just got back from a trip to sacramento to meet my state senators & assembly(wo)men. i'll try not to get into the political side of the trip as i'd probably bore you all to death. it was interesting -- fully aggravating yet enlightening at the same time.
so, the boyfriend is still here. i have tried several times to kick him out, always to no avail. still not sure that is a bad or good thing. blah. i go through phases where i wonder what it would be like to date again, not that i'm looking. nor that i have time. i suppose there are times i really take him for granted. most of all i like stabilty these days and a messy breakup would mean instability so i am going to wait awhile to deal with it. grrrr.
just a side note: single women are healthier and happier than their married counterparts, and the converse is true for men.
got asked by a friend today when *we* (me and the boyfriend) are getting married. it's hard to answer that question to most "traditional" women, who place marriage and bullshit white dress and wedding ceremony over all else. there are plenty of those in my med school class, and it makes me sick to watch them file into more "family oriented" careers while the men take over their spots in surgery and research. don't get me wrong. lifetime commitment is a beautiful thing, but so is hard science and a lifetime commitment to medical research and that's my priority...and it's not likely to change
besides, who said men can't fucking raise a kid. it's been done before.
speaking of career: i've found a potential phd lab, where i'd be doing work on glioblastomas (advanced brain tumors). exciting (ok, it's boring to the layperson, but it's exciting to me) stuff. i met with the guy monday and have the thumbs-up go-ahead from my md/phd mentor so it's nearly settled. and, thank god, i won't have to work with animals. yay for not chopping off mouse heads.
so, the boyfriend is still here. i have tried several times to kick him out, always to no avail. still not sure that is a bad or good thing. blah. i go through phases where i wonder what it would be like to date again, not that i'm looking. nor that i have time. i suppose there are times i really take him for granted. most of all i like stabilty these days and a messy breakup would mean instability so i am going to wait awhile to deal with it. grrrr.
just a side note: single women are healthier and happier than their married counterparts, and the converse is true for men.
got asked by a friend today when *we* (me and the boyfriend) are getting married. it's hard to answer that question to most "traditional" women, who place marriage and bullshit white dress and wedding ceremony over all else. there are plenty of those in my med school class, and it makes me sick to watch them file into more "family oriented" careers while the men take over their spots in surgery and research. don't get me wrong. lifetime commitment is a beautiful thing, but so is hard science and a lifetime commitment to medical research and that's my priority...and it's not likely to change
besides, who said men can't fucking raise a kid. it's been done before.
speaking of career: i've found a potential phd lab, where i'd be doing work on glioblastomas (advanced brain tumors). exciting (ok, it's boring to the layperson, but it's exciting to me) stuff. i met with the guy monday and have the thumbs-up go-ahead from my md/phd mentor so it's nearly settled. and, thank god, i won't have to work with animals. yay for not chopping off mouse heads.
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what makes you say this? it hits close to home for me at the moment, since I'm without my gf for a week and surprisingly lonely. I always thought I was happier when single, but perhaps you're right. Or maybe I just don't like having the trappings of single-ness without the freedom or opportunity to exploit it... in either case, I hope you and your bf are mostly happy, and that you realize how dorky and/or mean most guys are in real life. Keep that in mind when you think about how fun it would be to start dating again. That said, I've still got five days of bachelorhood, so come on over!
As for Kerry, if I had to boil it down to the defining traits of his jackassery, it'd be that he's spineless and unimaginative. It would have been so easy to take the offensive early in the campaign, but he let the iniative pass by and fought a ridiculous rear guard action the whole time. The problem was that most of the accusations the GOP hit him with, namely him being a flip-flopper and east coast snob... well they were true. He was a vulnerable candidate from the beginning based on his legislative history and his geographic origins. The only way he was going to win was by being very confrontational, very (by american standards) policy-oriented, and above all very decisive. He dropped the ball on every count. If he had said from day one: 'Yes, fellow citizens, I voted for the Iraq war, along with nearly every single democrat out there, but I was wrong, and I'll tell you why...' wow, well if he'd said that he would have avoided the worst of the GOP assault, and focused at least some media attention on the merits of the war. Instead, his stance on the war was essentially: 'ooh, bad war. no, good war. um, let's get some foreign reinforcements over there.' God, what a jackass. I could get into this a lot more, but I've got to get back to work.