Sorry Phaedra... I fell off the face of the planet for a few weeks there. Nice to know someone noticed 
Anyhow... I have a dilemma and prehaps the people around here have some insight.
Say your good friend is married, and has been for the last 4-5 years. You're also very good friends with the spouse. The relationship seems all good, but then on a drunken night out, things get a little sketchy and in a drunken haze you kiss one of them. Like a real kiss. Sure it starts out as a flirtive everyone's drunk kiss but after the first half second all you are thinking is I want to fuck this person. Never mind the gender, that's irrelevant. You feel guilty as all hell, but don't say anything as there was definately mutual attraction and it was completely out of the blue.
A few weeks pass, no one says anything.
Then you're out again with the one you kissed, and they confess that they've been fooling around. A lot. For a while. What happened between them and you was nothing compared to what else has gone on.
Time passes, and this knowledge is eating you up inside. Sure, you're part of the problem but knowing that your very good friend is in a relationship that is not true and is completely blind to it is killing you.
What do you do? You're good friends with both, but not being true to your friend in the first place by keeping the secret feels wrong. Rat-ing out the other by telling the secret and confessing your own issue betrays them. It sure feels like a no win situation.
How would you handle it?
Anyhow... I have a dilemma and prehaps the people around here have some insight.
Say your good friend is married, and has been for the last 4-5 years. You're also very good friends with the spouse. The relationship seems all good, but then on a drunken night out, things get a little sketchy and in a drunken haze you kiss one of them. Like a real kiss. Sure it starts out as a flirtive everyone's drunk kiss but after the first half second all you are thinking is I want to fuck this person. Never mind the gender, that's irrelevant. You feel guilty as all hell, but don't say anything as there was definately mutual attraction and it was completely out of the blue.
A few weeks pass, no one says anything.
Then you're out again with the one you kissed, and they confess that they've been fooling around. A lot. For a while. What happened between them and you was nothing compared to what else has gone on.
Time passes, and this knowledge is eating you up inside. Sure, you're part of the problem but knowing that your very good friend is in a relationship that is not true and is completely blind to it is killing you.
What do you do? You're good friends with both, but not being true to your friend in the first place by keeping the secret feels wrong. Rat-ing out the other by telling the secret and confessing your own issue betrays them. It sure feels like a no win situation.
How would you handle it?
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