, the fact that an SG reads my journal and leaves me something so thoughtful is astounding to me.
second, i guess i'm glad others dont seem to see me the way i see myself.
and as for being negative and a pessimist and putting myself down, it is a hard habit to break, and i really cant help myself. everyone says how they love a guy with confidence. but what if you dont feel you have anything to be confident about? to me, confidence without a reason is arrogance, and i cant stand arrogant people. now heres where everyone says "youve got a lot to be confident about" but even if you believe that, i dont. i have the hardest time trusting people. i'm not sure why that is, its just always been that way.
....ok, i'm not sure where else to go with all that, i guess its something i need to work on.
my original entry was gonna be something like...
not doing anything today, need to do laundry, and go grocery shopping (but i probably wont) and watch the Pistons game later. too bad its on at 9, its gonna be a rough monday if i stay up for the whole thing.
RoseMarie said onJune 05, 2004 08:48 PM
"Please don't put yourself down. It is bad for your insides.
You seem wonderful to me.
A good friend of mine wasn't aware of how often he prefaced sentences with, "This is dumb but..."..."I know I'm stupid, but"...,"I'm such a loser..." etc.. He said he was kidding, but I made him write down how many times he puts himself down (even joking) in one day, and it shocked him.
Your unconscious listens.
I used to do it too. It was a hard habit to get out of, as was being a pessimist. I don't listen anymore to that "self-doubt" demon. Fuck him, he sucks. I am so much happier now.
I don't want you to take this as a lecture, but it changed my life."
first off, the fact that an SG reads my journal and leaves me something so thoughtful is astounding to me.
second, i guess i'm glad others dont seem to see me the way i see myself.
and as for being negative and a pessimist and putting myself down, it is a hard habit to break, and i really cant help myself. everyone says how they love a guy with confidence. but what if you dont feel you have anything to be confident about? to me, confidence without a reason is arrogance, and i cant stand arrogant people. now heres where everyone says "youve got a lot to be confident about" but even if you believe that, i dont. i have the hardest time trusting people. i'm not sure why that is, its just always been that way.
....ok, i'm not sure where else to go with all that, i guess its something i need to work on.
my original entry was gonna be something like...
not doing anything today, need to do laundry, and go grocery shopping (but i probably wont) and watch the Pistons game later. too bad its on at 9, its gonna be a rough monday if i stay up for the whole thing.
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Now she'd sooner punch someone in the face than apologise for who she is. She is less concerned with the opinions of others and has the confidence to make decisions for herself based on what she wants.
Our self-images are made manifest in the way that we speak and the things that we say.
I read a study once about brain paths in regards to that.
It basically said that if you act or think in a certain way for long enough, it sort of causes 'ruts' in your brain paths. So when we say that it's hard to change the way you think, it's because it's physically hard.
Not impossible though.
If I can do it, anyone can!