So I've been in a real rut lately, feeling down, throwing pity parties and doing the self-loathing thing. That being said I think I will try to spin this and make it worthwhile. I made mention to a friend last night that some of the worst albums have the best cover art and not to be fooled. Sure, its only another wording for don't judge a book by its cover, and sadly the masses seem to still do this. Especially when it comes to dating. We all need some form of physical attraction to someone, but I feel it has become all too important.Ive met beautiful women who after getting to know became quite ugly. Ive seen people who would fit the stereotype of ugly and they have transformed into something of sheer beauty. Everyday I hear about how wonderful I am, yet here I am, alone, no significant other. I don't feel Im ugly, however I do carry a little more weight than I should. Perhaps its not my loos that prevent me from finding happiness but I know it contributes to some extent. The real thing holding me back is probably the fact that Im actually a nice person who gives too much of a shit. I know many women who go for the "bad boys" cuz they feel they can somehow save this person from their demons. Ive seen it all too many times..great women with nothing shy of assholes. When they finally give up on one, they move to the next, the next being another asshole with the same "save me" qualities. Stop trying to be heroes...its not gonna work. Is this a plea for someone to take a chance on me, the nice guy, well yeah slightly. But its more about wanting happiness and passing up on the obvious. Its never the kill, its the thrill of the chase, and I get that. But then why complain about it not going well? I don't know, my mind is racing now cuz this topic kills me. I felt maybe venting would help, I was wrong. More to come...Later SG
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eroticgeek:
I always feel like venting would help me get out of ruts as well. Frankly, it just makes me feel worse because it makes me actually see what is bothering me. I am not the best one on giving relationship advice, but I can tell you this. Not all girls want bad boys. Some of us want hopeless romantics with a soft side, yet who are still manly enough to rescue us if we are in danger or defend us if we are disrespected. Personally, I do not want a man that is quote unquote so bad that it creates drama in my life. I do not want someone is causing starting trouble or who is too possessive over me that it becomes as issue. I want to be cherished as a person, not a show piece. Luckily, I have found a guy that is all that for me. He has never really been in a real altercation, but he would never let anyone hurt or disrespect me. Do not stress so much about love. True love is so worth waiting for and it is true when they say there is someone out there for everyone. I agree with Sith, be yourself and find a decent girl who likes who you are not what you think you ought to be. From past experience I can say that nice guys, such as yourself, often have a lot going for them. They are intelligent, modest, kind, honest, and mostly importantly trustworthy. That is what girls really want. A real person. Not someone who tries to act like someone else. Personally, honesty and a sense of humor are two of the best qualities i think I man can possess. So do not worry dear, there is a girl out there for you. You will find her. Just stop looking so hard. Sometimes you just have to let things go with the flow and it will come to you. Cheer up there is nothing wrong with you as a person as far as I can tell. You seem like a genuinely nice guy and that is great. It will pay off for you in the end, I promise. 
throughnthrough:
ooo, diggin the new pic, guy! RAWRRR! 